{"id":19093,"date":"2019-06-21T01:00:32","date_gmt":"2019-06-21T08:00:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19093"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:42:04","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:42:04","slug":"never-settle-in-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/love\/never-settle-in-love\/","title":{"rendered":"The Real Reason You Should Never Settle In Love or Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Let me just begin by saying, I get it. I get why so many of us settle in love, or in life. I really do. <\/span>Because we don\u2019t want to feel like we\u2019re alone, or falling behind our friends\u2019 lives, or as though nothing around us is stable.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We crave comfort and security, which means many of us avoid embracing our discomfort and the unknown. But get through that period of challenge and soul stretching, and you\u2019ll find your way to the beautiful life you always dreamed of living when you were younger. Until it got beaten out of you by your parents, your teachers, and your employers. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s the real reason why you should never, under any circumstances, settle in love or life.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No matter how hard you try and make it work, it won\u2019t.
\n<\/b>You can force yourself to live the life you think you <\/span>should<\/span> live as hard as you want. But it won\u2019t work. Something will always feel like it\u2019s missing. And the universe will continue to kick your ass until you finally wake up and do something about it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So you might think playing it safe is the easier option, but that\u2019s not actually true. You\u2019ll find it much harder when you <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> do what you truly desire to do at a soul level. <\/span>And by that logic, you\u2019ve really got nothing to lose, and everything to gain.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s like ordering a Margarita pizza, when you knew you wanted a pepperoni.
\n<\/b>Take your mind back to the last time you were in a restaurant, ordering food. <\/span>What happened? <\/span>You probably browsed the menu for a short while, had a think about what you <\/span>really<\/span> wanted, then ordered it, right?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It would be <\/span>crazy<\/span> to know what you wanted, then decide to order a completely different dish when the waiter came by, just because it was a dollar or two cheaper. <\/span>But that\u2019s <\/span>exactly<\/span> what you\u2019re doing when you choose to settle in love and life. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t need to settle for the Margarita, when your heart desires a pepperoni, okay? Remember that next time you\u2019re dining out. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Would you encourage your kids to settle?
\n<\/b>What kind of example do you want to set for them? <\/span>The one where it\u2019s best to play it safe all the time, because who knows if you\u2019ll ever get anything better than this?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or the one where you say fuck it, and you say no to waking up next to someone who makes you feel lonely, or a job that destroys your soul; and you finally decide to believe in yourself, and say <\/span>yes<\/span> to manifesting your deepest dreams here on earth?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What advice would you give your best friend, your parents, or your children if you saw them settling? <\/span>You need a dose of your own medicine.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re signing up for a life of frustration and misery.
\n<\/b>Is that what you really want? <\/span>Do you want a life that feels like a constant uphill battle, where nothing flows or feels easy, and it feels anything but fun? <\/span>Do you want to look back and regret not taking a little bit of a risk, or following your heart? <\/span>Do you want to get to the end of your life feeling like you didn\u2019t really <\/span>live<\/span>?<\/em> <\/span>If you want a reason not to settle in love or life, this is it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because there are other doors that will open.
\n<\/b>But if you don\u2019t give yourself the chance to walk through them, you\u2019ll miss out on that amazing person, or dream job, or beautiful experience that was waiting for you around the next corner.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s how life works. But you have to trust it. You have to trust that something better is coming alone, and that this life is happening for you, not to you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why have mediocre, when you deserve extraordinary?
\n<\/b>Settling means accepting the ordinary; the mediocre life that so many people resign themselves to living. Because they think they don\u2019t have another choice, or the other choice looks too difficult from the outset; but they do have another choice, and it\u2019s not as tricky as it seems.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why settle for anything in this life? Why settle in love just so you can say you\u2019ve got someone? Just so you can wake up in the morning and have the comfort of someone next to you? Just so you can check marriage and kids off your life list, the way everyone around you is doing?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why settle in a job you hate just so you have a steady paycheck coming in each month? Just so you can afford to pay for that mortgage you don\u2019t even want, that car you bought so you\u2019d feel better about your crappy life, and that two week vacation in Cabo that you really need so you can make it through the rest of the year?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why settle for mediocre? <\/span>You deserve extraordinary.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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