{"id":19453,"date":"2019-12-02T09:30:02","date_gmt":"2019-12-02T17:30:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19453"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:25:43","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:25:43","slug":"moving-in-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/moving-in-together\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Make Moving In Together Work"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Moving in with your partner is a huge step. When you’re moving in together, you get someone to come home to at the cost of space and independence. But if you\u2019re serious, it has to happen eventually. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite what you gain, sometimes it can feel like you\u2019re losing a lot. Follow these tips to make the moving in process feel like you\u2019re gaining much more than you\u2019re losing. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t Make Assumptions<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before making any big moves, talk to your partner about every piece of the puzzle, especially the things you think you don\u2019t need to. The last thing you want is radio silence, everything should be talked out. Moving is one of the most challenging things you can do together. Don\u2019t add to the test by leaving things unsaid.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do Compromise<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have a finite amount of space. Now that space is split. Let\u2019s say you have the apartment and your partner is moving into your place. That doesn\u2019t mean that your partner is expected to get rid of all of their things and will just be using your things. Say the opposite is true and you\u2019re the one moving in. That doesn\u2019t mean that you should expect your partner to clear their apartment to accommodate your stuff. Talk about what stays and goes and try to strike a balance. If you find that you\u2019re keeping all your belongings, talk to your partner and make sure that they feel they have a say in what stays, even if they\u2019re the one moving in. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Know when to let an argument go<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your partner has an awesome dining room set that was given to them by their grandmother. But you kind of like your dining room set. However, you\u2019ve already decided to keep your bed and your living room couch and your TV. You want to keep your dining room set too and you start to push for it. This is when it\u2019s important to put yourself in your partner\u2019s shoes. Does your set have the same sentimental value? If not, then maybe this is one argument that\u2019s really not worth having. It\u2019s okay to argue a bit, although try staying rational and empathetic throughout the debate. If you can\u2019t rationalize fighting for something, then maybe it\u2019s best to just let it go. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Set up separate spaces<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s very easy to say that you and your partner will be fine sharing a studio apartment. But it\u2019s much harder in practice. It\u2019s one room that you will be sharing with no place for each of you to get any time alone. Loving your partner doesn\u2019t negate the need for solitude sometimes. No matter where you are living, figure out what space can be yours before you move in. If you\u2019re able to find a place within your budget that\u2019s a one bedroom, you\u2019ll know that, at the very least if you need quiet time, you can escape to the bedroom while your partner is in the living area. If your budget only allows for studio apartments, try to figure out if there\u2019s somewhere in or outside of the building you can go. Perhaps the building has a nice seating area outside that you can spend some time in when you need quiet. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Figure out finances before you make the move<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You wouldn\u2019t talk to your roommates after you moved in about the rent. You\u2019d figure that out beforehand, along with utilities and amenities. Talk to your partner about how you want to handle finances. Maybe you want to talk about opening up a joint bank account? If that\u2019s too big of a step for the time being, maybe you\u2019re more comfortable using your own account. Either way, figure out what works for you so that you\u2019re fairly paying your bills and neither of you feels that payments are one-sided. Remember that monthly bills go beyond rent. Is your partner expecting you to pay half of the groceries though they have a tendency to buy $15 pints of artisanal ice cream? Make sure to talk that out and figure out a budget before extra outgoings fill you with resent.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t mistake a night on the couch for date night<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sure, it\u2019s nice to have nights in and cuddle. But those nights in change when they are happening every night. Netflix and chill takes on a whole new connotation when you can do it every night. Remember to pencil in date nights that fall outside of what you do every other day of the week. It\u2019s okay to stay in if you\u2019re the kind of couple that doesn\u2019t much like going out for a night on the town. But make those nights different from your couch potato evenings. Try making pasta from scratch or inviting some friends over for a double date board game party. Still try to make dates into a night out every now and then because it\u2019s never healthy to be in the same four walls every night. You can still have a relaxed night, like going to a museum, if you\u2019re not the partying type.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You may lose some independence and solitude by moving in with your partner. But, in return, you get someone to come home to who makes you feel happy, safe and comfortable. Though it may take some work to get to that place of comfort, it\u2019s worth it in the long run when you can safely snuggle on your couch knowing that you\u2019re a team. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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