{"id":18530,"date":"2019-03-14T14:00:13","date_gmt":"2019-03-14T21:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18530"},"modified":"2021-05-31T09:31:24","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T16:31:24","slug":"why-dont-girls-like-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/why-dont-girls-like-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Don’t Girls Like Me? 5 Things You Could Be Doing"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

So you struck out again. It\u2019s been a long time (you don\u2019t even want to think how long it\u2019s been) since you\u2019ve met a nice woman who\u2019s liked you back, and now you\u2019re thinking it\u2019s personal. You can\u2019t help but wonder, \u201cWhy don\u2019t girls like me?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe you think you\u2019re not attractive enough. (I\u2019m sure that\u2019s not it). Maybe you think there\u2019s something inherently wrong with you. (I\u2019m sure that\u2019s not it, either). So what is it exactly?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

While every situation and every guy is different, here are a few things you could be doing, intentionally or not, that can interfere with your chances of finding love. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poor Communication <\/strong>
\n<\/span>Women love communicating. Whether it\u2019s casual, like touching base and asking them how their day is going, or it\u2019s more intimate, like expressing how you feel or revealing a deeper side of yourself, they want to hear from you. Yes, it\u2019s true that men and women have different styles of communication but that shouldn\u2019t stop you from trying to give a woman what she needs to the best of your ability. Clear and consistent communication is the key to a relationship from start to finish. If you don\u2019t have it, you\u2019ll never have one leave the ground. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sexting Way Too Soon  <\/strong>
\n<\/span>Want to push a woman away pronto? Start talking about sex right away. Unless a woman is sliding into your DMs because she simply wants a booty call, it\u2019s typically a turn-off when you start sexting right off the bat. And, yes, that includes unsolicited d*ck pics. If you\u2019re looking for a relationship, this is definitely the wrong way to go about it. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just Skating By <\/strong>
\n<\/span>Are you living your best life, or are you simply skating by? Women are attracted to a man who\u2019s passionate about life. They want someone who loves his job, who has interesting hobbies, and who is constantly looking for ways to grow and expand as a person. Essentially, they want someone with whom they can have an adventure. If you\u2019re someone who tolerates his job, but mostly hates it, and who spends his free time in his underwear playing video games, and has no ambition beyond what he\u2019s going to order on his Friday night pizza, then it\u2019s no wonder most women aren\u2019t too eager to join in. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not Stepping Up<\/strong>
\n<\/span>Dating has definitely changed. Men seldom arrive at a woman\u2019s door with flowers anymore, ghosting is a norm, and we can move onto the next person with a quick swipe on our phones. No wonder there\u2019s little effort being put into dates. But here\u2019s the thing: while women certainly crave, and deserve, equal footing in a relationship, they want to feel desired too. They want to feel like they\u2019re worth being thought of and considered when it comes to dating. They want some good old fashioned chivalry. What does this look like? It looks like planning a date from start to finish. Planning and confirming the date well in advanced (not on the Thursday night when you\u2019re supposed to meet up on Friday), making the necessary reservations for the restaurant and\/or show, and telling her how much you\u2019re looking forward to seeing her. Basically, it\u2019s showing some serious follow-through. And showing up with some flowers doesn\u2019t hurt, either. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not Loving Yourself<\/strong>
\n<\/span>Do you like who you are? Having a healthy self-esteem, which includes not only accepting where you\u2019re at in life but also looking to grow as a person, is attractive. If you don\u2019t like yourself, including your past and your current reality, then how can you expect another person to do the same? Love first starts with self-love. Too often people seek to fill the void in their life through another, which, while it might feel good initially, ultimately ends up being a superficial and unfulfilling connection. When you love yourself, you attract love. Real love. So before you start asking, \u201cWhy don\u2019t girls like me?\u201d you should ask yourself, \u201cDo I like me?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For the record: there is a woman out there who will like you, and who will want to date you. Just because some women aren\u2019t interested in you\u2014which they\u2019re entitled to by the way\u2014doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re undateable. But if you\u2019re striking out more often than not, it doesn\u2019t hurt to look at your life and your habits and see how they might be hurting you rather than helping you. You\u2019ll find that when you start to improve yourself and make small but impactful changes, love will enter your life. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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