{"id":19092,"date":"2019-07-03T01:00:18","date_gmt":"2019-07-03T08:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19092"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:40:44","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:40:44","slug":"signs-hes-a-player","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/signs-hes-a-player\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Early Signs He’s a Player"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If you\u2019re a woman reading this, chances are you\u2019ve encountered a player or two in your dating past. And if you haven\u2019t, you\u2019re either extremely lucky, or great at tuning into and listening to your intuition.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There have been more than a few times when I\u2019ve ignored all the major red flags I saw very early on, only to wind up being ghosted, or extremely hurt. But at the time, I wasn\u2019t really aware of what I should\u2019ve been looking out for. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nobody deserves to have that happen to them. So, to help you out, I\u2019m going to share all the early signs to look out for. That way, you can move on and find someone who is actually worth your time.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He texts too little, or too often.
\n<\/b>When you\u2019ve just met in a bar or on a dating site, does he keep on blowing up your phone with constant messages back and forth the entire day? Or does he seem keen at first, and then slowly check out and take longer and longer to reply to your messages?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember one time a guy literally didn\u2019t text me back for two months. And instead of deleting the message and blocking his number, I foolishly made excuses for him and replied. To top it all off, I never heard from him again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t repeat my mistake ladies. If he\u2019s not a normal texter, have your guard up from the start.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He avoids answering a question you\u2019ve asked him.
\n<\/b><\/b>Have you asked him a question before, and he has either smoothly changed the subject, or point blank said he won\u2019t answer? <\/span>Both are signs that he has difficulty being honest, and that he has things he\u2019s not proud of that he wants to hide = PLAYER.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A kind man who is genuinely interested in you and a potential future with you will always be honest because he knows you deserve nothing less.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He invites you to his place after your first date.
\n<\/b>This is a clear sign he’s only interested in hook ups, and there\u2019s a good chance he\u2019s having lots of them right now, or is used to this approach working for him in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re only looking for fun, then that might suit you just fine. But, if you\u2019re looking for something serious, and he invites you back to his place when you barely know each other, it\u2019s a huge red flag that he’s not ready to commit to one person in a relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t know where you stand with him.
\n<\/b>Most of the ambiguity around this is the result of feeling like you just can\u2019t ask him where you stand. Which would be the obvious, sensible thing to do, right? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But we don\u2019t. Because we don\u2019t want to seem too keen and scare him away. We want to come across as the cool chick who\u2019s happy not putting labels on things.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But where does that get us? <\/span>Hurt. <\/span>If he likes you, he won\u2019t be put off when you ask where you guys are in your relationship. He\u2019ll want to answer that truthfully, so that he can put you at ease. <\/span>That\u2019s what MEN do. Boys play games.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He\u2019s really hot, and then he\u2019s cold as ice.
\n<\/b>One moment he\u2019s asking you how many kids you think you\u2019ll have together, and where you want to get married; and the next he\u2019s got so much on at work, and he just needs some time to figure things out.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he\u2019s not ALL in, then tell him to get out. <\/span>Your time is far too precious to waste on someone who doesn\u2019t know what they want, and isn\u2019t prepared to be honest about it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He tells you white lies.
\n<\/b>It might start with adding a few years to his age, or embellishing what he does for work, or playing down how many women he’s slept with. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s how it starts, which isn\u2019t great, and let me tell you the ending is ugly. <\/span>If he\u2019s prepared to lie this early on, how can you ever trust him? <\/span>It\u2019s the guys who tell white lies, who end up cheating, ghosting, and living complete double lives. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He overloads on the compliments, and they\u2019re all based on your appearance.
\n<\/b>It\u2019s nice to know that a guy finds you physically attractive, so genuine, non-creepy compliments are always well received. But, there is a fine line, and if crossed, it needs to be taken note of.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he piles on the compliments, and they\u2019re all related to your legs, bum, boobs etc. then it\u2019s safe to say he\u2019s probably as shallow as he comes across, and isn\u2019t interested in more than your legs, bum, or boobs. <\/span>Beware of these early signs that he\u2019s no more than a player, ladies. You\u2019ve been warned. If something feels off to you\u2014listen to that instinct and trust it.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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