Dating today has changed from the days of yore. We swipe right instead of exchanging handwritten love letters. We meet at bars instead of being picked up. We go dutch on dates instead of expecting the man to pick up the check all the time. And while dating etiquette needs to change with the times too, there are certain traditions, particularly those related to romance and respect, that never go out of style.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The truth is, the basic fundamentals of courting as a true gentleman are as true now than they were back in the days of \u201cDownton Abbey.\u201d It\u2019s been said chivalry is dead. But that doesn\u2019t mean it can\u2019t be resuscitated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are some tips on how to be a gentleman in the modern age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Be consistent. Give her your attention. Understand \u201cladies, first\u201d Don\u2019t make the connection all about sex. You\u2019re patient. You don\u2019t ghost or cling. Being a gentleman today doesn\u2019t have to be difficult. It\u2019s simply holding higher standards for yourself and making the effort to establish trust and intimacy within your connections. It means consistently demonstrating respect and attention towards the object of your affection so that you set yourself apart from the rest of the modern Neanderthals. P.S. Showing up with a bouquet of flowers doesn\u2019t hurt either.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Being a gentleman today doesn\u2019t have to be difficult.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":17712,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,885],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17711","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-dating-advice-men"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>Don\u2019t underestimate the power of consistency. If you say you\u2019re going to call her on Monday night, call her on Monday night. If you\u2019ve gotten into a habit of texting her every morning, save emergencies and the occasional lapse, keep texting her every morning. If you can\u2019t, let her know and tell her when you will contact her. The same goes for punctuality. If you say you\u2019ll meet her at the restaurant at 7:00, be there promptly for 7:00\u2014although earlier is better. Consistency helps build connection and trust within a relationship, as well as speaks volumes on how much you respect and value someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>This means shutting off your phone on a date. You\u2019re not checking for texts or emails, or the latest tweet. All of your attention should be on her, which also means consistent eye contact. No wandering eyes on the waitress, no looking around at the patrons or at your shoes during awkward silences. While you don\u2019t want to stare into her eyes all night without blinking, maintaining eye contact is an excellent indicator that you\u2019re actively listening to her and is the surest way of creating connection and intimacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>While understanding and adhering to \u201cladies, first\u201d might sound a tad traditional for modern dates, it\u2019s an underrated form of romance that\u2019s often neglected nowadays. \u201cLadies, first\u201d means opening all of the doors for her, and allowing her to leave or enter a car, a building, wherever, first. When being seated at a restaurant, allow her to go first. When ordering, have her request her meal first with the server. When do you lead? When there is a crowded place, such as a concert or a busy nightclub, and you clear the path for her, casually taking her by the arm. A gesture like this might not seem like a big deal, but it definitely helps make an impression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>While sex is an important and fun part of dating and relationships, a gentleman doesn\u2019t enter a connection pushing sex first. A gentleman doesn\u2019t ogle his date nor does he compliment her solely as \u201csexy\u201d or \u201chot.\u201d Don\u2019t turn every conversation into a sexually charged one, and not every texting session needs to lead to a sexting one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>A true gentleman is able to gauge the natural ebb and flow of his connection with his date. He\u2019s able to tune into her needs and pick up on her body language in order to make her feel comfortable and at ease. He doesn\u2019t rush the organic rhythm of the relationship, including sex and commitment. He knows the importance of cooling his jets so that he\u2019s able to forge an authentic connection with his lady. That means knowing when to lean in for a kiss or knowing whether you should suggest going back to your place for a nightcap. A true gentleman doesn\u2019t rush a woman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>A gentleman doesn\u2019t overstay his welcome, and will bow out gracefully if a connection is fizzling out. He won\u2019t cling onto a relationship that\u2019s no longer working or bother a woman after she\u2019s told him they\u2019re through. On the flip side, a true gentleman won\u2019t leave a woman hanging either. If it\u2019s time for a relationship to progress to the next level, he won\u2019t hesitate to make moves. And if he isn\u2019t feeling it, he will communicate his feelings and tell a woman that he no longer wishes to see her. A gentleman doesn\u2019t breadcrumb or ghost. He\u2019s honest and truthful, especially when the going gets tough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n