{"id":19576,"date":"2020-02-08T09:37:59","date_gmt":"2020-02-08T17:37:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19576"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:12:09","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:12:09","slug":"how-often-to-text-a-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/texting\/how-often-to-text-a-girl\/","title":{"rendered":"How Often To Text A Girl When Things Are New?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You met a girl who you really like. It\u2019s exciting! It\u2019s new! So naturally, you want to text her to get to know her and make plans to connect IRL. But how often to text a girl is spot on? You don\u2019t want to come off too strongly so that you scare her away. On the other hand, you don\u2019t want to appear too cold or flaky, and leave her thinking that you\u2019re not interested. Oy. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The art of texting in our modern dating society<\/a> is rarely black and white and is almost always complicated. It\u2019s true that your romantic future could be determined on how to balance this romantic high wire act \u2013 no pressure \u2013 but there\u2019s a magic formula to how often to text a girl when things are new. Read on to learn more\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How To Know How Often To Text A Girl<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did you just meet her?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve just met, or your connection is days old, you should always touch base sooner than later. That old \u201cwait x amount of days before you reach out\u201d is a load of fear-based crap. If you like someone and you\u2019re interested in getting to know her more, then text, my man, text! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you just met that day\/night, follow up with a text before bedtime or the next day and let her know that you enjoyed meeting her and would love to meet up IRL sometime. Keeping the momentum of that initial emotional connection is key. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep the texts 1:1 (or go slightly over)<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s true: you don\u2019t want to bombard her with a barrage of texts but you also don\u2019t want to appear skimpy with your messages either. Too much and she\u2019ll think you\u2019re borderline obsessed with her. Too little, and she\u2019ll assume you\u2019re stringing her along. Which is why keeping the text ratio 1:1 (for every text she sends, you send her one) is reasonable. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, I will say this: it\u2019s pretty common knowledge that often men don\u2019t love texting. If men don\u2019t think they should text something (i.e. it\u2019s not necessary or practical info), they won\u2019t. On the other hand, often women put far greater weight into building a text messaging rapport because they see it as creating a connection through interaction. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, I would argue that in the beginning of a new connection or relationship, it bodes well for the man to keep up with the 1:1 ratio and even reach a little beyond that. If you think sending a funny text is \u201csilly\u201d and your first reaction is not to send it, do the opposite. Send it. Chances are, she will love that you did and her connection with you will only increase. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consistency is important <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consistency is crucial at the beginning of any new connection. When you are consistent with your behavior and actions, she\u2019s able to trust that you are a man of your word and that allows the new woman in your life to feel safe and secure with you. When a woman feels safe and secure with you, she\u2019s able to open up to you and will be more excited to let you into her world. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Relationships take time to create, but what helps is continuously showing up. You can do this by establishing a daily rapport with her. Listen to her cues. Is she more available in the day or night? When is she more likely to respond? Initiate a conversation. Ask about her day. Find out what she\u2019s interested in. Women want someone who will not only genuinely listen to them but who\u2019s excited about them. Don\u2019t play silly \u201chard to get\u201d games. If you like her, let her know that. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Texting needn\u2019t be stressful<\/a> in the beginning. What\u2019s key for establishing a true connection is respect, authenticity and consistency. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Send that goofy text. Don\u2019t be afraid to show how much you\u2019re into her. By respecting a woman\u2019s space while also demonstrating consistent behavior (and letting your true personality shine through), you will keep her engaged and ready for more messages from you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bear in mind, everyone is different and there\u2019s no set timeline or guideline for working out how often to text a girl – so listen to your logic, trust your instinct and follow the feelings! <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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