{"id":19112,"date":"2019-07-15T01:00:56","date_gmt":"2019-07-15T08:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19112"},"modified":"2022-07-04T06:15:05","modified_gmt":"2022-07-04T13:15:05","slug":"how-to-woo-someone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/how-to-woo-someone\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Woo Someone That\u2019s Been Single a Long Time"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When someone has been single for a while, they’re totally fine being alone. They don\u2019t need a relationship since, they’re comfortable not being in one. They may not love going to bed alone, but they know how to do it and they\u2019d likely rather be alone than put up with the nonsense that can happen with a relationship that just isn’t working.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re trying to start a relationship with someone who\u2019s been single a while, be prepared for someone set in their ways who may not have a lot of time for you. This doesn\u2019t mean they aren\u2019t open to a relationship, but if they\u2019re used to being single, it\u2019s going to be hard for them to adjust to what it means to be in a relationship again. They may do things without inviting or even telling you. They may want to take things slowly. They may need a lot more \u201cme\u201d time than you\u2019d expect. They may be more reserved with their affection and have their guard up for a while.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to woo a woman<\/a> or a guy, consider the following tips:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be clingy.<\/strong>
\nNothing is going to make a single independent guy or gal run more than a clinger. They have been perfectly fine without a relationship for however long, and they don\u2019t need someone, even you, so they are going to be turned off by someone who makes it seem like they\u2019re not okay without a relationship. They will want to know that you can handle being alone because they’re going to need their alone time too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let them choose the pace, without controlling everything.<\/strong>
\nAfter being single for a while, they may want things to go slowly to make sure your intentions are genuine and that you\u2019re someone they can trust, but they may also be so used to being single that they might forget about you altogether. If you planned the first date, let them plan the next date, but send a gentle reminder text like \u201cDoes this Saturday work for you?\u201d if you\u2019re finding it\u2019s taking them too long to respond. You have to be sure that you\u2019re not putting in all of the work since that\u2019s bound to make anyone feel resentful, but you want to give them some control, so you\u2019re not suffocating them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be open and clear.<\/strong>
\nIf you\u2019re looking for something serious, make sure your single-and-loving-it guy or gal knows that. Just because they\u2019ve been single for a while doesn\u2019t necessarily mean they want something serious. They may just be seeing what\u2019s out there after a hiatus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they want something serious, let them know you understand that takes time to build trust and that you\u2019re willing to wait. You aren\u2019t going to wait forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be yourself.<\/strong>
\nThis is always the best dating advice because you want to be with someone who likes you for you and vice-versa. If you don\u2019t like being alone much and want to dive into something sooner rather than later, Mr. or Ms. Solo may not be your best bet for now. You may need to try out other options or get more comfortable with yourself and being alone instead of pretending you\u2019re on board with something you’re not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While dating someone who has been single for a while can be a little more work, the important thing to recognize is that they also have some real attractive qualities: they know what they want. They likely aren\u2019t willing to settle. They aren\u2019t going to be dating you as a rebound or to flee their fear of being alone. They’re going to be independent and okay being alone. Being with them and gaining their trust may take more work and time, but that slow burn might give you the long-term happiness you\u2019ve been hoping for.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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