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To sext or not to sext? That is the question. Most of us may be staying home more and getting out less than usual these days, and maybe even going on a few Facetime dates instead of meeting cuties at our local dive bar. In these times, brushing up on your sexting skills and etiquette seems even more necessary than usual.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Here are some crucial dos and don\u2019ts of sexting so that you, your partner, and your reputation are feeling good and having fun, even if you\u2019re stuck at home.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 <\/span>DO: Establish Trust<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 First and foremost, make sure you trust your partner and that your partner can trust you. If you expect your partner to keep the photos or messages that you send private, you should do the same. If you\u2019re not comfortable sending something, your partner should not try to persuade you otherwise. Sexting should be fun for both parties, it should not involve any sort of pressure, persuasion, or discomfort.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

My personal philosophy on the sexting text is that: if you don\u2019t want someone else to see it, you shouldn\u2019t send it. Even if you trust your partner, we\u2019ve all seen what hackers can uncover from cloud photo storage. You also don\u2019t know if your data or your partner\u2019s cell phone may end up in the wrong hands. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t need to avoid sending photos if that\u2019s something you\u2019re into, just be cognizant of what you\u2019re sending and consider hiding your face or other distinguishable details.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

DON\u2019T: Expect Everything from Sexting to Happen IRL<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A common issue that seems to come up with sexting is that many of us are bolder behind our cell phone screens than in real life. But you know what? That\u2019s okay! Just like you may watch porn that is more extreme than something you would try in real life; you may want to verbally indulge in some fantasies that you have no interest in actually partaking in physically. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, you may want to communicate some of these things to your partner so that they don\u2019t get the wrong idea and try something that you\u2019re not comfortable with. On the flip side, understand that a sexting text conversation may not guarantee that sex will actually happen in real life, and that your partner may be shyer or less aggressive than their texts may lead you to believe.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

DO: Ask for Consent<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Okay so, you trust your partner, that\u2019s great! But that doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s always a good time to send a sexting text, just like it\u2019s not always a great time to initiate sex. Instead of sending an explicit photo or text out of blue, try sending a message that says, \u201cI just took a photo of my …. Do you want to see it?\u201d Or, \u201cI just had a really sexy dream about you\u2014do you want me to tell you about it?\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because of gender stereotypes in our society, many of us think that all men would be happy to receive a sext at all hours of the day. In your experience this may be true, but that doesn\u2019t always mean your partner is free or in the right headspace to engage in a sexual conversation. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wouldn\u2019t you rather your boyfriend not respond to your text asking if he wants to see a sexy photo rather than him not respond to an actual sexy photo? Think of <\/span>asking for consent<\/span><\/a> like the foreplay of sexting, even in the enthusiastic moments! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

DON\u2019T: Give a One Word Response<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

We can\u2019t all be writers, but we can all try. You don\u2019t enjoy having sex with someone who mostly just lays there, right? You probably also won\u2019t enjoy sexting with someone who sends one-word answers or emoji responses while you\u2019re on your way to writing the next <\/span>50 Shades of Grey<\/span><\/i>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re really not into sexting or not comfortable<\/span> dirty talking<\/span><\/a> over text, this is something you may want to communicate to your partner, so they don\u2019t take it personally when you only \u201clike\u201d the racy photo they sent you over iMessage last night. If you\u2019re interested in sexting, but shy or worried about saying the wrong thing, practice makes perfect! Here are some things to get you started:<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Inspiration to send a good sexting text:<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n