Everyone\u2019s had a friendship that fizzles out or runs its course. Growing apart from people is a normal part of adulthood. But sometimes, you have to make the difficult decision to give a friendship some space or end it entirely. It\u2019s never fun, but it\u2019s not fun to have bad friends, either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But how can you tell if you have bad friends? It may not be obvious at first. If you suspect a friend doesn\u2019t have your best interest at heart, look for these telling signs and see if it\u2019s time to call it quits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They don\u2019t listen to you. They only reach out when they need something. They don\u2019t celebrate your success. They cause a lot of drama. They put you down a lot. They gossip to you about other people. They exclude you. You don\u2019t feel respected. If something about your friendship with someone feels off, you\u2019re probably not imagining it. If you feel in your gut that your friendship isn\u2019t genuine, it might be time to consider spending less time with them and spending more time with the friends who love and support you unconditionally.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If something about your friendship with someone feels off, you\u2019re probably not imagining it. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":19078,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[994],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19077","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/strong>Good friends are good listeners; bad friends are bad listeners. If it feels like a lot of your conversations are one-sided or that you\u2019re the one doing all of the listening, it might be time to reconsider how much time you spend with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Are you the one who always makes plans? Or, if they do call or text to make plans, is it because they want something from you? You should be able to lean on your friends and ask them for favors when you need them, but that shouldn\u2019t be all that you do. A good friendship is not a transactional one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Whether you land a new job or start dating a great guy, a good friend should be happy for you, lift you up, and make you feel empowered when something exciting happens. If they get jealous and competitive every time you share good news, it\u2019s not a great sign.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>This isn\u2019t high school; you don\u2019t need people in your life who cause drama and stir up problems where there don\u2019t need to be any. You don\u2019t need people who are needlessly negative and gossipy in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Have you ever noticed that your friend disses you a lot, in public and\/or private? Even if they say they\u2019re joking, it\u2019s not funny. So, for someone you consider a friend to do this is a major red flag. People put other people down when they feel bad about themselves. If they were a true friend, they\u2019d come to you for advice rather than making you a target.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>We hate to say it, but if they talk about other people behind their back to you, chances are they do the same about you when you\u2019re not around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>Friends don\u2019t have to do everything together. But it\u2019s insulting when a friend invites all of your mutual friends to hang out\u2014except for you\u2014constantly. Actions speak louder than words, and as much as we don\u2019t want to say it, they\u2019re probably excluding you on purpose, which you absolutely don\u2019t have to put up with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>If every conversation makes you feel bad about yourself, that person is not your friend. Good friends respect you. Period.<\/p>\n\n\n\n