As much as I loved learning in college and taking a variety of fascinating courses, I think the best part of my collegiate experience was meeting new people and connecting with friends, many of whom I’m still close to today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not too long ago I reunited with a college roommate at our alma mater. It might have been 14 years after we donned our caps and gowns together for our graduation ceremony but, once we were together, hanging out, eating, and laughing, it felt like yesterday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How is it possible to make friends in college that will last a lifetime? Here are some valuable tips that have worked for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Make sure your friendship is build on something substantial.<\/strong> Seek out people who make you feel good. <\/strong> Be the friend you want to have.<\/strong> Like attracts like. If you\u2019re someone who complains about having shallow and fast friendships, then you might be giving off those qualities yourself. Do you follow through with plans or do you bail? Are you true to your word or you do make a lot of excuses? Do you offer your shoulder to a friend in need despite being in the middle of a Netflix binge? Be the friend you want, and you\u2019ll end up meeting the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Prioritize connection.<\/strong> If you can\u2019t get together, then make sure to check in with your friend and get some intel into what\u2019s going on with their lives. If your friend is being a little distant or busy, let them know that you\u2019re thinking about them and want to connect. Sometimes we get so wrapped up with our own lives we just don\u2019t realize that we\u2019re being MIA. When we don\u2019t make the time for connection, then it\u2019s easy for friendships to slip away. Sending a daily text, even if that means a goofy GIF, helps keep the connection alive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Have realistic expectations and respect your differences. Also, be prepared for change: people change, and as a result, so do our relationships. Allow your friendship to evolve and grow, and commit yourself to the transitions no matter how difficult they can be (unless it becomes toxic, then you can bid adieu). When in doubt, communicate how you feel with your friend so you can find a common ground.<\/p>\n\n\n\n After college, life gets even more complicated and crazy and amazing\u2014which is why you want a group, or a handful, of solid friendships to join you on the incredible ride. By taking heed of these tips, you might very well friends in college that will last a lifetime, and take it from me\u2014there\u2019s nothing better than an old friend who remembers you back then.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" #3) Be the friend you want to have. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":61,"featured_media":19117,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[994],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19116","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\nIt\u2019s easy to fall into fast friendships in college especially when everything and everyone is new. A simple smile can go a long way. But it\u2019s important to remember that long-lasting friendships are built on similar values\u2060\u2014and not just how many tequila shots you can take before you puke. Do you have things in common, like interests and activities? Are the things you value in life\u2014for example, honesty and reliability\u2014aligned with theirs? Look past the superficial and seek the substantial.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nAs you get to know your friends in college, take notice of their qualities. Are they trustworthy? Do they communicate openly and honestly? Are they encouraging and supportive? Do you feel good when you\u2019re around them? Friendships are a wonderful ingredient to our lives when they provide a fun and safe haven for us. If our friends uplift us and remind us of our worth, while also allowing us to let our hair down, then those are amazing qualities that have the right stuff to make it for the long-term.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nWhat kind of friendship do you most crave? What kind of friend do you want in your life? Maybe the qualities you desire include compassion, kindness, support, and encouragement. If so, then in order to attract that type of friendship into your life, you must be able to embody them yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nCollege life, and life after college, can get pretty busy. Factor in work, internships, and romantic relationships, and sometimes our friendships take the back burner into our lives. Like any relationship in our lives, friendships require nurturing in order to grow. Take the time to organize an afternoon or a night when you and your friend(s) can hang out and reconnect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n<\/strong>People have different needs, and different languages of love\u2014including our friends. How you communicate your appreciation and devotion to a friendship might very well be different than your friends. Maybe you like talking on FaceTime a few times a week while your friend would prefer meeting you for a coffee on the weekend to catch up. When we fail to realize that we have unique needs and expressions of love, then it\u2019s easy to get frustrated and disappointed with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n