{"id":18564,"date":"2019-03-16T14:00:09","date_gmt":"2019-03-16T21:00:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18564"},"modified":"2021-05-31T09:30:45","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T16:30:45","slug":"complicated-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/complicated-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Complicated Relationships That Are Easy to Fall Into"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u201cIt\u2019s complicated.\u201d We\u2019re all aware of the Facebook relationship status, and, of course, the Meryl Streep\/Alec Baldwin film. But what does it mean?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Complicated relationships are not only diverse in what they actually mean but they\u2019re also more the norm now than a good ol\u2019fashioned uncomplicated relationship. Think about it: situationships seem to be the name of the game in the dating world today until someone finally decides to leave the situation or step up to make it official.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So which complicated relationship are you in? Because if you\u2019re not officially a couple, I hate to break it to you, but your relationship status is probably complicated. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Friends With Benefits (FWB) Dating<\/a><\/strong>
\nWell, this one is pretty clear. You\u2019re both friends who are horny and who have decided that it\u2019s okay to sleep together without strings attached. The only drawback to this is the longer you reap the \u201cbenefits,\u201d the harder and more complicated it will be to stop because inevitably one of you will catch feels and\/or fall for someone else, and then you can pretty much kiss your friendship good bye.  <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. The Situationship<\/strong>
\nYou\u2019re not technically a couple but you both act like it. You sleep together, hang out together, and are each other\u2019s emotional support systems but you\u2019re not a couple. This is usually because one of you is hesitant to label what you\u2019re doing. Maybe they\u2019ve just gotten out of a relationship, maybe they don\u2019t want to put their eggs all in one basket\u2014but whatever it is, you\u2019re stuck in a situation that has little chance of becoming official. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. The Secret Relationship<\/strong>
\nMaybe you work together or maybe one of you is involved with someone else, or even married. Whatever it is, you have to keep your relationship hush hush. While there\u2019s a certain excitement to a secret relationship<\/a> in the beginning, there are a few huge drawbacks. Mainly it prevents you from developing true intimacy because you can\u2019t be open about it and date normally. Also, if you\u2019re keeping it a secret, it\u2019s probably because it will damage relationships with other people once its found out, and lastly, it can make you feel bad about yourself. Hiding something as significant as a relationship can make you feel insecure, stressed, and fearful, which doesn\u2019t bode well with the other connections you have in your life. Besides, you\u2019re worth being in a relationship that can be shared with the world. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. The Comfortable Relationship<\/strong>
\nThis is neither good or bad, but something about it does feel off. Chances are you\u2019ve been together for a while and fallen into a comfortable rhythm with each other. The spark has been dimmed for some time, and you\u2019re more like roommates than lovers. You\u2019re not growing together, you probably spend more time apart than anything, but you stay together out of convenience. Maybe you\u2019ve got a mortgage and\/or kids, or maybe you\u2019re just too scared to be single again. Whatever it is, you\u2019re remaining stuck in a rut and you\u2019re not your best self and neither is your partner. Yet you stay because\u2026well, you tell me why. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Ex Sex<\/strong>
\nYou\u2019re technically broken up, but you still hook up all the time. Or at least whenever one of you is feeling lonely. If you\u2019re not hooking up, you\u2019re still in constant contact with one another, and you probably have a dozen excuses as to why you need to still be in each other\u2019s lives. The truth is, one of you, or both, is having trouble letting go, and until you rip off the bandaid, you run the risk of never fully releasing and grieving the relationship, and having a mishmash of confused feelings. Not to mention it will become a jumbled mess whenever one of you decides you want to date other people. Because technically you can but then you\u2019ve got this ex in your life, and just try to explain that arrangement to a new partner without it becoming a \u201cthing.\u201d Sheesh. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Not in a Relationship\u2026 Yet<\/strong>
\nThis is the grey area when you just met someone. You like each other, you text, you talk, and you might even see each other occasionally, but\u2026 you\u2019re not in a relationship. Yet. You\u2019re still feeling each other out. Maybe one of you needs to be a little more certain than the other. Whatever the reason is, you feel like you\u2019re in a relationship, and it\u2019s probably going that way, you just gotta let it cook a little. One of you is probably more anxious than the other about the title, but letting things play out will hopefully land you in official status rather than a dreaded situationship. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re in one of the above complicated relationships, it\u2019s best to take the time to ask yourself: is this something you really want? You should never settle for crumbs when it comes to your heart. Life is complicated enough; ask for clarity and certainty, and you\u2019ll no doubt find it when the time is right.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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