{"id":17693,"date":"2020-02-23T06:34:00","date_gmt":"2020-02-23T14:34:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17693"},"modified":"2022-02-23T06:34:43","modified_gmt":"2022-02-23T14:34:43","slug":"tinder-messages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/online-dating\/tinder-messages\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Write Tinder Messages That Get Replies"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Crafting a great Tinder message isn’t always easy. But, dating apps have been around long enough that there are now finally some solid ideas about what works and what doesn\u2019t. But, it can still be tricky at first to know what to say to people you match with.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What makes an engaging conversation starter<\/a>? To some people, and in some ways, sending the first message online is more nerve-wracking than walking up to someone in a bar to start a conversation. So to make it just a little bit easier, here are a few suggestions on how to write a Tinder message that you’ll get replies to.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6 Suggestions for Writing Tinder Messages<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Don’t lead with \u201chey.\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you send a message that just says \u201chey,\u201d or \u201chi,\u201d or some version of what’s basically a wave, most people will ignore it. Women on dating apps receive a lot of \u201chey\u201ds with absolutely no follow-through. \u201cHey\u201d is not compelling at all, and doesn’t give the person receiving the message anything to go off of.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Utilize the GIF feature<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone loves a good GIF. Your mom loves them, your boss loves them, and chances are, a prospective date loves them. Send an Adele or Lionel Richie GIF and the recipient may just appreciate your pop culture reference enough to respond. If they don\u2019t, feel free to poke a little fun at your attempt. \u201cNot an Adele fan? I guess \u201cHello\u201d was a few years ago now\u2026\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask a question<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And we don\u2019t mean \u201chow are you?\u201d Ask an interesting question<\/a> that actually inspires a response. Are you bored at home and can\u2019t decide what to pull up on Netflix? Reach out with a real-life question. \u201cSo, I\u2019m browsing Netflix and have absolutely no idea what to watch. What\u2019s the best thing you\u2019ve been binging lately?\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anything along those lines will most likely get someone to respond, and hopefully also introduce a natural conversation about entertainment, which will lead to what you two may or may not have in common. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use their profile<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prove that you’ve read a bit about them and aren\u2019t just responding mindlessly to a hot profile picture. \u201cI really enjoy Harry Potter too! Who doesn\u2019t? What\u2019s your favorite book to movie interpretation?\u201d Or, \u201cI\u2019ve never been skiing and I\u2019m so impressed that you go so often. Did you grow up skiing?\u201d \u201cYou root for the Green Bay Packers but live in Seattle\u2014how\u2019d that happen? Are you from Wisconsin?\u201d \u201cHow did you decide you wanted to teach high school?\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Any part of their profile can be expanded upon in a Tinder message. Prove that you’re on the app to engage with people. It’ll invoke a response because people really like talking about themselves and will most likely take the time to respond if you ask something they care about.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spell their name correctly<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And use their name! Make sure your message doesn\u2019t sound like something you’ve copied and pasted to 100 different people on the app. \u201cHey, Samantha! How\u2019d you get so involved in the knitting community? I can\u2019t believe you handmade all of your Christmas gifts last year. That\u2019s incredible.\u201d Personalization is key when it comes to Tinder messages.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Using someone\u2019s name is a great touch, but make it even more personalized than that. Above all else, don\u2019t spell their name wrong. No one wants to talk to someone who spells their name \u201cBrittany\u201d while it clearly states that her name is \u201cBrittney.\u201d Double-check before sending the message off and it will make a difference. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Send the message at a good time<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

After work is the best time to message people on dating apps<\/a>. It\u2019s tough to receive a Tinder message at 11:00 a.m. while you’re at work because it\u2019s not easy to remember to respond later that night. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

By the time people are catching up on text messages and Instagram stories, your Tinder message may be lost in the shuffle. If you really have your eye on someone, make sure your timing is spot on. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Utilizing Tinder is a strange kind of science. If you want people to respond to your Tinder message, make sure you’re intentional, kind, and interesting\u2014just as you\u2019d like someone to be when messaging you. You can do it! Look at past messages that haven\u2019t received responses and don\u2019t make the same mistakes when trying to connect with someone new.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

*The Date Mix is owned by Zoosk, Inc. Zoosk, Inc. is not affiliated, associated, authorized, endorsed by, or in any way officially connected with Tinder, or any of their subsidiaries or affiliates. Tinder is a registered trademark of their respective owners.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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