{"id":18059,"date":"2019-01-13T14:00:09","date_gmt":"2019-01-13T22:00:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18059"},"modified":"2021-05-31T09:51:24","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T16:51:24","slug":"bad-first-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/first-date-tips\/bad-first-date\/","title":{"rendered":"What To Do After A Bad First Date"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all have our bad date stories. The internet is full of them. Maybe your date introduced you to their &nbsp;mom, who made you dinner and showed you baby pictures of them while they went to go play Grand Theft Auto. Or they showed up an hour late with no call or text and then got mad that you were mad. Or they put a stack of bills on the table and told the waiter that was their tip, but they\u2019d lose a bill every time they were dissatisfied. In these cases, it\u2019s pretty much perfectly fine if you never, ever speak to these people again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But sometimes bad dates aren\u2019t that bad. They might just be bad because you didn\u2019t quite mesh. You didn\u2019t feel any attraction, emotional or physical. Or maybe you felt awkward and said the wrong thing a couple of times. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bad dates happen for a number of reasons, but it doesn&#8217;t always mean the end. So how do you know when you have something worth salvaging and where do you go from there? Here are a few ways to move on after a bad date:&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">If You Didn\u2019t Feel the Spark and Neither Did They<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s pretty easy to know what to do in this situation. You might both text each other after the date, because you feel like you\u2019re supposed to\u2014but eventually the conversation will fizzle out, just like it did on the date. Or, if you\u2019re really lucky, the conversation will continue without any romantic context and you\u2019ll have made a new friend. <\/span><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>If You Didn\u2019t Feel the Spark, But They Did<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This situation can be a little uncomfortable. In this case, don\u2019t expect to end up gaining a new friend. It\u2019s best to be upfront and honest. If you end up getting a text after a bad date and it seems of a romantic sort, don\u2019t be afraid to say that you just weren\u2019t feeling it. Yes, it\u2019ll hurt them, but it\u2019ll hurt them way more when you\u2019ve been talking for days or even weeks before they find out that you\u2019re not into them. If they still want to talk after you\u2019ve said that you don\u2019t want to date, that\u2019s up to you if you want to continue the conversation or develop any sort of friendly relationship with them. But if that friendly conversation keeps becoming a little too friendly, kindly remind them you\u2019ve already told them how you feel. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If even after you\u2019ve been open and honest, your date still won\u2019t leave you alone, it\u2019s okay to stop responding. If they can\u2019t respect that you\u2019re not interested, you don\u2019t have to respect their responses with a response of your own. It\u2019s okay to not be into someone who isn\u2019t into you. And you shouldn\u2019t have to be strong-armed into a second date. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>If You Felt The Spark, But They Didn\u2019t<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Okay, this situation can really hurt. You think a date went really well and then suddenly you\u2019ve been ghosted. Or your date was kind enough to be honest and tell you that they just weren\u2019t interested. The best thing for you to do is be understanding and cut your losses. This wasn\u2019t the right person for you and that\u2019s okay. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&#8217;re fine just being friends with this person, then go for it. But if you&#8217;re really into them and would rather just walk away, that&#8217;s fine too. Take a page from Ariana Grande\u2019s book and say, \u201cThank you, next.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bad first dates happen to everyone. 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