{"id":19559,"date":"2020-01-27T10:44:27","date_gmt":"2020-01-27T18:44:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19559"},"modified":"2023-11-22T12:50:43","modified_gmt":"2023-11-22T20:50:43","slug":"should-we-break-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/break-up\/should-we-break-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Should We Break Up? 10 Signs It&#8217;s Over"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships are never perfect. But if they leave you feeling unfulfilled, then it might be time to consider whether or not it\u2019s time to call quits on your relationship. Trying to decide should we break up is never easy, but staying in a relationship littered with red flags &#8212; not to mention a destination sign that reads \u201cNowhere\u201d &#8212; is way worse. Not sure whether you should throw in the towel? Here are 10 signs it\u2019s over.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>10 Signs To Look Out For When Trying To Decide Should We Break Up<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>You\u2019re spending more time with friends or alone<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you consistently prefer to spend your free time with friends or solo, that\u2019s a red flag. You\u2019re deciding that you would rather put your time and energy towards other people over your partner. The same goes if it\u2019s your partner choosing their friends over you. Another sign? Going on solo vacations. Yes, alone time is crucial but if you regularly prefer celebrating milestones and memories alone or with anyone but your significant other, then, yeah, it\u2019s over.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Sex? What sex?<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the idea of physical intimacy with your partner is no longer attractive and sex seems more like a chore , then yes, that\u2019s a red flag. If the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/no-chemistry-long-wait-know-sure\/\">chemistry is fading<\/a> and it has become more of a platonic partnership, this is not a healthy place to be in with a romantic relationship. Sure, every couple has their phases and transitions, especially the post-honeymoon phase, but if you\u2019re not physically or sexually attracted to your partner anymore, it\u2019s game over.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>They\u2019re not your go-to person anymore<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did you land a big client? Get a raise? Complete your manuscript? Typically we want to share our big moments with our partners. But if you\u2019ve achieved something amazing and find yourself texting your mom or BFF over your significant other? No bueno. This also goes for bad news. Your partner should be your first go-to person for the best and hardest bits in life. If they not, it may be time to reconsider.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>You don\u2019t feel like you can be yourself&nbsp;<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While it\u2019s normal to feel anxious or unsure about ourselves in relationships from time to time, not feeling confident to be yourself is a serious issue. You should feel comfortable to ask questions, state your needs and desires, and initiate tough conversations. Being real with your partner is an essential part of a happy and healthy relationship, and if you can\u2019t be authentic and communicate openly, perhaps it\u2019s not the relationship for you.&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>One-on-one time is no longer a priority&nbsp;<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you find that you never spend alone time anymore? For example, spending special occasions always include family and\/or friends? Weekends are spent entertaining or doing activities with others, never one-on-one? Your date nights have been replaced with group dates? If one of you keeps bailing on doing things together or won\u2019t commit to doing anything with you unless other people are involved, then that\u2019s a huge sign someone is also bailing on the relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Future planning quietly dies away<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maybe you used to discuss future plans, like buying a home together, traveling to Europe, getting married or having a homestead. But if those future plans are no longer being discussed, or if finding that your lifestyles or stages no longer align, then your relationship may not have a future. When you\u2019re trying to weigh up should we break up or not, honestly answer if you can imagine planning ahead together or not.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Their flaws become painfully obvious<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">True love is choosing to love someone in spite of their flaws. You might\u2019ve even loved your partner\u2019s quirks at the beginning of your relationship. After all, no one\u2019s perfect and that\u2019s what we do when we\u2019re in love. But if you\u2019re spending more time focusing on your partner\u2019s flaws and criticizing all the things in which they don\u2019t measure up, it\u2019s likely time that you end your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>You fight more<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The things you were able to dodge or avoid or ignore are no longer palatable. You can\u2019t help but sweat the small stuff. If you and your significant other are constantly bickering and finding fault there might be a bigger reason behind that. Typically, couples who bicker a lot have become incompatible. Sometimes once the glow of infatuation has faded, you discover that you\u2019re not actually great together. And that\u2019s ok too.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Your communication stalls<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There\u2019s no friendly chit chat or sharing about your day anymore. Texting each other and checking in is dying out. If you\u2019re not living together, you might not even hear from your significant others for days when before you would hear and see them every day. Or maybe you\u2019re avoiding your partner\u2019s texts. If you identify with any of the above, then your relationship may be sinking.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>You just know it\u2019s over<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Listen to your gut. If you feel like something\u2019s off, honor that feeling. So often we ignore that little voice in our heads that tells us something\u2019s not right often out of fear. Whether it\u2019s fear of being wrong, fear of conflict, or fear of being alone, fear can hold you back. But so often we know a relationship is over way before we actually bring us to do the deed. Listen to your heart and look at the evidence, and when in doubt, always trust your intuition.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;It\u2019s never easy trying to decide should we break up or not. Breakups are hard, but what\u2019s worse is staying in a relationship that won\u2019t ultimately fulfill you or give you the type of love and devotion you deserve and desire. If your relationship has one or more of the above signs, honestly assess the signals and admit when it\u2019s time to move on.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Wondering should we break up or not? 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