All relationships require a lot of time, energy, and commitment from both partners if they\u2019re going to not only survive, but thrive in the long run. However, it\u2019s also important to be aware of the signs that the two of you just aren\u2019t compatible, and your relationship isn\u2019t worth fighting for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019ve tried everything you can, and you still can\u2019t seem to move forward without second guessing everything in your head; this might be a red flag telling you to call it quits and move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Making the decision to end any relationship, regardless of how long you\u2019ve been together, is a difficult one; because you’ve formed a close attachment to this person which you understandably don\u2019t want to lose. And because every couple is utterly unique, there\u2019s no relationship manual I can give you which will help you make a choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That being said, here are some signs that it\u2019s probably in both of your best interests to break up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019re not happy.<\/strong> Every relationship goes through ups and downs, so naturally there will be periods of struggle and challenge; but you should generally feel happy and sure of the person you\u2019re with in spite of this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you don\u2019t, and you\u2019re often wondering whether it would be best to break up, then that\u2019s a strong sign that your intuition is speaking to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019re living in the past.<\/strong> You should continue to enjoy amazing times together, laughing and living and loving side by side. If you\u2019re not, then you might just be in need of some more quality time to reconnect with one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But if you\u2019ve tried to get back to the good times you once shared, and it\u2019s just not working, then it might be time to let go of those fond memories and be honest with yourself that it\u2019s unlikely you\u2019ll be able to make it back to how you were.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your mind and\/or eyes are constantly wondering.<\/strong> But it really depends on how often you find yourself having thoughts like these, and whether you find yourself wanting to act on them. Do you secretly wish you were with someone else, or single again? If so, then you probably shouldn\u2019t be in your current relationship, and you owe it your partner to be honest about this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your partner doesn\u2019t make you feel good about yourself.<\/strong> In a relationship, your partner should always make you feel better, lift you up, and celebrate you. They shouldn\u2019t fill you with more doubt, or do anything to knock your confidence. If they do, this is a GIANT RED FLAG that they are not the person for you, and I would encourage you to end things now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You deserve someone who celebrates how awesome you are, and helps you grow as a person, instead of making you feel smaller. You will inevitably meet many people like this in life, but the person you choose as your life partner should not be one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One of you isn\u2019t fully committed.<\/strong> Both people have to be giving and receiving love, attention, and respect; otherwise the person who\u2019s not receiving enough will begin to tire and become resentful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If one person doesn\u2019t seem to care as much as the other does, doesn\u2019t attempt to resolve things in your relationship, or doesn\u2019t choose to spend enough quality time in it; all you can do is ask them to step up. And if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s out of your hands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your friends and family want you to break up.<\/strong> Sometimes, our families won\u2019t always approve of our choice in partner, and this might come from a place of selfishness on their part, instead of being fully centered on what\u2019s right for us. So it\u2019s important to notice the difference. If it\u2019s just one person who has a problem, then it\u2019s probably small enough to ignore. But the more voices you have telling you the same thing, the more likely it is that they see something you can\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It all comes down to how much you trust and value their opinions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Deep down, you know you\u2019re settling.<\/strong> Either way, your heart is telling you you\u2019re settling. You\u2019re keeping yourself trapped in a situation that is making you unhappy, and this is only stealing away from your precious time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes the most difficult choice is the most loving one we can make.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Making the decision to end any relationship, regardless of how long you\u2019ve been together, is a difficult one. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":141,"featured_media":19021,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[998],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18998","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-break-up"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIt\u2019s normal to have occasional arguments and disagreements with your partner, but on the whole, you should be consistently enjoying your relationship, the time you spend together, and have an overall sense of happiness when you\u2019re with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you find yourself clinging to all the good times and memories you\u2019ve had together in the past, and how great your connection used to be, then you\u2019re avoiding living in the present and recognizing how things have changed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nDo you find yourself thinking about what else (who else) might be waiting for you out there? It\u2019s normal to find other people attractive, but still be in a healthy, monogamous, and loving relationship with someone. We\u2019re only human after all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nWe all have our own doubts and insecurities we\u2019re dealing with. Taking the time to love yourself first before you get into a relationship will really help you work on those feelings, and enter a relationship feeling comfortable and confident within.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nA relationship requires two people to show up and be fully committed for it to work. That\u2019s what it means to be a team, and one person can\u2019t carry the other on their back forever without collapsing with exhaustion or frustration eventually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf all the people you love and trust dearly in your life have voiced their concerns about your relationship, and spelled out justified reasons for why you shouldn\u2019t be together, it\u2019s important to take notice of that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nYou know this isn\u2019t really what you want for the rest of your life, but it\u2019s comfortable, and it might be all you know. Maybe you\u2019re hoping things will change overnight into the relationship you\u2019ve always dreamed of. Maybe you know they won\u2019t, but you\u2019re afraid to leave and step out into the unknown.<\/p>\n\n\n\n