{"id":19608,"date":"2020-02-20T09:20:07","date_gmt":"2020-02-20T17:20:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19608"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:11:23","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:11:23","slug":"understanding-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/understanding-men\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding Men: 4 Ways To Get To Know Him Better"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Let\u2019s be honest: men can be confusing. No doubt you find yourself deciphering his action, moods, and what his last text message <\/span>really<\/span><\/i> meant. Whether you\u2019ve been dating for three weeks or three months, his behavior still might confuse you. So how do you stop the madness and get a grasp on this \u201cmysterious\u201d man that you\u2019ve fallen for?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Follow the four ways below on how you can better <\/span>get to grips with understanding men<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning The Code: Understanding Men And Their Mystery<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share Your Vulnerable Side, First <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, it\u2019s not just you: <\/span>men can be emotional vaults.<\/span><\/a> Meaning they can struggle to show their most intimate emotions and can have trouble processing and expressing their feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re trying to get your man to open up or communicate, whether it\u2019s about the stress he\u2019s experiencing at his job or regarding a recent conflict, your best bet is to show your soft underbelly side first. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share a vulnerable story of your own that you feel comfortable with divulging. By sharing something personal and intimate with your man, you\u2019re showing him that you trust him and that you are a safe space for that type of communication. Hopefully, this will inspire him to do the same. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Play With Him <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men enjoy their downtime. They connect with their friends by doing things rather than talking about them. Which explains why they zone out whenever they play video games with their buddies or look forward to their Thursday night rock climbing gym night. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to get to know your man better, then do an activity together. While date nights are fun, actively engaging with him at a hobby that both of you love – or at least one that you\u2019re willing to try – will deepen your connection. It allows you to connect in new ways and show a different side to him. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask For His Advice<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most men enjoy problem-solving and are given to more logical thinking. Which explains why whenever you vent to him about your friends or family, he seems to come up with a solution, instead of just listening and letting you speak your piece.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It might be a little annoying at times, but wanting to fix something is naturally inherent to a majority of male thinking patterns. Use this to your advantage if you want to know how your man feels about a certain topic or situation. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask him for his advice. Get him to problem solve something with you. He\u2019ll feel useful, which he loves, and you will get to pick his brain and find out more about him. Solving an issue or problem together can be a great bonding experience<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let Him Have Some Space<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men love taking space because they love their freedom. That\u2019s not to say he doesn\u2019t want to be with you, but it\u2019s important for a man to have time to be with himself and he wants to know that you\u2019re okay with that. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So when he takes space, give it to him and use that time for you to do the things that you love to do. It\u2019s healthy for a couple to both have their own personal spaces away from each other. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When he reconnects, this is a great opportunity to ask him what he did in his spare time. Get curious about his life apart from your time together. You might even ask what activities he enjoys that refuels him. Ask how that makes him feel and why. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t take his desire for space as a personal rejection, instead, get curious about it! You\u2019ll end up knowing more about why it\u2019s important to him which will help you understand who he is when he\u2019s on his own.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men don\u2019t mean to be confusing. They\u2019re just built differently than a woman, and that\u2019s a good thing! Just as understanding men can be tricky for women, it\u2019s vice versa for men. We are all different, but you can complement each other with openness and trust.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Appreciating your differences is a good place to start whenever you start to wonder, \u201cwhat\u2019s this guy\u2019s deal?\u201d By sharing your vulnerability with him and getting curious about his life, while engaging in some play, you\u2019ll be able to better connect with him on multiple levels and be fast on the way to understanding him better. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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