{"id":18952,"date":"2019-05-04T01:00:19","date_gmt":"2019-05-04T08:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=18952"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:48:08","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:48:08","slug":"flirty-conversation-starters","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/flirty-conversation-starters\/","title":{"rendered":"Flirty Conversation Starters to Help Break the Ice"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You like someone. The cute girl you make small-talk with at the office printer. The blue shirted guy at the bar with the knock out smile. The nice guy you grew up with, who you\u2019ve started to see in a whole new light. Or the hot girl you matched with online who shares your love of dogs. You wonder: do they like you too? And if they don\u2019t yet, could they?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you’re into someone, it can be a tricky dance at first. You want them to know you like them, but you don\u2019t want to expose yourself to potential rejection and embarrassment. Well, you have two choices:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Wait for them to be spontaneously enlightened about how into them you are.<\/li>\n
  2. Extend a flirtatious olive branch and open up a window of possibility.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Here are six flirty conversation starters you can throw into everyday conversations, either online or in real that, that are suggestive enough to spark romance, but safe enough to protect your dignity.<\/p>\n

    1. Give a compliment on their appearance.
    \n<\/b>What you mean: I want to see you naked
    \n<\/b>What you say:
    \n\u201cThat shirt looks fantastic on you.”
    \n\u201cWow, your eyes are amazing.\u201d
    \n\u201cWell with arms like yours\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

    Complimenting someone’s appearance says you see them as an attractive being, and puts a sexual spin on whatever is between you. And if it turns out they’re not into you, you\u2019ve done no wrong in dishing out a genuine compliment.<\/p>\n

    2. Ask if they’re attached.
    \n<\/b>What you mean: Tell me you\u2019re single goddamit.
    \nWhat you say:
    \n\u201cDid you go with your girlfriend?\u201d
    \n\u201cI\u2019m sure your partner would\u2026\u201d
    \n\u201cIf you were single then\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

    You\u2019ll assess their availability fast since they’ll correct you if they’re not taken. It\u2019s also flattering, as you\u2019re basically saying they’re so fab they should have someone. If they turn out to be off the market, well, then you were right; no biggie.<\/p>\n

    2. Say you’ve been thinking about them.
    \n<\/b>What you mean: I think about you when I\u2019m not with you.
    \nWhat you say:
    \n\u201cYou were in my dream last night.\u201d
    \n\u201cI thought of you the other day.\u201d
    \n\u201cI\u2019ve been waiting to tell you that…\u201d<\/p>\n

    When someone discovers you\u2019ve been thinking about them, they’ll be all sorts of intrigued\u2014so much so that they\u2019ll probably start thinking about you back. They might wonder if you\u2019re into them, and consider the possibilities. And if they’re not keen, they never need to know why they were on your mind; thank goodness.<\/p>\n

    4. Mention things you could do together.
    \n<\/b>What you mean: We could have so much fun.
    \nWhat you say:
    \n\u201cIs it cocktail o\u2019clock yet?\u201d
    \n\u201cI love to dance, but I haven’t gone in forever.”
    \n\u201cI\u2019m on a mission to try every burger in the city.\u201d<\/p>\n

    From jazz to hikes, let them know you\u2019re into fun stuff, so they can imagine being your partner in crime. It could be the first time they’ve visualized you doing a date-like activity, and once they know what you\u2019re into, they can put together the perfect plan for your first date. If they don’t think of you that way, then they know more about you now; so what.<\/p>\n

    5. Talk about dating and being single.
    \n<\/b>What you mean: I am ripe for your picking.
    \n<\/b>What you say:
    \n\u201cI was out with my single pals last night when… \u201d
    \n\u201cI just went on the weirdest first date there.\u201d
    \n\u201cThe dating scene in this city is nuts.\u201d<\/p>\n

    This says you\u2019re out and about in the dating world. If they haven’t thought of you romantically, they will now. It signals your eligibility and gets the other person curious about how you would be on a date. If you\u2019re not the one for them, don’t sweat it. Hey, they might even try to fix you up with someone; win win.<\/p>\n

    6. Offer to be their date.
    \n<\/b>What you mean: Ask me out already.
    \nWhat you say:
    \n\u201cWell if you need a date you know where I am.\u201d
    \n\u201cDo you have a plus one?\u201d
    \n\u201cSounds like a blast. I\u2019d love to do that!\u201d<\/p>\n

    With this tactic, you\u2019re boldly suggesting you\u2019d like to do something with them. They\u2019ll be impressed with your forwardness and may be confused whether it\u2019s friendly or romantic. (And a little intrigue can be quite the aphrodisiac.) If they want to date you, you\u2019ve just made it easy for them. If they don’t, you can act like it was platonic; easy.<\/p>\n

    Drop one of these flirty ice breakers into conversation each time you speak, or ramp it up and use a combination of them in one interaction. They\u2019re sassy enough to get someone thinking, but ambiguous enough to keep them guessing.<\/p>\n

    But their response is key\u2014don\u2019t be taken aback if their first reaction is underwhelming, or not what you hoped for. The chances are it\u2019ll sink in when you\u2019re apart, so stay optimistic, and monitor closely what changes in their demeanor and attitude towards you next time you’re together.<\/p>\n

    If they start avoiding you or they make it clear they’re not interested, then it\u2019s time to back off. And if they’re not getting the hint and are impossible to read, or if the ice breakers feel like a lot of hard work, then take a hammer to the ice and ask the lucky person out. Life\u2019s too short for missed opportunities. Happy flirting.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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