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What makes you a successful dater? If you\u2019ve asked yourself this question, you\u2019re not alone. A lot of us wonder what we can do to improve our chances of finding love. Common things that crop up include having a good job, dressing well, getting in shape, or knowing how to be charming and flirty over text<\/a>. But, while these things can help, none of them will give you the boost that improving your positive self-talk will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, what is positive self-talk exactly? In this article, we\u2019ll take deep dive into what self-talk is, what negative and positive iterations of self-talk look like, how each of these can affect your relationships, and finally, what you can do to improve your self-talk. Let\u2019s get into it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Okay, What Exactly Is Self-Talk?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Self-talk is a new-fangled term for a pretty straightforward concept. Simply put, self-talk means talking to yourself<\/a>, whether that\u2019s via the internal monologue in your head or words that are spoken aloud. Almost everybody practices some form of self-talk, whether it\u2019s mumbling shopping lists under your breath while browsing a supermarket, or berating your foolishness for thwacking your little toe against the coffee table for the third time that afternoon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, there are two kinds of self-talk: positive and negative. We\u2019ll be looking at the latter first, and the impact it can have on your love life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Is Negative Self-Talk?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The example in the previous paragraph is negative self-talk; that is, insulting yourself, scolding yourself, and putting yourself down. Negative self-talk is easy to do, and most of us will have done it at some point. Who hasn\u2019t lost their keys and called themselves an idiot, or woken up with a hangover and berated themselves for their overindulgence? It\u2019s human to scold ourselves when we make a mistake, yet to do this too often can cause problems with our self-image.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Does Negative Self-Talk Affect Relationships?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Too much negative self-talk can lead to a decrease in our self-confidence<\/a> and self-belief over time. Do it often enough, and you may begin to truly believe the things you\u2019re saying \u2013 that you\u2019re an idiot, that you\u2019re not good enough, that you\u2019re unlovable. And, naturally, this can impact your relationships hugely. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

With your confidence at a low point, you may become more stressed about whether your partner still loves you and if you\u2019re good enough for them. These insecurities can put a heavy strain on relationships, and even lead to breakups.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples of negative self-talk<\/h3>\n\n\n\n