{"id":19204,"date":"2019-08-28T10:00:16","date_gmt":"2019-08-28T17:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19204"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:38:20","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:38:20","slug":"moving-at-the-same-pace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/moving-at-the-same-pace\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You and Your Date Moving at the Same Pace?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When you first start dating someone new, it\u2019s easy to get swept up in the honeymooning. Each moment is new, exciting, and special. But whether you\u2019re taking things slow and falling head over heels, it\u2019s important to make sure you\u2019re both moving at the same pace.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s no such thing as the \u201cright\u201d speed for a new relationship. Some couples rush into things and have long, happy relationships; others take it slow and still end up fizzling out. But whatever your speed, you have to be on the same page.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re not sure where you stand in your new relationship, ask yourself these five questions.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Do you both initiate conversations?
\n<\/strong>The most obvious way to tell if you\u2019re moving at the same pace is to compare who initiates texts and phone conversations more often. Sure, some people suck at texting, but if one of you consistently fails to reply, it could be a sign that you\u2019re moving at different speeds.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. <\/strong>Are you both investing the same amount of time, effort, and interest in seeing each other?
\n<\/b>Ask yourself if you\u2019re the only one making compromises. Do you always work around their schedule? Do you always travel to meet them? Do you always put their needs over your own? If one person seems to do all of the heavy lifting of reaching out and suggesting dates, it\u2019s not a good sign. It takes two people to make a relationship work.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Do you keep starting and stopping?
\n<\/strong>It\u2019s one thing to move at a slow pace, but it\u2019s entirely to have a start stop dynamic. Your relationship should always be progressing, whether fast or slow. If a ton of time passes between every date or conversation, the rhythm will likely slow.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Are your friends worried?<\/strong>
\nYou know that friend who is always brutally honest about how they feel about your partner, especially at first when the relationship is new? Whether you want to hear it or not, their outside insights and advice are probably right. If they\u2019ve raised any red flags or questions, it may be a sign you\u2019re not moving at the same pace.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 5. What does your gut tell you?
\n<\/strong>If you\u2019re not sure about the direction and speed at which things are heading with someone, that uncertainty may be a sign. Ask your gut and really listen to what it says. If it feels like something is off, there\u2019s a good chance there is.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moving at the same pace as your partner is important because it means you both want the same things and are happy with the speed at which you\u2019re discovering them. Check in with each other here and there to make sure you\u2019re both on the same page. Otherwise, someone\u2019s feelings might get hurt\u2014and nobody wants that.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It’s important you both are on the same page.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":79,"featured_media":19205,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[884],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19204","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nAre You and Your Date Moving at the Same Pace?<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"It's important that you and your date are going at the same speed. Otherwise, prepare for some hurt feelings. 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