{"id":19094,"date":"2019-07-14T01:00:30","date_gmt":"2019-07-14T08:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19094"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:40:31","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:40:31","slug":"good-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/good-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Not Sure What a Good Relationship Looks Like? Here It Is"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If you haven\u2019t been in a long term relationship before (which many of us haven\u2019t), or you\u2019ve only been in unhealthy relationships; it’s not always easy to know what a good relationship is. <\/span>And until you know what a good relationship is supposed to look like, you won\u2019t know what you\u2019re meant to expect, or realize when you\u2019ve finally found the one.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some of the subtle and not so subtle signs of a good relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You build each other up.
\n<\/b>Not only do you pick each other up in your dark times, when you\u2019re feeling a little bit fragile or unsure of yourself; but you also build each other up during the good times. <\/span>This means giving each other little compliments, reminding each other about what you love about one another, and focusing on all of the good things you bring into each other’s lives. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You fight\u2014but with love and respect.
\n<\/b>You don\u2019t rag on someone when they\u2019re down\u2014especially not the one you love. <\/span>So even when you fight\u2014which is actually really healthy for any relationship in moderation\u2014you do it with mutual love and respect. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

All couples argue, and if you disagree with something, it\u2019s important to speak up instead of brushing it under the carpet. Arguing every now and then is actually another one of the signs of a good relationship. But there’s such a thing as healthy fighting and unhealthy fighting<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you’re healthy, you avoid hurting each other with your words, or dragging up the past; and instead fight in a grown up, civilized manner.  <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your days are better with each other in them.
\n<\/b>Both of you should be happy and feel whole on your own, but now that you\u2019ve found each other, your days just feel that little bit brighter.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that makes sense, because when you\u2019ve got two people, you\u2019ve got a team, and a team is stronger than anyone doing it solo. <\/span>You lift each other up when you\u2019re down, and make the most exciting adventures and moments even more magical than they already are. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You love having alone time to maintain your independence, but when you\u2019re together, it feels like sunshine.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s built on solid trust & honesty.
\n<\/b>Like most important things, this one takes time to develop, and can only happen if both people are willing to be open and honest from the start.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But all good relationships need a solid foundation of trust and honesty to stand the test of time. This means no lies, not even little white ones, and always being totally upfront with each other.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It can be difficult to have certain conversations, but people who are committed to each other don\u2019t shy away from hard topics.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You choose to grow together.
\n<\/b>Many couples fall in love, plan and build a life together, but end up going their separate ways eventually. This is because they haven\u2019t made a conscious decision to grow <\/span>together<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we get older, we naturally change and evolve, and if we\u2019re not careful to make sure we\u2019re still growing together as a couple, we can end up drifting apart and falling out of love. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The sign of a good relationship is when both people choose to continue growing together, no matter how much they grow as individuals.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re always there for each other in times of need.
\n<\/b>Whether you\u2019ve had a rough day at the office, you\u2019re suffering with stress, someone you love is suffering from an illness, or you\u2019re just having a bit of a pity party for yourself; your partner should always be there for you. To give you a hug, to tell you everything\u2019s going to be okay, and to do what they can to relieve some of the stress on your shoulders.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And likewise, you do the same for them. It\u2019s always a balance of giving and receiving depending on who\u2019s going through what. And no matter what, you never fail to show up and support each other.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re totally comfortable around each other.
\n<\/b><\/b>This one requires both of you to be vulnerable with each other, and let your guard down; which is something many of us struggle with. <\/span>And it\u2019s not our fault.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s most often because we\u2019ve learned from watching our parents when we were younger that it\u2019s not safe to open up, or we\u2019ve been burned in past relationships. Naturally, we don\u2019t want to be hurt again, so we keep those walls up.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But real love and a strong relationship can only form if you\u2019re willing to be open, and let someone all the way in. It can help to remind yourself that this new person is not the same person as the one who hurt you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you can do that, then you\u2019re allowing yourself to welcome in love, and an amazing relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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