It\u2019s a Friday night and you\u2019re alone. Again. Maybe you\u2019re watching a cheesy movie alone on your couch and wishing you had a partner sitting beside who had just as much disdain for Adam Sandler as you do. Or maybe you\u2019re daydreaming of a romantic dinner for two that will end with mind-blowing sex. Basically, your thoughts revolve around how it would it to be, you know, not alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because, the truth is, you want to fall in love. Like that kind of Carrie Bradshaw \u201call consuming\u201d love. You\u2019ve got #couplegoals and you just need a plus one to do them with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But here\u2019s the thing. If you\u2019re too consumed with the idea of falling of love and thinking that singledom is some illness that you need a cure for, then you\u2019re seriously doing yourself a disservice. Here\u2019s how to enjoy and embrace the journey of being single and letting love happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Use This Time to Learn About Yourself Use This Time to Learn More About Who You Like Enjoy Your Own Company Keep it Positive Learn to Love YOU Your big, squishy heart deserves to find the best person to hold it. But don\u2019t make your quest for finding love distract you from the amazing journey you\u2019re currently on. Being single isn\u2019t a state of limbo as you wait for the love of your life to complete you. You\u2019re complete right now. So keep learning and loving you and your life, and before you know it, you won\u2019t be saying, \u201cI want to fall in love\u201d because you\u2019ll already be in love\u2014with yourself and\/or your perfect match!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Don\u2019t make your quest for finding love distract you from the amazing journey you\u2019re currently on. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":18046,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[987],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18038","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>Being single means you have more me time. There are too many people who try to find themselves in a relationship\u2014you don\u2019t want to be one of those people. Instead use this time to discover who you are. Do you have any untapped talents and passions that you’d like to explore? Are there any hang-ups or old patterns that you would like to investigate in therapy? Remember: despite what Tom Cruise said in Jerry Maguire<\/em>, no one completes you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Dating doesn\u2019t have to be a dreaded chore; it can be a fun activity that you do whenever you want to. How does it become fun? When you start viewing it as a learning experience instead of something you need to get through. Meeting new people and getting to know them allows you to decipher traits and tics in others that you like or don\u2019t like. Treat every date as an opportunity that allows you to get closer to who you\u2019re ultimately looking for. If it doesn\u2019t work out with a date, you\u2019ve just crossed another off the list. If it does, then, amazing! Keep on learning with this one until you\u2019re absolutely sure they\u2019re a keeper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Many people, especially single people, have trouble accepting and loving their own company. You could be in the middle of doing something super awesome, like, climbing Mount Everest or eating nachos with Beyonce, and you\u2019ll think, \u201cOh, this would be better with a partner!\u201d No! You can have a good time with yourself; in fact, you must. Learning to enjoy your own company is essential when it comes to self-confidence and security. When you learn to embrace and love your solitude, no matter what you\u2019re doing, then you will learn to love yourself and come to the understanding that you don\u2019t need someone to experience life with because you\u2019re your own best company.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Your vibe attracts your tribe. If you\u2019re focusing on what you don\u2019t have and the negativity of being single, then guess what? You\u2019re putting some bad energy out there, which will affect those around you. Also, you\u2019re putting out a \u201cI NEED TO FALL IN LOVE\u201d vibe, then, believe it: potential dates will smell that neediness and insecurity a mile away. Instead, focus on what you do have in your life. A fulfilling career, amazing friends, a loyal dog, Postmates\u2014whatever! Keep your energy positive and grateful, and you\u2019ll attract more of the good stuff, including love, in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>People can\u2019t love you if you don\u2019t love you. Love in all forms starts with self-love. During this time, figure out what that means to you. How can you treat yourself with more kindness and respect? How can you quiet the negative inner critic and replace it with your own personal cheerleader? If you\u2019re looking for a healthy relationship, a potential partner needs to know how you need to be loved. So it\u2019s up to you to figure that out. And then go show yourself that good lovin\u2019 first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n