{"id":19481,"date":"2019-12-11T11:00:03","date_gmt":"2019-12-11T19:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19481"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:25:07","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:25:07","slug":"first-date-outfit-for-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/first-date-outfit-for-women\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Pick the Perfect First Date Outfit: The Definitive Guide for Women"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I give dating advice for a living, and I studied fashion during undergrad, but picking a first date outfit has always presented a problem for me. I hate picking a first date outfit so much, that for a long time I purposely scheduled dates for right after work so that I wouldn\u2019t have time to go home and change.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why on earth would I want to wear my office attire to a date when it\u2019s not my usual style at all? Because otherwise, I would totally overthink my first date outfit! I felt like nothing in my wardrobe resembled any of the girly, flirty, semi-conservative outfits I would always see in magazines as suggestions for first date looks.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 It\u2019s ironic because I\u2019ve always dressed in a way that\u2019s arguably a little too sexy, which you may think is something I\u2019d want to wear for a date. But, I didn\u2019t want to give off the wrong message when going on a first date with a guy who might make assumptions. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Since using dating apps heavily during my late college years, my style, my self-confidence and attitude towards dating has evolved. I no longer prefer to go on a first date in my office attire, but you definitely won\u2019t see me in the floral sundress and jean jacket combo that every woman\u2019s magazine is suggesting for a first date either.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Top Tips to Pick the Perfect First Date Outfit<\/b><\/h5>\n\n\n\n
  1. Throw all the first date outfit advice you\u2019ve ever heard out the window<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    We\u2019ve been programmed to think the perfect first date outfit is meant to look a certain way: flattering without being too sexy or showing too much skin, girly but with a dash of tomboy so that you don\u2019t appear \u201chigh maintenance,\u201d and overall, pretty plain and neutral as to not offend any potential date.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I want you to throw that antiquated rule book at the window! Because guess what? If your super high heels turn off your 5\u20198\u201d date, then he\u2019s probably not the right guy for you. If your spiked choker freaks your date out, you probably wouldn\u2019t see eye to eye on many other, more serious issues.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It may sound harsh, but the way you dress is an important expression of yourself. You don\u2019t want to date someone who wants to change your wardrobe and style. And, you can make a reasonable assumption that your wardrobe won\u2019t be the only thing your date wants to change about you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1. Pick your natural style – don\u2019t dull down or dress up!<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Even after following step 1, it can be easy to instinctually tone down your usually edgy style or trade your usual jeans for a flirty mini skirt in hopes of winning over a date. But, while we all want to put our best faces forward on a date, you want to make sure it\u2019s <\/span>your<\/span><\/i> face, not the face of a woman you think is every guy\u2019s dream girl.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Don\u2019t focus so much on trying to make your date like you. Instead, focus on getting to know your date and deciding if you like him and\/or if you two are compatible. If you focus too much on trying to get your date to like you (a mistake a lot of women make), you\u2019ll end up putting forward an inauthentic, and probably less interesting, version of yourself. This may ironically result in your date not finding you as irresistible as you truly are, because he\u2019s not getting to know the real you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Or, perhaps he\u2019ll like the watered-down, dream girl version, and you\u2019ll end up in a relationship where you feel like you\u2019re always pretending to be someone else. Neither option is great. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      By being yourself, you give your date the option to really get to know you and decide if he sees a future, or at least a fun time, with you. And if you don\u2019t vibe? No worries, that frees up your time to find someone that does vibe with your real personality.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Wear something you would normally wear out to dinner with your girlfriends, don\u2019t get caught up in wearing the kind of thing that men allegedly like a woman to wear. Contrary to what you\u2019ve heard, not all men are the same, and if he\u2019s a catch, he\u2019ll want to meet the real you! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      1. Wear something that makes you feel good<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        If you\u2019re still stuck on what to wear, focus on choosing something that makes you feel good. Something that makes you feel confident, sexy, and awesome! Chances are, that means nothing that\u2019s uncomfortable or too unlike what you\u2019d usually wear.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        This, of course, is different for everyone. I\u2019m pretty comfortable in heels and they make me feel much more confident, so I nearly always wear heels on a date (unless we\u2019re going hiking). For you, this could completely not be the case, and that\u2019s totally fine too. Remember, it\u2019s okay to stand out and dressing to make yourself feel good is the best way to look good! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        1. Always bring a jacket \u2014 and maybe an extra pair of shoes<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

           <\/b>While there\u2019s always the clich\u00e9 of asking your date for his jacket, the realist in me always likes to make sure I bring a jacket on a date. And, since I\u2019m almost always driving myself to a first date, I also have a pair of sneakers in my car.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          You never know when a great first date can lead from a casual coffee to a 30-minute walk around the park, and I don\u2019t want to have to turn that down because I decided to wear heels. I also know myself and know that I would cut a date short if I was feeling too chilly \u2014 this goes back to wearing something that makes me feel good. If I\u2019m freezing my butt off at the restaurant, I won\u2019t feel good!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Of course, in this vein of practicality, dress to the occasion. Don\u2019t show up to a hiking date in a minidress and don\u2019t show up to dinner in your favorite Lulu Lemon leggings.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          At the end of the day, picking a first date outfit is like anything else \u2014 practice makes perfect! I went through many years of choosing a more conservative, toned down outfit from my usual sexy, punky style before learning to own it. I\u2019ve also learned to enjoy getting ready for a first date in a pampering myself, self-care kind of way. It can be nice to take time to pretty yourself up and indulge in some pampering spoils. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          And guess what? If you find your magic formula, there\u2019s nothing wrong with wearing the same outfit on every first date you go on. I won\u2019t tell if you don\u2019t\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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