Breaking up is never fun. Even when it\u2019s the right thing to do, it still isn\u2019t easy. Breaking up in person is one thing. But when it\u2019s time to initiate a long-distance breakup, unfortunately, it\u2019s even harder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ideally, it\u2019s best to break up with someone in person. Your partner gets the benefit of your full attention, you can both say what you need to say, and hopefully, you can start to find closure together. But when you\u2019re in a long-distance relationship, that\u2019s not always possible. It might be weeks or months until you see each other again in person. And in that case, why put off the inevitable?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you can\u2019t wait and need to end it, here\u2019s how to handle a long-distance breakup the right way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you can\u2019t break up in person, at least do it over the phone. Give them a heads up that you want to talk about something. Know what you\u2019re going to say. Treat the actual breakup like any other breakup. Be extra patient with your partner. Find a way to get closure. There\u2019s an easy way (text) and a hard way (phone call) to end a long-distance relationship. While you might be tempted to take the easy route to get it over with quickly, it\u2019s best to take the high road and make the difficult phone call. It\u2019ll be uncomfortable, but in the end, you\u2019ll both be glad that you did.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It’s not the ideal situation for a break up, but there’s still a respectful way to go about it. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":79,"featured_media":18102,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[983,998],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18095","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-breaking-up","category-break-up"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>Breaking up with someone over the phone or via video chat will be uncomfortable. But when you\u2019re in a long-distance relationship, those are your best options; they\u2019re the next best thing to being there in person. Whatever you do, DON\u2019T break it off over text, email, or message. That\u2019s just bad form. The breakup should come from you, not your words on a screen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Obviously, you don\u2019t want to send a message that says, Just an FYI: I\u2019m breaking up with you tonight.<\/em> But you don\u2019t want to completely blindside them, either. Set the tone that you\u2019d like to have a serious talk; it\u2019ll plant the seed that not-so-great news is coming. Then, choose a time to call or video chat that\u2019s convenient for both of you. Don\u2019t call them in a rush before work or on your lunch break just to get it over with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>As twisted as it sounds, there are some advantages to a long-distance breakup. The main one is that you can prepare what you\u2019re going to say and stick to your script. Write down bullet points and keep them within reach so you don\u2019t forget them. If your emotions get the best of you and you start to reconsider, you\u2019ll have them as a guide to keep you on track.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Voice your opinions, talk about what\u2019s not working for you in the relationship anymore, and explain why you\u2019ve come to this decision. Then, give your partner the chance to respond and do the same. It might feel awkward since it\u2019s over the phone instead of in person, but if you have to do it, you have to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Getting dumped sucks. But getting dumped long-distance sucks even more. You shouldn\u2019t stay with them to spare their feelings, but it is a good idea to have a little bit of extra patience during a long-distance breakup. This is their last impression of you, and grace goes a long way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>After a long-distance breakup, at first, you might not feel any different. You\u2019re so used to being apart from your partner anyway, it might take some getting used to once you\u2019re actually broken up. To help yourself find closure, you could light a candle, write them a letter and never send it, or talk to a therapist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n