When you have history with someone, and there\u2019s still a lot of feelings there, it\u2019s easy to find yourself being drawn back to them and your relationship. It doesn\u2019t matter if your head knows it\u2019s not healthy for you, and you know in your heart you deserve better; when you\u2019re in it, everything gets kinda blurry and confusing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You don\u2019t want to admit to yourself that you’re not being treated the way you want to be, or deserve to be, and you\u2019re afraid of putting an end to it for good and moving on into the unknown.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When your friends and family ask why you keep going back, and you tell them you still love them, the only person you\u2019re trying to convince is yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are 7 reasons why you find yourself going back to someone, even when your intuition tells you not to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. You\u2019ve lost your self-worth.<\/strong> If someone is taking advantage of your kindness or generosity, or draining you of your spirit and happiness, then they aren\u2019t someone you should be spending time with. The trouble is, the more someone takes from us, the more we can trick ourselves into thinking we\u2019re wanted. But if you\u2019re the one giving and receiving nothing in return, this is a toxic relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Your brain tricks you into believing this can be a happily ever after.<\/strong> If they truly cared about you and wanted to make things work, you would be a priority, and you would know about it. Your happily ever after is still out there waiting for you. But it\u2019s not with this person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Feelings are more important to you than facts.<\/strong> 4. You think they give you security when they really make you anxious.<\/strong> You wouldn\u2019t be reading this if there wasn\u2019t an internal conflict going on inside you. On the one hand, part of you is still hooked, while the other knows it\u2019s best to move on. And this is a vicious cycle that continues to go on in your mind, keeping you in a constant state of anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. You\u2019re hoping they’ll change.<\/strong> It\u2019s true that some people do change, but there\u2019s no guarantee. Instead of hoping that they\u2019ll surprise everyone and end up being that one in a million person who does turn things around, wouldn\u2019t it be best to put your present health and happiness first? It\u2019s always hard to walk away from someone we love, but sometimes it\u2019s more painful to stay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. You love them more than you love yourself.<\/strong> This is never a healthy way to be in any relationship, and this is why it\u2019s so important to work on loving yourself first and foremost, before trying to love someone else. Think about this next time before jumping into another relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 7. You\u2019re afraid of being alone.<\/strong> But this isn\u2019t doing anyone any favors. You need to learn to love spending time with yourself and get comfortable being alone, and realize you\u2019re already whole without a partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s hard to let go of someone and be single when we\u2019re so used to being with someone. But wouldn\u2019t it be better to venture into the unknown, instead of sticking with the familiar drill of being hurt, leaving, hearing their apology, forgiving them, and you go back again?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Who knows what will happen next, but you deserve worlds better than that cycle.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" It\u2019s hard to let go of someone, when you\u2019re so used to being with them. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":141,"featured_media":19084,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[998,884,973,891],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19001","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-break-up","category-dating-advice","category-moving-on","category-relationship-advice"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIf your confidence and self-worth has been damaged recently, or was never solid to begin with, you may fail to see what\u2019s right and wrong, and allow someone to mistreat you because you\u2019ve come to see it as normal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nYou\u2019re attracted to them, you think about the good times you\u2019ve had together, and your mind thinks about how great things could be, instead of focusing on the way things actually are right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nOur feelings and emotions can rule us if we don\u2019t notice it or are totally unaware of what it looks like. Remind yourself of the facts; everything that has been said and done; everything you know to be true. Let these circle in your head, and become more important than your feelings about the relationship. This will help you see things clearer, without those volatile emotions that get in the way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nYou\u2019re afraid of letting go and moving on for good, because they’re all you know or have known for a long time, and that makes you feel safe and secure. Or at least you think it does. And you\u2019re afraid to lose that feeling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nThe question is, how long have you been hoping for, and how long are you prepared to continue hoping for?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you\u2019re allowing your love for them to keep you in a relationship where you\u2019re being treated poorly, then this is a strong indicator that you love them more than you love yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nMany of us\u2014men and women\u2014are guilty of being in mediocre relationships simply because we\u2019d rather do that than be on our own, and have to face ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n