{"id":18179,"date":"2019-01-29T01:00:43","date_gmt":"2019-01-29T09:00:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18179"},"modified":"2021-05-31T09:48:20","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T16:48:20","slug":"how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Get a Girl To Like You: 7 No-Bullshit Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Most of us spend a lot of time contemplating love. Unfortunately, most of our knowledge on how to do it comes from a few dubious sources: friends, family, and the occasional blockbuster romance (think The Notebook). While occasionally, you\u2019ll stumble upon a good piece of advice, a lot of the stuff you\u2019ll hear amounts to ways you can trick someone into liking you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re looking for love or a lasting romantic connection, tricks and deception aren\u2019t going to cut it. The best advice is a banal platitude with a slight twist\u2014be yourself, but be the best version of yourself. I know you\u2019re thinking, <\/span>Sure, sounds good, but that doesn\u2019t mean anything,<\/span><\/i> so let\u2019s break it down into actionable steps that will help you catch the eye of the girl of your dreams.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Don\u2019t change yourself, but do try.
\n<\/b>To be in successful in love, you need a strong sense of self. That doesn\u2019t mean you have everything figured out, but at least you\u2019re working on it. Think of all the good people out there you wouldn\u2019t date, because you have nothing in common. Naturally, nobody is compatible with everyone else. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019d dating, it\u2019s important to be upfront about your values, passions, and pursuits, not say things or do things you don\u2019t believe in so it seems like you\u2019re  compatible with someone. That said, do clean yourself up, do try to be charming, but don\u2019t do so with the intention of tricking your love interest into an initial attraction that you\u2019ll figure out later. It won\u2019t work.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Focus less on the sex.
\n<\/b>Many people obsess over sex: the last time they had it, the next time they can. Sex is important to a relationship, but it\u2019s just one of many important components of a romantic connection. If you obsess over sex and make it your objective, you\u2019ll fail to see the person you\u2019re dating for who they are. Not to mention, people have a keen sense for when someone is only looking to use them for something. Focus on striking a connection. Usually, the rest falls in line.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Develop your non-dating life.
\n<\/b>You should be doing this regardless, but it will also help you out while dating. People love people who are passionate about their lives. You can bet you\u2019ll be dating better when your career improves, you practice hobbies, and have an active social life. All of these are markers of success and stability. Nobody has everything sorted out, but living a life you\u2019re excited about will attract high quality peopleu, not to mention make you happier on overall.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Improve your physical health.
\n<\/b>People underestimate the importance of physical health in overall life happiness, not to mention dating. Start by fixing your diet and exercising regularly. You\u2019ll notice improvements in your mood and the way your body feels almost immediately. I\u2019m absolutely not advocating striving to look like a magazine cover model, but you should strive to attain a healthy amount of muscle mass. The improvement to your psyche is guaranteed to help you in your dating life already, but a decent physique doesn\u2019t hurt either.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Get to therapy.
\n<\/b>This tidbit isn\u2019t because I think there\u2019s something gravely wrong with you. I recommend therapy to absolutely everyone, because we all have things that we\u2019re dealing with, and a therapist is the only person who is trained to help you through whatever those issues may be. Also, sometimes it\u2019s nice to just have someone you can air your trash to. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Additionally, if you have difficulty communicating or grappling with your emotions, a therapist can help you develop these skills. These are skills that will both improve your relationship with yourself and others you come into contact with, which includes people you date.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Share yourself.
\n<\/b>All of the other items on this list build to this one. If you want to make a meaningful connection with someone you have to be willing to be vulnerable. You have to be able to tell someone that you like them and risk rejection, you have to be able to say when you\u2019re scared, when you\u2019re excited, and you\u2019ll have to be able to talk about things going on in your life. You need to share the full picture of your life, because life is more than the pretty picture we create while we\u2019re dating. Often, we\u2019re not educated on good tools for emotional expression, which leads a lot of people to bottle up their emotions.But that\u2019s not how you make a deep connection. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Break the rules
\n<\/b>In life and in romance, people will always try to give you rules to live by. Many of those rules may be good guidelines, but life is full of unique situations and people. It\u2019s up to you to judge what course of action is right or wrong in any given situation with any given person. If you feel your date deserves to know about your ex, well, then share that. If you feel it\u2019s right to talk about your relationship expectations on the first date, that can be valid too. This is one of the more nuanced skills on this list, and you\u2019re only going to figure it out by practicing it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re dating remember that you\u2019re meeting a person, who\u2019s just as complex, deep, and important as you. It\u2019s sound silly to have to say something so obvious, but it\u2019s easy to forget, especially when you\u2019re certain you know what you\u2019re looking for. We\u2019re all diamonds in the rough that could use a bit of tender love and care. Do good by yourself and the people you date, and you\u2019ll find what you\u2019re looking for.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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