{"id":17739,"date":"2018-11-14T14:00:57","date_gmt":"2018-11-14T22:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=17739"},"modified":"2021-05-31T10:45:02","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T17:45:02","slug":"relationship-compatibility","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-compatibility\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Signs You Have Strong Relationship Compatibility"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

We\u2019ve all fallen hard for someone who wasn\u2019t right for us. It\u2019s a terrible feeling to find huge incompatibilities once the initial infatuation fades, but that\u2019s why you date. Of course, nobody\u2019s perfect, so how do you tell if a your partner\u2019s quirks are a happy coincidence or a sign that you may not have strong compatibility for a long-term relationship? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, it\u2019s not always clear, but there are seven signs to look out for that can help you figure it out. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. They share your interests.
\n<\/b>In a <\/span>2012 study<\/span><\/a>, psychologists Robert Horton and Matthew Montoya found that people are naturally attracted to people who are like themselves. Shared interests are a great early indicator of similarity in values and personalities. Do you both like the same types of music? Great. How about books? Even better. Sports teams? You get the picture. Shared interests correlate with shared backgrounds, experiences, beliefs, and tastes, all of which are great for predicting long-term compatibility. If things go south, at least you won\u2019t be saying you don\u2019t have anything in common. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. They share relationship responsibilities.
\n<\/b>A good partner is quick share relationship responsibilities. These can range from small  tasks like running errands or helping you through moments of need or stress. Life comes at us in waves, and the smartest of us know that we can\u2019t go it alone\u2014we need to lean on someone every now and again. If your partner is supportive in both big and small ways, it\u2019s a great indication that they\u2019ll treat you right in the long-term.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. They have a strong sense of self.
\n<\/b>Many committed couples begin identifying as a single unit soon after they get together. They\u2019ll wrap their identities together and lose their independence. They stop hanging out with their friends. They give up on their hobbies. For the record: this isn\u2019t healthy. It\u2019s important for people in relationships to maintain their identity and independence. This doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t be close and loving with your partner, but you should maintain your own personal goals, friends, and life. If the person you\u2019re dating exhibits a strong sense of self and independence early on, there\u2019s a good chance they won\u2019t fall into codependent patterns later.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. They have a good relationship with their money.
\n<\/b>In long-term relationships, given enough time the money conversation comes up. Being with someone who manages their finances well is a blessing, not to mention it shows self-control. Being with someone who doesn\u2019t\u2026 well, not so much. It can be difficult to tell how well someone handles their finances early on, but there are a couple things to look out for. A person with a good relationship with money should live within their means and not impulsively buy things, but also be willing to spend money on important things (and people) with grace.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. They include you while making plans.
\n<\/b>While it\u2019s important to maintain independence in your relationship, especially early on, it\u2019s also important that a long-term partner includes you in plans they make and the actual making of plans. This means they take into account your schedule and make sure you have a chance to invite your friends too. These small gestures are little signs of respect.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. They plan quality time\/dates with you.
\n<\/b>The early stage in the relationship is one of the most important times to get to know the person you\u2019re dating. It\u2019s important during this phase that the person you\u2019re dating makes time for dates and quality time for you two to get to know each other. Everybody has a busy schedule, but they need to make time. If they\u2019re not making time now, they\u2019re not going to later.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. They understand the importance of family.
\n<\/b>You don\u2019t pick your family, but you do pick how you treat them and what they mean to you. If somebody has a good relationship with their family, it\u2019s usually a sign that they know how to treat people, even when things get difficult. It also means that they\u2019ll probably treat you well. On the flip side, not everyone comes from a good family or kind and loving parents. If your partner has had to navigate a hard and complicated relationship with their family, and has come out stronger and wiser for it, that can tell you a lot too. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter what you\u2019re looking for or who you\u2019re dating, the most important quality in a partner is respect. That\u2019s the underlying principle of each of these signs. Remember nothing is for certain. These signs are just good guesses, but if the person you\u2019re dating respects you, that\u2019s always a good start.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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