{"id":18557,"date":"2019-03-12T08:00:50","date_gmt":"2019-03-12T15:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18557"},"modified":"2021-05-31T09:32:08","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T16:32:08","slug":"dating-tips-for-women-tired","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-tips-for-women-tired\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Dating Tips for Women Who Are Tired of Messing Around"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

We all arrive there at some point. We had a little fun casually dating or hooking up, but eventually we want something more meaningful and with long-term potential. <\/span>If you\u2019re in this place, you should know that you’re going to have to approach dating a bit differently. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some steps to ease you into a more serious dating scene. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Write a list of the characteristics you want in a partner.<\/strong>
\n<\/span>This is always a good tool when you begin wanting to date seriously again. Do you want someone kind? Generous? With kids? Who regularly attends church? Write up a list of about 10 aspects you\u2019d want in your ideal partner. Once you have that first draft, cross out anything that isn\u2019t values-based. Like if you wrote \u201cmassive biceps,\u201d cross that out. You aren\u2019t likely to date someone long-term whom you don\u2019t find attractive, so that\u2019s not necessary. Instead focus on what values and goals you care about. Studies show that couples with shared values and goals have staying power, so that\u2019s what you want to suss out first. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evaluate yourself based on the list you wrote.
\n<\/strong>This is the hard part. If you want someone who attends church regularly, do YOU attend church regularly? What about someone who has a core friend group? Do YOU have that? We can\u2019t go fishing for men or women who have qualities we don\u2019t already have, so if that\u2019s what you want in a partner, make sure you get it and are doing it yourself first. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be clear upfront.<\/strong>
\n<\/span>Once you\u2019ve done the first two steps, it\u2019s time to get out there. Wherever you meet someone, be clear about what you\u2019re looking for and don\u2019t accept dates from people who aren\u2019t explicitly looking for the same thing. It\u2019s easy to get lost in someone\u2019s beautiful eyes and think, \u201coh, they say they don\u2019t know what they\u2019re looking for, but I\u2019m sure once we go out, they\u2019ll want something more!\u201d Nope. Then you may get stuck developing feelings for someone who may not be ready for a relationship. Ditto for people in town for a short time. A lot of people use dating apps to pass the time while they\u2019re traveling. You don\u2019t, again, want to spend any of your precious time with someone where there\u2019s little likelihood of something more developing. Not to say that long-distance relationships aren\u2019t possible, but they\u2019d be guaranteed to be difficult if they were long-distance from the very beginning and you\u2019d have to be mindful if that\u2019d even be a possibility for you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take it slow.<\/strong>
\n<\/span>After you\u2019ve been single for a while, it\u2019s super easy to commit to something sooner than you really should. You may want to go on a couple of dates with a couple of different guys or gals at the same time (as long as you\u2019re clear with all of them) to hinder you from focusing too much on just one. Or if you pick one early to focus on, space out the times you see each other. Once or twice a week is a good rule of thumb as you\u2019re starting out. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t give up.<\/strong>
\n<\/span>It\u2019s not likely you\u2019re going to find your next spouse with the first person you develop something with after choosing to stop messing around, so keep at it regardless of what happens. Whether you have a bad date or someone turns out not to be who you thought they were or you think it\u2019s right and it\u2019s oh so wrong, just remember that there\u2019s hope. You may need to re-evaluate your first list. You may need to do some more work to make sure YOU match your list, or you may need to follow your gut more. Choose to make every experience a learning one, pick yourself up, and keep at it!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The casual\/single life is super fun, but we can all reach our limit. After being wild for a bit, it can feel a little like you\u2019re a newborn horse trying to walk on new legs switching gears from casual to \u201cI want a partner\u201d mode. But it IS possible and doable. Just ease yourself into it and you’ll be fine. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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