{"id":19761,"date":"2020-04-09T09:25:32","date_gmt":"2020-04-09T16:25:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19761"},"modified":"2021-05-31T08:07:42","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T15:07:42","slug":"40-and-single-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-in-your-40s\/40-and-single-2\/","title":{"rendered":"40 And Single: It’s Not Too Late To Meet Someone Great"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

It can be a shock to find yourself in your forties, and newly single again. Maybe you thought you\u2019d be with your ex forever, and you never saw this coming. Maybe you thought you\u2019d have found your person by now, but for whatever reason, you haven\u2019t. Or maybe you\u2019ve been dating for a while now, and you\u2019re struggling to find someone great. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Either way, being single in your forties is nothing to be ashamed of, and it\u2019s not as daunting or difficult as it may seem. You\u2019re not alone. And if you\u2019re ready to meet someone new, there are plenty of great singletons out there who are excited to meet you too! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

40 and Single? How To Meet Someone Amazing <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get online<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019ve not yet tried online dating, this is the best place to start when you\u2019re 40 and single. Especially if hanging out in bars and clubs isn\u2019t your thing anymore, and your single social circle has shrunk over the past few years.  <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It may be a whole new world to you that didn\u2019t exist the last time you were dating, but don\u2019t panic. It\u2019s not as scary once you\u2019ve got a few matches, and sent your first few messages.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you consider yourself technologically challenged, then ask someone you trust to help you out and get your profile set up. It can be fun to start this process with a friend or family member by your side. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Make an effort<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re in your 20s, you can get away without trying very hard and there can be a lot of game playing. But as you get older, putting in effort becomes much more important – for both sexes. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t know what the ex-partners of the people you\u2019re dating would have been like. They may have been used to gender equality in their relationships; with both people putting in equal effort when it comes to planning things, taking care of the kids, and looking after the home. The dating game today is quite different from what it was 20 years ago! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nobody likes to be the one putting in all the effort, so be sure to show them you\u2019re willing to meet them halfway. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Know what you want (but don\u2019t get hung up on it)<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you find yourself 40 and single, you have had enough life experience to what you want. Your past experiences may have accumulated baggage, but you can use this insight to your advantage. Divorces, exes, children, and so many different experiences give you invaluable wisdom and knowledge about yourself and what you value in relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So while it\u2019s important to not be rigid with a list of requirements, it\u2019s also important to know what you want and what\u2019s a deal-breaker for you. <\/span>Don\u2019t just settle<\/span><\/a> – you deserve a partner that meets your important needs and desires. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you okay if they travel a lot for work?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you mind if they have children?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Are you looking to start a family? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t box yourself in and be unwilling to compromise on what you want, because you might end up missing someone amazing. <\/span>For example, just because they aren\u2019t as tall as you\u2019d like, it doesn\u2019t mean you should write them off. Be willing to be flexible and see where that can take you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Open your heart<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you reach 40 <\/span>without <\/span><\/i>having had your heart broken, you\u2019re one of the lucky ones. And if you have had a bad experience, it can cause you to close your heart. But if you want to meet someone new, you have to find a way to be open again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wearing your heart on your sleeve may have led to you being hurt in the past, but <\/span>being vulnerable<\/span><\/a> is key to a healthy, happy relationship. We can\u2019t give or receive love fully if we have our guard up, so try your best to bring it down, and find the courage to open your heart again.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reclaim your confidence<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s easy to doubt yourself when you find yourself single at 40. You might be thinking, \u201cwhat\u2019s wrong with me? Why can\u2019t I get my life together? Why is it so easy for everyone else to find love?\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I understand where you\u2019re coming from. But throwing yourself a pity party isn\u2019t helping anyone. Sometimes life won\u2019t go as planned, and that\u2019s okay.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So think about what is going great in your life today. Maybe you\u2019re making real progress in your career or your business. Or your kids are doing well in school. Or you\u2019re in a positive habit of working out regularly and eating healthy. High fives for that! <\/span>You don\u2019t need a partner to feel confident within. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be patient<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Putting age aside, many of us are in a rush to find love. But you know what they say? You just can\u2019t hurry love. You can show up, make an effort, and do everything right, and you still might be in for a little wait. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be patient<\/span><\/a>, and trust that you\u2019ll meet someone great when you\u2019re meant to. The right match is out there, waiting to meet you too! <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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