{"id":19377,"date":"2019-10-28T10:00:57","date_gmt":"2019-10-28T17:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19377"},"modified":"2022-06-30T07:22:33","modified_gmt":"2022-06-30T14:22:33","slug":"dating-advice-for-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-men\/dating-advice-for-men\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Pieces of Dating Advice for Men Who Are Fresh Out Of a Breakup"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You\u2019re newly single but still licking your wounds. You\u2019ve got to get back out there, but you\u2019re not quite sure where to start. The healing process is full of ups and downs, and there\u2019s no way to know when you\u2019ll be over your ex before you are. Everyone\u2019s process is different. The only thing for sure is that breakups aren\u2019t easy. They\u2019re painful and confusing. But you do have to get out there. That\u2019s part of it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are the five best tips for men fresh out of a breakup. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Figure Out What You Want. <\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This is one of the most important dating tips for men<\/a>. Are you looking to date or rebound? There\u2019s a big difference, and you owe it to yourself and your dates to figure it out. Sometimes we think we\u2019re ready to venture back into the ocean when our wounds are still fresh. It\u2019s different for everyone, so don\u2019t shame yourself if it takes longer than you expected. Some relationships are long gone once you the breakup button. Maybe you\u2019ve felt detached from your ex for a while, so you\u2019re ready for someone new. So when you think about dating, ask yourself: do you want casual companionship, or are you looking for something deeper?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Check in With Yourself <\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t gauge your readiness to date based on how hot you are for someone new. Do some real soul-searching before you go back into swipe mode, or even attempt to start dating again. How do you feel? Are you still grieving your ex? Ask yourself the tough questions, but you need to get real. You can\u2019t know what you\u2019re looking for until you know how you\u2019re feeling now. Remember, dating has its own ups and downs, so don\u2019t go dragging yourself or someone into a mess if you\u2019re not sure what you can offer. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Know Your Triggers<\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Breakups thow us hard, even if you\u2019re strong. Be aware of your triggers. It\u2019s common to have an anxiety spike your first time texting someone new. Allow yourself the vulnerability, but figure out what sets you off. It\u2019s really easy to pull our baggage into the present, especially when the breakup is so fresh. Communicate with your dates if you think it\u2019s affecting a new relationship and be sensitive to your needs.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try to figure out what parts of you need to be healed when it comes to dating, either through a therapy or self-reflection. There is a path forward, and you\u2019ll find it, even sooner, if you\u2019re smart about it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Take Things Slow<\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

New relationships are distance runs not sprints. This tip is particularly good tip for people fresh off a break. Take your time. Date around. Flirt. Don\u2019t insist on taking things to the next level until you\u2019re ready. Have fun! Dating can be an adventure if you let it. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Communicate.  <\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Communication is the backbone of all relationships whether you\u2019re at the beginning stages or years into a marriage. The earlier you begin communicating openly with your dates, the better your connection will be. It\u2019s important for everybody to be on the same page. If you\u2019re looking for something low-key, be upfront about that. When you like someone, take it slow and be open about that, too. There\u2019s no need to rush into something new. The more clarity you bring to dating, the easier it will be for everyone. Plus, it\u2019s just respectful and considerate to let someone know you\u2019re not ready for something serious if they\u2019re looking for something that is. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ultimately when it comes to dating after a breakup, it\u2019s about listening to your gut and being true to yourself. What are you willing to offer to someone else, and what are you ready to receive in return? As long as you keep making empowered and clear choices with your dating life, in time, you will learn to trust and love again.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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