Having a physical connection to your partner is important, but without emotional intimacy, there won\u2019t be a deeper, below the surface connection. It\u2019s this connection that allows couples to be open and honest at all times, and speak and share freely. You both have a deep knowing and understanding of one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Emotional intimacy doesn\u2019t happen overnight, and it\u2019s definitely something that requires constant work and commitment from both people in a relationship for it to grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are some of the best ways to start building emotional intimacy in your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Be brave.<\/strong> Challenging topics always need to be addressed, and it requires a certain degree of courage to have these conversations. If you don\u2019t, then the intimacy in your relationship will begin to erode. You may not notice it immediately, but over time, huge cracks will appear; and they will also require a much greater deal of effort and time to resolve than if you\u2019d addressed the issue when it first arose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being brave enough to have these difficult conversations shows you are both committed to and invested in the health of your relationship, and will make both of you feel more confident in having these types of open discussions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Be vulnerable.<\/strong> You can take this slow at first, and share little pieces at a time. Be sure to support and encourage each other as you do. The more you practice this, the easier it will become, and eventually being vulnerable will become a no brainer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Take care of yourself.<\/strong> This is why so many people preach that you need to love yourself first, and enjoy your own company before entering into a relationship. And they\u2019re not wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even when you\u2019re in a relationship, quality time on your own and away from your partner should continue. Spend time with friends, enjoy your own hobbies and interests, and continue to grow as an individual. This is how you can be the very best version of yourself, and participate in your relationship more mindfully and meaningfully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Build trust.<\/strong> If you\u2019re someone who struggles with trust issues\u2014maybe because of childhood traumas or being betrayed in past relationships\u2014it\u2019s important to address where those fears are coming from. Because you can\u2019t be afraid that your partner is going to hurt you, and love and trust them with your whole heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Working through your fears will help you be more vulnerable, so you can build the trust back up in your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let go of the past.<\/strong> Let go of the need to be right and in control all the time. We are all flawed, and we all make mistakes. But if you choose to focus on them, and always point them out, it creates a wedge between the two of you, and can make one or both partners feel as though they can\u2019t do anything right, so why bother trying?<\/p>\n\n\n\n If your partner makes a mistake, or does something that ends up hurting you, it\u2019s important to address it, but without trying to hurt them in the process. And once you have, let it go, and make a conscious decision to move forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nAvoiding talking about certain issues, disagreements, or fears, will only break down the connection you share with your partner over time. Sweeping things under the carpet might temporarily make you feel better, and help swerve any confrontation; but it doesn\u2019t help to solve the root of your problems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nEveryone is afraid to a certain degree of being vulnerable in a relationship, because it opens us up to the possibility of being hurt or betrayed. But being open and honest with your feelings helps create a strong emotional connection with your partner, and builds trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you invest time and effort in loving and taking care of yourself, and developing into a stronger person in your own right, then when you come together with your partner you\u2019ll create a much stronger, healthier partnership.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nA deep connection requires a deep level of trust between both partners; and this takes time to develop. If you want to build emotional intimacy, then you need to trust your partner completely, and they need to trust you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nKeeping score of past fights and wrongdoings will only help you stay stuck, and dwelling on petty things that you\u2019ve supposedly moved on from and forgiven for. If you forgive someone, you\u2019re making a choice to let it go and move on, but dragging things back up signifies that you haven\u2019t fully forgiven.<\/p>\n\n\n\n