When your boyfriend starts acting a little distant and weird, it can put you in a total panic mode. What did I do wrong? Is he interested in someone else? Does he not love me anymore? Does he want to breakup?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s super easy to get lost in a downward spiral of What If\u2019s, especially if you feel like things have been going pretty well so far. Maybe what you think is happening, really is happening. Maybe it\u2019s not. Maybe it\u2019s just a simple case of him needing his space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone\u2019s situation is different. So here are some things that can explain why your boyfriend is acting distant and weird, according to experts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He cheated or is considering it.<\/strong> \u201cIf you suspect this, it’s best to just ask him directly in a mature, confident and calm manner, so he feels safe to tell the truth,\u201d she says. \u201cDon’t assume he’s lying if he denies it. Just find out what is bothering him (e.g. he feel pressures to commit, etc).\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n He senses your expectations.<\/strong> \u201cIf a long-term commitment doesn’t feel like it was his idea, but something that was forced on him, then he may begin to retreat,\u201d Baxo says. \u201cAlso, men resist commitment when they\u2019re not in the position to be a good provider just yet (e.g. unemployed or dissatisfied with his lack of accomplishments).\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s important to have an open discussion about where your relationship is headed. If he doesn\u2019t have the same commitment goals that you have, you may need to reconsider whether this really is the right relationship for you. But if you both ultimately want the same things and he’s just feeling a bit rushed, letting him know that you\u2019re happy with how things are for now can go a long way towards helping him feel like he doesn’t have to change in order to be a good boyfriend to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He\u2019s stressed and doesn\u2019t want to burden you with his problems.<\/strong> If this is the case, let him know you\u2019re always there if he needs you and just give him space. When he\u2019s ready, he\u2019ll open up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He just needs some alone time.<\/strong> If your boyfriend says he needs some time alone, believe him. It doesn\u2019t mean that he doesn\u2019t like spending time with you. Some people, especially introverts, need some time to recharge a bit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He\u2019s on cruise control.<\/strong> \u201cHe’s kind of on cruise control,\u201d Lisa Concepcion, founder of LoveQuest Coaching, tells The Date Mix. \u201cHe\u2019s reached a nice, easy, chill place in the relationship and with himself.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Feeling secure is obviously a good thing, but there is a danger to it as well. According to Concepcion, the work doesn\u2019t stop once you\u2019ve hit a comfortable place in the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cYou want to make sure that you’re both still moving towards something as a couple,\u201d she says. \u201cHaving common goals bonds couples.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n These goals can be anything from following through on weekly date nights out to saving up for a house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He really likes you and is starting to overthink.<\/strong> If your partner reaches the conclusion that you are definitely it, he may start freaking out. The last thing he wants to do is ruin anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you know for sure that the relationship is solid, just talk to him about his distant behavior. Tell him that you\u2019ve noticed he\u2019s been a little to himself lately and just remind him that he can always come to you if he needs to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThis tells him that you\u2019re not oblivious to his actions, that you adore him, are there for him, and respect his space enough to leave it to him,\u201d Concepcion says. \u201cCarry on with confidence.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n He\u2019s about to surprise you with something big.<\/strong> \u201cTell him you notice he’s a bit disconnected and want to check in,\u201d Concepcion says. \u201cIf he’s just rattling off some excuses, just listen to him and pay attention to patterns. He could be planning a surprise. Guys will often act as if they\u2019re hiding something or weird weeks before they propose.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n As you can see, there are so many different reasons as to why your boyfriend acts weird and distant. Some good, some not. Regardless, the key here is to communicate. You\u2019ll never know what\u2019s really going on unless you ask.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" There are so many different reasons why a guy acts weird and distant. Some good, some not. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":186,"featured_media":19064,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,886,898],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19034","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-dating-advice-women","category-relationship-problems"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nLet\u2019s start with the worst case scenario. According to love coach Michelle Baxo, sometimes guys get distant and weird because they\u2019ve cheated or are considering it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you\u2019ve dropped more than enough hints about taking your relationship to the next level but he\u2019s just not there yet, he may start to pull back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cWhen a guy suddenly becomes distant for no apparent reason, it is so easy to get paranoid and jump to the conclusion that he might not be into you anymore,\u201d Celia Schweyer, dating expert at DatingScout.com, tells The Date Mix. \u201cThe thing is, he most likely has a problem outside the relationship and he doesn\u2019t want to talk about it yet.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cThis shouldn’t be a reflection of your relationship,\u201d Schweyer says. \u201cWe all crave alone time every now and then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf things are going great and you reach the one-year mark, he may start to get distant because he\u2019s more secure and comfortable in the relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cWomen aren’t the only ones who overthink things,\u201d Concepcion says. \u201cMen, especially ones who have direction, goals, and the desire to be fathers someday, are often in their heads assessing if their current partner could really be the one.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf you\u2019ve been together for a long time and you\u2019re on the same page about where things are headed, he may be acting distant because he\u2019s ready to take things to the next level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n