When it comes to telling someone you love them, those aren\u2019t words you just throw around. They should be spoken in truth and taken seriously. But some may argue that today, the word \u201clove\u201d gets tossed around so much, that it’s hard to know when someone really means what they say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you\u2019ve been dating a guy and he says this too you, here are eight ways to tell if he really means what he says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. His actions match his words.<\/strong> \u201cIf they say they’re going to be there, they’ll show up. If they say they’ll call you, they call you. When they’re around you, they’ll demonstrate positive behaviors and be consistent and reliable in their communication,” says Rachel Perlstein, a relationship coach and co-founder of A Good First Date. “This can go further in terms of them saying they trust you, and then sharing more intimate secrets with you. Or the person telling you that they’re trustworthy, and protecting your secrets.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. He says it at the right time. <\/strong> Ideally, you\u2019d want him to tell you when you are both at your strongest and happiest place with each other, not in the middle of a fight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. He adds on why he loves you.<\/strong> 4. He treats you just as good, or maybe even better, after he tells you.<\/strong> \u201cHe will do so naturally because he thinks you deserve the world and he\u2019s willing to make all moments of life as significant as possible for you and him,\u201d says certified dating and relationship coach, Celine Sauvet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This shows he didn\u2019t just say those three magic words to get something in return (like sex, money, a place to stay). He said them because he meant them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. He does things to enhance your life.<\/strong> “They may do things to make your life easier,” says Perlstein. “Like doing the dishes, making dinner, or running errands for you. Or they may buy you gifts or start surprising you with things that you like.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n 6. He shows love through physical contact with you.<\/strong> 7. He doesn\u2019t pressure you about sex after he says it.<\/strong> 8. He doesn\u2019t say it too early in the relationship.<\/strong> The word \u201clove\u201d gets tossed around so much, it can be hard to know when someone really means what they say.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":74,"featured_media":19102,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884,886,987,997],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19097","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","category-dating-advice-women","category-love","category-love-advice"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIf someone truly loves you, their actions will show you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cWhen he tells you he loves you can usually tell if he means it or not,\u201d says Laurel Steinberg, PhD, a clinical sexologist and relationship expert. \u201cIf he only tells you during an apology or after you ask him if he loves you, then this may be a bad sign.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cIf he tells you exactly what he loves about you (e.g. your sense of humor, your kindness, how smart you are) then these are great signs that in fact, he is indeed crazy about you,\u201d says Steinberg.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIf a guy loves you, he will continue to court you weeks, months and years after he\u2019s said he loves you. For him, they aren’t just words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nThis can look different for different people, but overall, a man in love will try to do things that make you happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cThey start spending more time with you, introducing you to more people they love, and they are more physically affectionate,\u201d says Perlstein. \u201cThis may mean that they start holding your hand, start hugging you or touching you more in public, or they may ask you to spend time with you. If you haven’t met all their family and friends, you may start being included\/invited to more events consistently and they are very comfortable integrating you into their life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nSome men say it just to get down a girl\u2019s pants, notes Cherlyn Chong, a breakup recovery and dating specialist. \u201cThis guy is a keeper if he still respects your stand on sex, or doesn\u2019t pressure you for sex after. He\u2019s just happy saying it to you and basking in the glow of love.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\u201cSometimes relationships can be super intense and passionate at the beginning, and what feels like love is actually just limerence, or romantic infatuation, in disguise,\u201d says Chong. \u201cIf he says that he loves you a few days to two months into the relationship, that\u2019s way too early to build up any sort of unconditional love, and you\u2019re likely to be disappointed when he stops feeling that way six months down the road.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"