{"id":18836,"date":"2019-04-16T01:00:10","date_gmt":"2019-04-16T08:00:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18836"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:52:27","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:52:27","slug":"dirty-talk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/dirty-talk\/","title":{"rendered":"Dirty Talk Like a Champ: 6 Tips and Examples"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If your sex partner wants you to seduce them between the ears, but you don\u2019t know what to say, chances are you\u2019re not inept. You probably just haven\u2019t learned the basics. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like any other skill, dirty talk can be learned, practiced, and perfected. Well, maybe not perfected, but if you follow these tips you can definitely get good enough to please all but the pickiest of partners.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get comfortable saying dick and pussy. (Or not!)<\/b>
\n<\/b>To succeed at turning on your partner with x-rated filth, you need to let go of any feelings of awkwardness or embarrassment over saying words like \u201cdick\u201d and \u201cpussy.\u201d That doesn\u2019t mean you have to say those exact words\u2014that\u2019s up to you and your partner\u2014but no matter what you say it will most likely be something that\u2019ll take some getting used to. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel silly saying \u201ccock\u201d or \u201cslut\u201d or whatever word your partner wants you to say, just remember that you\u2019re speaking to an audience of one and your partner\u2019s reaction is the only reaction that matters. As soon as you hear their first \u201coh, yes!\u201d in response to that silly-sounding word, any discomfort you felt will melt away leaving only joy and pleasure behind.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Describe what\u2019s happening.
\n<\/b>Being descriptive is Naughty Talk 101 and it\u2019s a great way to test the waters, especially if your partner is unable to tell you exactly what flavor of risqu\u00e9 remarks they have in mind. Simply say what you\u2019re going to do, what you\u2019re doing and what you just did.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s a basic, yet effective example:<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you\u2019re going to do: <\/span>I\u2019m going to fuck you like crazy.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you\u2019re doing: <\/span>I\u2019m fucking you like crazy.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you just did: <\/span>I just fucked you like crazy.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The genius of being descriptive is that it doesn\u2019t require much thought or planning, and assuming your partner likes what you\u2019re doing in bed, it guarantees that you\u2019re talking about something that turns them on.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Express your desire.
\n<\/b>In most cases you also can\u2019t go wrong telling your partner how much they’re revving your engine. You\u2019re probably familiar with clich\u00e9 phrases like, \u201cI want you so bad,\u201d and, \u201cYou make me wet.\u201d These lines are clich\u00e9s for a reason: they work. And the reason they do is that many, many dirty talk aficionados enjoy hearing about your pleasure, especially when you make it clear that they\u2019re the source of it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar alternate lines include, \u201cYou\u2019re so sexy,\u201d \u201cI love your (fill in the blank),\u201d and even, \u201cI\u2019m so lucky to be with you.\u201d These are different spins on the same basic idea\u2014you\u2019re giving compliments or saying they\u2019re out of your league as a way of expressing your own desire.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use commands.
\n<\/b>Many people who like smutty speech also enjoy being bossed around a little. If your partner is one of them, the key to sexy commands is to make them simple, clear, and definitive like, \u201cTurn around,\u201d or, \u201cBend over.\u201d The main thing you don\u2019t want is to be too verbose or think out loud by saying something like, \u201cI think I want to touch your back, so maybe you should turn like this? Or maybe just turn around? Oh yeah, that\u2019s nice.\u201d If your partner wants to be dominated, nothing will kill the mood faster than a lot of extraneous talk, so keep it short and salty.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consider role play.
\n<\/b>Role playing requires a bit of prep to do well, but if your partner wants it, why not give it a go? Once you know your partner\u2019s fantasy\u2014and, yes, you do need to get this info. from your partner, there really is no other way\u2014create some stories. You don\u2019t have to write a novel, but you shouldn\u2019t be thinking up ideas in the moment, either. The perfect balance is to outline the basics: <\/span>I\u2019m the teacher. He\u2019s my student. I\u2019m punishing him for a late homework assignment. He\u2019s turned on but thinks it\u2019s wrong.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then when it\u2019s time for action, remember that this is dirty talk, not dirty act-out. Start by laying out your pre-planned scenario. For example, if it\u2019s a doctor\/patient thing, you can say, \u201cYou\u2019re a doctor and I\u2019m the patient.\u201d Then, once the scenario is clear, go back to the basics\u2014what you\u2019re going to do, what you\u2019re doing, and what you just did\u2014but say everything in character. Like, \u201cI\u2019m going to give you an exam. Now I\u2019m putting my fingers on your…\u201d You can take it from there. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The most important part of role play is that, unless your partner asks you to stop, you should never break character. If your partner digs the role play, they\u2019ll want to stay in the scene until the main events are over. So even if you need to pee, don\u2019t just say that. Instead, tell your patient that the doctor needs to step out but will be right back.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be afraid of repetition.
\n<\/b>At a party saying the same joke over and over is irritating but when you\u2019re naked, repeating the same vulgar phrase can be utterly delightful. If a certain word or phrase is turning your partner on, go ahead and say it again. Or if you partner enjoys a specific naughty story or scenario, like hearing about your past exploits, it\u2019s fine to reference a specific hookup again and again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re not a sex robot (unless you are, see previous tip about role play), so be sure to mix in some other phrases or add new racy details to refresh a favorite fantasy, but also don\u2019t be shy about putting the greatest hits on repeat. After all, they\u2019re called greatest hits for a reason. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now that you\u2019ve got a few ideas for what to say and how to say it, it\u2019s time to test out your new knowledge. Like any other sex act, dirty talk is a skill. And while it may come naturally to some, for most people it requires practice, including a bit of trial and error as well as tips and feedback from your partner. There\u2019s just no better way to learn fast and get really good at saying raunchy, x-rated, off-color smut than to open your mouth and do it.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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