{"id":18569,"date":"2019-03-17T14:00:30","date_gmt":"2019-03-17T21:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18569"},"modified":"2021-05-31T09:30:26","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T16:30:26","slug":"first-dates-can-go-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/first-date-tips\/first-dates-can-go-wrong\/","title":{"rendered":"9 Ways First Dates Can Go Horribly Wrong"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Have you ever noticed that you hardly ever hear great first date stories? That\u2019s because great first dates are, frankly, a little bit boring. They\u2019re wonderful for the people involved, but there\u2019s nothing particularly interesting about them. The <\/span>real<\/span><\/i> good stories we like to hear are about first dates gone horribly wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not to freak you out, but there are so many ways a first date can go wrong. We\u2019re not saying that any or all of these will happen to you on your next first date. But if you\u2019re prepared for what <\/span>could<\/span> potentially happen, you won\u2019t be too crushed if it actually does. Here are nine things that often go wrong on first dates that can make things seriously awkward.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. You got your signals crossed about where or when you\u2019re meeting.
\n<\/b>It\u2019s happened to all of us: Someone wrote down the wrong day, mixed up the time, or went to the wrong movie theater. Even if nobody meant to stand somebody up, it can still be hard to recover from a botched first attempt and might make you throw in the towel before a second.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. They\u2019re not what you expected.
\n<\/b>You\u2019ve heard horror stories about people who don\u2019t look anything like their online dating profile pictures. But when it actually happens to you, it can feel like a huge shock. If possible, resist the urge to ditch the date right then and there\u2014even though it might make you feel lied to and misled.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Someone did too much pre-date research.
\n<\/b>These days, it\u2019s pretty easy to find out everything\u2014and we mean <\/span>everything<\/span><\/i>\u2014about somebody before you meet them. Think about it: Have you ever looked someone up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and\/or LinkedIn before a first date? Or googled them to see what comes up? Of course you have. We all have! But when someone does too much pre-date research, it detracts from the getting-to-know you period and dulls the spark.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. You had different expectations for the date.
\n<\/b>There\u2019s nothing worse than not being on the same page as somebody. It\u2019s perfectly normal to want a date to go well, but when someone\u2019s hopes are too high, it can come off as desperate and creepy. Alternatively, when someone puts little to no effort into the date, it\u2019s disrespectful. Unfortunately, there\u2019s no way of knowing how your dating styles will mesh until you actually meet up IRL.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Someone couldn\u2019t put their phone down.
\n<\/b>This should go without saying, but sadly, it still needs to be said: You shouldn\u2019t have your phone out during a date, period. And it shouldn\u2019t be constantly buzzing or lighting up, either. Put it on silent and don\u2019t check it. Anything else is considered rude.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. You misread the situation.
\n<\/b>You thought it was a date, but he thought it was a friendly hangout. You thought it was casual drinks, but she thought it was a sit-down dinner. Sometimes, even the most seasoned daters can misread the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Someone clearly isn\u2019t over their ex yet.
\n<\/b>How will you know if your date isn\u2019t over their ex yet? Don\u2019t worry\u2014they\u2019ll tell you. Bringing up an ex once is okay if it relates to the conversation. For example, if asked, \u201cWhat made you move to Australia for a year?\u201d it\u2019s normal to respond with, \u201cMy ex got a job working with koalas there.\u201d But if someone keeps bringing up their ex for seemingly no reason at all, even if they\u2019re not aware they\u2019re doing it, it can seriously bring down the mood.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. You have absolutely nothing to talk about.
\n<\/b>You don\u2019t like the same music, you don\u2019t watch the same TV shows, and your jobs couldn\u2019t be more different. Sometimes, no matter how much chemistry two people have online, they can have absolutely nothing to talk about in person.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Someone is too aggressive.
\n<\/b>If someone goes in for a hug or a kiss that is neither welcome nor reciprocated, it can ruin even the best of dates. It\u2019s not a great note to end the night on, and it doesn\u2019t bode well for a second date.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

These first date mishaps are awkward, but they\u2019re not all total deal breakers. If a relationship is worth pursuing, it can overcome any of these road bumps. And if things work out, you\u2019ll have a funny \u201chow we met\u201d story to tell for years to come. Because everybody loves a bad date story.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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