{"id":18063,"date":"2019-01-14T01:00:39","date_gmt":"2019-01-14T09:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18063"},"modified":"2021-12-08T04:32:40","modified_gmt":"2021-12-08T12:32:40","slug":"text-after-a-first-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/text-after-a-first-date\/","title":{"rendered":"What to Text After a First Date: 5 Examples of What to Say"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Ah, the old ‘text after a first date’ scenario. You met a girl you liked, asked her out, and had a great first date. Now, the pressure is on to keep the momentum going. Sending a follow-up text is important if you want to see her again. It\u2019s your chance to be flirty, show off your playful side, and lay the groundwork for a second date<\/a>. But what should you say?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re wondering what to text after a first date, you\u2019re not alone. It\u2019s an intimidating text to send, but we can help. If you hit it off and want to see her again, here are examples of what to text a girl after a first date:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Text After A First Date: Examples to Bag a Second<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Make sure she got home safely.
\n<\/strong>To text, or not to text? Texting a girl after you see her is a hot topic that daters are divided on. If you hit it off and it feels right, a sneaky way to start a quick conversation before bed is texting to make sure she got home safely. Try saying: Let me know when you get home safely!<\/em> Or: Just wanted to make sure you got home safely. Have a good night!<\/em> You\u2019ll earn bonus chivalry points, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. If you had a great time on the date, tell her!
\n<\/strong>Those first date nerves you\u2019re feeling? She\u2019s feeling them, too. That voice in the back of your mind asking, Do you think she had a good time?<\/em> She\u2019s hearing it, too. So, if you enjoyed going out with her, you should tell her. You might assume it goes without saying, but it doesn\u2019t. Girls want to hear that you had a great time. Try saying: I really enjoyed getting to know you tonight. Thanks for such a fun evening.<\/em> Or: I had a feeling our date was going to be fun, but somehow, it was even more fun than I imagined. Thanks for spending your Saturday night with me.<\/em> It shows her that you\u2019re into her and helps lay the groundwork for a second date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Mention a specific part of the date that made you smile.
\n<\/strong>Call back to one of the funny, quirky, or unexpected moments of your date\u2014the ones that will put her back in the mindset of how much fun she had on the date, too. Try saying something like: I can\u2019t believe you\u2019ve never seen \u201cThe Godfather.\u201d I thought it was mandatory viewing for all humans.<\/em> Or: I can\u2019t stop chuckling about how our waiter pronounced the word \u201cgnocchi.\u201d I don\u2019t know how you kept a straight face the whole night.<\/em> It\u2019ll get her thinking about how much she\u2019d like to see you again. Which brings us to\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Tell her you\u2019d like to go on a second date.
\n<\/strong>Women don\u2019t like it when a guy wastes their time. After a first date, if you hit it off, she\u2019s inevitably thinking about the prospect of a second date. So, if you\u2019re feeling it, let her know that you\u2019d like to see her again\u2014and show her that you mean it by suggesting an idea. Try saying something like: I had a really nice time with you, and I\u2019d like to see you again. We were great at getting drinks, so I think we\u2019d really knock dinner out of the park. Are you free on Friday?<\/em> Or: I really enjoyed going out with you. I hope it\u2019s not too soon to ask you on a second date, because that\u2019s exactly what I\u2019m doing right now. How\u2019s Saturday night?<\/em> Women appreciate honesty and straightforwardness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. If you didn\u2019t have a great time on the date, it\u2019s okay to tell her that, too.
\n<\/strong>The only thing worse than being rejected is somebody wasting your time. You don\u2019t owe her a long explanation, but if you just weren\u2019t feeling the date, sending a courtesy text is much<\/em> better than ghosting her. Keep it short, simple, and polite. Try saying: I had a nice time with you tonight, but I just didn\u2019t feel a romantic connection. I wish you the best and if we ever run into each other again, I hope we can be friends.<\/em> Chances are, she feels the same way and will be relieved that you said something. If she doesn\u2019t respond kindly, you don\u2019t need to engage beyond that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sending a text after a first date is important. It might make you feel vulnerable, but don\u2019t be afraid to put yourself out there. Remember: confidence <\/a>is sexy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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