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Ah, the phone call, once considered to be a common courtesy in dating etiquette has all but gone the way of the dodo. People really do prefer texting these days, and I mean <\/span>really<\/span><\/i> prefer. Oh, you\u2019re an old soul? Okay, well, you\u2019re probably going to have a tough time of it, but if phone calls are your thing you\u2019re going to have to get your phone etiquette straight. These are the things you need to know before calling someone you\u2019re newly seeing.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask first.
\n<\/b>The cultural preference has switched very firmly from calling to texting over the last decade, and it\u2019s not going back. It doesn\u2019t matter what reason they give for being busy. They most likely just don\u2019t want to talk, especially if you just connected online. If you met online, chances are they\u2019re chatting with many other people at the same time. Calls take time. What have you done to deserve preferential treatment? If you insist on calling, ask them if they want to talk before dialing them up. If they say yes, then go for it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t force it.
\n<\/b>If they say no to your request for a phone interview, I mean call, take it in stride and don\u2019t push it. They\u2019ve set a boundary. It\u2019s up to you to respect it or risk setting a bad precedent for the relationship, if they even decide to stick around.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pick a convenient time.
\n<\/b>If the person you\u2019re dating agrees to chat, then pick a time that\u2019s convenient for them. Nine-to-five probably isn\u2019t good, because they\u2019re working. Evening is probably best and schedule the time in advance. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Explain with humor why you want to talk on the phone.
\n<\/b>In an online dating connection where you have yet to meet the other person, you\u2019re likely going to be met with skepticism when you ask to chat on the phone, and you\u2019ll have to offer an explanation. Prepare something witty to say like \u201cjust wanted to make sure you weren\u2019t my coworker Steve trying to prank me. Ya hear that Steve?\u201d Or something funnier than that\u2026 It\u2019ll help take the pressure off the ask. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep it short.
\n<\/b>If you\u2019re getting on the phone to feel their vibe before meeting in person, keep the call short and sweet. In fact, no matter what your reasoning, keep it short and sweet. For whatever reason, people have a lot of anxiety about talking on the phone to strangers and for all intensive purposes between dates zero through three, you\u2019re a stranger. Most people aren\u2019t interested in talking on the phone, so chat as long as you need to and then sign off until the time of your next date.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

People get less reluctant the longer you date.
\n<\/b>Just because they don\u2019t want to talk on the phone now, doesn\u2019t mean that they won\u2019t want to later. Nowadays, talking on the phone is an act of intimacy more often reserved for close friends and family. If you end up dating this person long-term, you\u2019re almost guaranteed to talk on the phone, so if they say no upfront you\u2019re not SOL.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop looking down on texting.
\n<\/b>It\u2019s a popularly held opinion, especially among older generations that texting is a lower form of communication than chatting on the phone. Maybe so, but as The Dude said, \u201cThat\u2019s just like your opinion, man.\u201d Some people are great at texting, but take more time to warm up to talking to someone new. Others fall in love over text messages. If you look at text communication as a valuable part of your relationship you may be able to get over your need to talk on the phone with your date, at least until they\u2019re more comfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reevaluate why you need to talk to somebody on the phone.
\n<\/b>Why do you think you need to talk to the person on the phone before you meet them? It\u2019s pretty common now for people to take many months of dating before labeling the relationship and talking on the phone is definitely relationship behavior. Maybe you\u2019re worried that it\u2019ll be a waste of time because they don\u2019t talk how you expected when you meet them in person. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well listen up, everybody wants every relationship to go well, but that\u2019s why we have dating. You don\u2019t want to waste your time? Well, they don\u2019t want to waste theirs either. It\u2019s too early in the relationship to be making demands. Personally, when I was single (also now that I\u2019m in a relationship) I liked talking on the phone, but I didn\u2019t ask it of someone I just started dating, because I knew most people didn\u2019t want to. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talking on the phone with someone you just started seeing can be great, if you can get them to agree to it, but remember it\u2019s not the only way to get to know someone. Instead of fighting for a call, try to meet and get time together, that\u2019s the best way you\u2019ll get close and figure out if you like each other.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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