{"id":19691,"date":"2020-03-29T15:02:54","date_gmt":"2020-03-29T22:02:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19691"},"modified":"2022-09-07T06:45:18","modified_gmt":"2022-09-07T13:45:18","slug":"dating-a-40-year-old-man","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/dating-a-40-year-old-man\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating a 40-Year-Old Man: 5 Essential Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Dating a 40-year-old is a dramatically different experience than dating a man in his 20s or 30s. The club scene isn\u2019t his zone. It\u2019s more likely that you\u2019ll find him watching football with his buddies than trying to twerk it on the dance floor. He\u2019s usually established in his career and knows a thing or two about investment portfolios. He\u2019s survived his 20s and 30s and matured as a result. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re looking for the adrenaline rush of drama, a salt-and-peppery fox isn\u2019t your guy. Drama is likely the last thing in the world he wants because he\u2019s been there and done that. He knows what he wants, and that isn\u2019t a woman who\u2019s going to blow up his phone all hours of the day. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he\u2019s in his 40s and single, he\u2019s also likely been married and\/or has children. He may be spending his life playing with Lego and wearing tiaras, but that doesn\u2019t mean he can\u2019t bring some sexiness and romance into your life. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dating a 40-year-old-man: five basics<\/b><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Men in their 40s are likely to be looking for women who are in similar life places, who are established in their careers and know what they want. If this is you and a McDreamy has caught your attention, you will need to approach things a little differently than you would with a younger man. Here are five things to consider before getting romantically involved with a 40+ fella.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

#1. Be clear and honest<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re into him, don\u2019t feel like you need to be coy. Men are used to having to bat and strike out a lot, and he\u2019ll have decades of this behind him. He will greatly appreciate it if you make your interest clear, and that you don\u2019t keep him guessing. If you <\/span>aren\u2019t<\/span><\/i> into this guy, be clear about that as well! He doesn\u2019t want his time wasted, and his feelings won\u2019t get hurt if you realize that he isn\u2019t the guy for you. Let him down easy. He can take it. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

#2. Don\u2019t play games<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The \u201cwait three days after you get a number\u201d rule doesn\u2019t apply to a 40 year old man. If he\u2019s interested in you, he\u2019ll reach out. He isn\u2019t going to treat love and relationships like a game because both of you could end up losing out. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important that you give up any pretense of playing games yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t play hard to get because then he\u2019s going to assume you\u2019re uninterested. Don\u2019t chat about other men in an attempt to \u201cmake him jealous\u201d because he\u2019s going to assume that you\u2019re into other guys. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, be straightforward and direct. Know that he\u2019s definitely going to do the same. Since he doesn\u2019t want you to waste your time with him if you\u2019re not interested, he\u2019s not going to do the same himself.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

#3. Don\u2019t assume he isn\u2019t going to want to have a family<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Just because he might be getting back into dating after a divorce<\/a> or may already have kids<\/a>, don\u2019t assume that he doesn\u2019t desire a second family. Men in their 40s are usually looking for partners. They know the value of companionship. If you\u2019re the lady for him and if he\u2019s the man for you, know you\u2019re going to have someone in your life willing to meet you halfway. A true teammate.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

#4. Give him his space<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Men in their 40s are likely to be professionals who go to bed early at night and wake up early every morning. You\u2019ll need to respect that he\u2019s a busy man who won\u2019t be able to respond immediately to your text messages. Even if you can\u2019t pay attention to your own work at all because this guy is on your mind, respect that he needs space to take care of his responsibilities, and use that time to take care of your own as well.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also be aware that he may need to maintain  boundaries if he has children. Most men wait to introduce their children to a new lady until they know that things are serious, so don\u2019t try to push or pry. Let him take it at his pace. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

#5. Communicate<\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Being straightforward and direct goes a long way, and so does making sure to continue to communicate what you\u2019re feeling, wanting, etc. A man in his 40s is more comfortable expressing himself and more willing to listen to you as well. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

While dating a 40-year-old man is different from <\/span>dating a younger guy<\/span><\/a>, you\u2019ll love how clear, communicative, and upfront he is. He won\u2019t waste your time or bring any extra drama into your life. The best thing you can do is give him the same. He may be a stable and secure fox, but don\u2019t count him out. He\u2019ll be looking for a real teammate, and he\u2019ll know how to treat you like the lady you are. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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