{"id":18714,"date":"2019-04-01T14:00:24","date_gmt":"2019-04-01T21:00:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18714"},"modified":"2021-05-31T09:11:43","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T16:11:43","slug":"break-up-lines","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/break-up\/break-up-lines\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Break Up Lines That Are Brutally Honest"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Breaking up with someone is never an easy thing to do. But when you\u2019re done, you\u2019re done. Since sugarcoated lines and ghosting only leave things open for interpretation, why not take the honest approach? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBrutal honesty is how you end a relationship for good,\u201d dating expert and author, <\/span>Amy North<\/span><\/a>, tells The Date Mix. \u201cThis is especially useful if you\u2019ve been in a grey area between being together and being broken up. It\u2019s also great for when you\u2019re dumping them because they haven\u2019t been treating you right or living up to their promises.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Break up lines that are brutally honest cut right to the chase. These lines leave no doubts as to where things stand between you two. So if you\u2019re looking to end things for good, here are some brutally honest break up lines you can use. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI don\u2019t like who I am when we\u2019re together.\u201d
\n<\/b>Good partners will bring out the very best in you. This break up line implies that your partner is doing the exact opposite of that. It\u2019s also pretty effective because there isn\u2019t really a good counter argument for this. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow can someone come back and say, \u2018No, this angry and hurt version of you is the best version of you?\u2019\u201d <\/span>Kevon Owen<\/span><\/a>, relationship expert and clinical psychotherapist, says. \u201cThat doesn’t work.\u201d That\u2019s what makes this brutally honest line perfect. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m just trying to do what\u2019s right for me.\u201d
\n<\/b>Think of this is as the more direct version of, \u201cIt\u2019s not you, it\u2019s me.\u201d This doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that you don\u2019t love your partner. It just says you love and value yourself and your needs more. It\u2019s a good line to use when you and your partner are not on the same page. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMost of us sugarcoat the truth in a break up and talk about how this is \u2018better for both of us,\u2019\u201d dating coach, <\/span>Connell Barrett<\/span><\/a> says. \u201cBut owning up to the fact that this is about what\u2019s best for YOU and not the other person, is bracingly honest.\u201d It\u2019s also a line that will help to reassure you that you\u2019re making the right decision. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cPlease don\u2019t call me.\u201d
\n<\/b>An easy throwaway line people like to use to soften the blow is, \u201cI hope we can still stay friends.\u201d But if you\u2019re really done with a situation, there\u2019s no need to pretend otherwise. If you do, you\u2019re only giving the person you\u2019re dumping false hope. It may be painful to hear. But it\u2019s in your best interest to just be direct about what you want moving forward. That way, you both can make a clean break and move on. Nobody is left hanging. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m not in love with you anymore.\u201d
\n<\/b>Sure, it\u2019s painful to hear. But this line is not only brutally honest, it\u2019s also pretty kind. According to Barrett, beating around the bush and saying, \u201cI still <\/span>care<\/span><\/i> about you, but I can\u2019t be with you,\u201d can be confusing. It can leave the other person feeling like maybe there\u2019s a chance in the future. <\/span>Telling them that the romantic love you felt is gone may be hard to do, he says, but it gives them \u201cthe gift of clarity.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhen I envision my future, I don\u2019t see you in it.\u201d
\n<\/b>Maybe you\u2019re in two different places in your lives. Maybe there\u2019s an incompatibility issue you don\u2019t think will resolve itself over time. Regardless of the reason, this break up line says that you\u2019re ready to move on. It\u2019s also an honest and clear way to say you don\u2019t believe this relationship is going to work out long-term. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m still in love with my ex.\u201d
\n<\/b>According to Barrett, being honest doesn\u2019t only mean calling out your partner on their issues or mistakes. It also means being self-aware enough to state your own flaws. Although this isn\u2019t an easy one to hear, it\u2019s honest and it\u2019s on you. Your partner can walk away knowing that this had nothing to do with them. Sometimes that can really make a difference. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI deserve better.\u201d
\n<\/b>Everyone deserves to be with someone who appreciates them and makes them feel loved. If your partner doesn\u2019t make you feel that way, let them know. Telling them that you deserve better is honest and empowering. It\u2019s line that reminds both you and your partner that you\u2019re worthy and deserving of so much more. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you can see, honesty is the best policy. But there is one thing to keep in mind. Being brutally honest doesn\u2019t mean being hurtful. It means stating your truth in a way that\u2019s clear and direct. There\u2019s a difference between, \u201cYou\u2019re a sucky person\u201d and, \u201cI don\u2019t think you\u2019re the right person for me.\u201d After all, they\u2019re still a person with feelings. So, be honest and direct. But most importantly, be nice. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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