{"id":18533,"date":"2019-03-11T08:00:55","date_gmt":"2019-03-11T15:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18533"},"modified":"2023-12-20T08:37:56","modified_gmt":"2023-12-20T16:37:56","slug":"opening-lines","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/online-dating\/opening-lines\/","title":{"rendered":"30 Opening Lines to Start a Conversation on Any Dating App"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

So you did it\u2014you downloaded a few dating apps. You\u2019re single and ready to mingle, or swipe, as it were. It seems like the matches are pouring in, but then you\u2019re left with a feeling of intimidation. What should you say? Who should you reach out to? Who is worth your time? <\/span>It can be intimidating. What to say? What to do? We can help. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are so many ways to strike up a conversation with someone. Dating apps can make it seem both harder and easier to start a conversation like that. It\u2019s hard to reach out to someone knowing you\u2019re both potentially attracted to each other, but the important thing is to remember that you should be yourself, be genuine, and not be creepy. Don\u2019t ask for too much identifying information or too many personal questions, especially if you\u2019re a man speaking to a woman.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Opening Lines to Avoid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You never want to get off on the wrong foot when sending the first message on a dating app, so it\u2019s best to avoid the cheesy, clich\u00e9, or unoriginal phrases that may result in an immediate turn-off for the other person.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. General Greeting\u00a0 \u2014 Using a general greeting like \u201cHey there\u201d or \u201cWhat\u2019s up?\u201d is so boring that it may not even elicit a response. You want to start with a genuine greeting to show you\u2019re truly interested.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Awkward Compliment \u2014 Immediately jumping into awkward phraseology and saying things like \u201cLooking fine\u201d or \u201cAren\u2019t you a cutie\u201d makes things weird from the beginning, so it\u2019s best to send earnest compliments over rash ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Outdated Clich\u00e9 \u2014 Saying odd one-liners that don\u2019t have any direct appeal to anyone, such as \u201cYou come here often?\u201d or \u201cYou must\u2019ve fallen from heaven,\u201d is probably one of the easiest ways to end a conversation before it even starts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Boring One-Liner \u2014 Saying something too basic, such as \u201cCool car\u201d or \u201cNice dog\u201d is just not the type of enthusiasm other singles want to see. Instead, they would rather you relate or elaborate on what you like about it in a complimentary way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Aggressive\/Creepy \u2014 Being too forward or lewd right off the bat is a huge no-no, even if it\u2019s saying something like \u201cSup cutie\u201d or \u201c You\u2019re hot.\u201d No one likes being objectified by someone they don\u2019t even know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Best Opening Lines to Start a Conversation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When making a first impression, you want to not only show your interest in your prospective match but also want to display your own personality in order to stand out amongst the masses. Remember, you never know how many options a match may be getting to know, so you want to say something that is both memorable and indicative of your character.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use Bits From Their Own Profile<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

One of the best and easiest ways to appeal to a match is by commenting on or relating to something in the profile pictures or bio they\u2019ve put on display. Here are some of the ways you can use this face-value information: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Compliment Their Smile \u2014 If someone\u2019s smile causes you to sincerely stop, take notice, and feel joy, let the person know! This can be a wholesome way of stating attraction without being weird.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Inquire About Hobbies \u2014 Take a look at what a match enjoys doing in their personal time and ask them about it, or, if you also partake in that activity, attempt to connect over it to make a connection straight away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Gush Over Pets \u2014 One thing many people can agree on is showing affection for pets, so letting a match know you like their dog, cat, or bearded dragon can go a long way. It then allows you to relate to your shared love for animals and proves you\u2019re a pet person.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Relate Over Travel \u2014 Everyone\u2019s explored different places, so whether you\u2019ve been to a place your match has visited or are curious about what traveling somewhere is like, you can strike up a conversation and ask about what their experience was like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Talk About Music \u2014 Everyone listens to music, and coming together over your love for a genre or artist can go a long way, even leading to future dates at a concert. Music is an easy, relatable topic that is always ripe for discussion and debate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Describe Their Energy \u2014 If you\u2019re looking to be more on the spiritual side, you can comment on the type of energy emitted by your match and why it draws your attention. Pointing out someone has radiant vibes or displays spooky qualities can show a sincere attempt to relate to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk About Your Shared City<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re searching for matches in online dating apps, you likely share at least one thing in common \u2014 your location. It may not be in the same city or neighborhood, but your range must be within physical reach for future encounters. Here are a few ways you can come together over your shared geographic location:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Discuss Shared Activities \u2014 If you see your match participating in an activity at a particular place you frequent or notice they\u2019ve been in or around your social scene, reach out and see if you have mutual connections or if you can do that leisurely activity together.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Ask About New Places \u2014 Noticing a match has been somewhere around town that\u2019s new or that you haven\u2019t visited yourself allows you to ask about how their experience was. Not only will this break the ice, but it also gives you insight for personal reference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. Relate Over Food Spots \u2014 Everyone loves eating, and since dating often revolves around grabbing a bite to eat, it\u2019s easy to talk with others about their favorite food destinations in the local area, especially hidden gems you can promote or discover.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. Discuss Outdoor Options \u2014 Many people enjoy a break from their home and work lives, and an easy way to revitalize the senses is to take a trip outdoors. If you see the other person is active, try discussing your favorite parks, hiking spots, or swimming destinations.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. Inquire About Past Residences \u2014 Not everyone is from the place they currently live, so your match may not be as familiar with an area as you are. However, it still provides an opportunity to ask about where they\u2019re from if you notice out-of-state photos or apparel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use References From Pop Culture<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

We are all constant consumers of various forms of media, and whether you\u2019re into movies, sports, literature, politics, or just online social media culture, it\u2019s likely you can connect over shared references, humor, or knowledge. Here are a handful of examples declaring how:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. Use Lines From Movies or TV \u2014 Unless you\u2019re anti-tech (which wouldn\u2019t land you on a dating app), everyone watches television and has favorite movies. If your match notes a favorite in their bio, try using an iconic quote to share your enthusiasm while remaining flirtatious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. Reference Memes \u2014 With internet culture purveying itself through every medium, it can be both comical and clever to use an applicable meme as an introduction. Be careful to not choose vague references, though, as your match needs to get the joke.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. Bond Over Sports \u2014 One of America\u2019s most unanimous cultural pastimes is sports, and if you\u2019re able to come together over local teams or a shared out-of-state fandom, this can become an instant connection. You can even bond over teams you both dislike!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. Comment About Current Events \u2014 If you notice your match is a big news person or volunteers in local initiatives, you can discuss local events and how their opinions or impacts on the situation will influence future endeavors. It can never hurt to be communicative about real issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

22. Utilize Trendy Lingo \u2014 There\u2019s a tone of niche verbiage these days when it comes to subcultures and certain fanbases, so capitalizing on certain terminology when it applies to something your match would understand is a huge power move.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

23. Comparison Icebreaker \u2014 Another simple way to get the conversation going is a comparison icebreaker. Asking, \u201cWhich Marvel character do you identify with?\u201d or \u201cWho\u2019s your favorite all-time player for [insert team]?\u201d is a good way to relate and see their creativity up-front.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

24. Ask for Opinion On Something \u2014 If you notice your match is into a particular shared subject matter that you\u2019re passionate about, ask their opinion on the matter and see what they say. Once the conversation gets rolling, you never know where it will go!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just Be Direct With Your Opening Lines<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s never a bad idea to be straightforward when first interacting with a match. After all, that\u2019s the way approaching a person in a physical setting would transpire, and you can be seen as more confident and proactive when doing so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

25. Point Out Funny Details \u2014 When you notice a quirky nuance on someone\u2019s profile, it can be fun to point it out. Showing you pay attention to detail or \u201cget\u201d something on their profile makes your match much more likely to respond in a friendly manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

26. Ask About Their Career \u2014 If you notice a match takes pride in their career or professional work life, asking them about it and showing interest in what they do will provide reassurance that you care about their lifestyle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

27. Confess Your Attraction \u2014 It\u2019s never a bad thing to be honest about your feelings for someone, and complimenting anyone on their beauty is a huge move that can also come across as too forward. Be sure to be praiseful while also respectful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

28. Address Interests Directly \u2014 When you notice you share something in common with your match, don\u2019t hesitate to take the opportunity to be vocal about it. Immediately pointing out your shared love for reading or fishing can streamline talking points and give you a common topic to bond over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

29. Request Advice \u2014 If you notice your match is a savant at a particular subject or may have certain advice on a hobby or travel idea, don\u2019t hesitate to ask them about it. They will feel appreciated for their knowledge and will likely give you advice on the matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

30. Pull Niche Quotes \u2014 Have an inclination that your match is into a certain author or film style? Don\u2019t resist dropping a reference to the topic! Your match will probably enjoy the fact that you took the time to notice and acknowledge something that\u2019s important to them.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Give Unsolicited Opinion \u2014 Whether or not they\u2019re asking, you can offer your opinion or expertise on a particular thing with the intention of hearing your counterpart\u2019s response. Being vocal and opinionated expresses character, which shows you\u2019re willing to be engaged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether you go funny, lighthearted, genuine, or simple, you\u2019ll make the right decision. Mix it up depending on the person you\u2019re talking to and remember to let the conversation flow as naturally as possible. You can do it!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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