{"id":19820,"date":"2020-05-12T10:06:59","date_gmt":"2020-05-12T17:06:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19820"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:57:06","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:57:06","slug":"signs-hes-pretending-not-to-like-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-women\/signs-hes-pretending-not-to-like-you\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Signs He\u2019s Pretending Not to Like You (And Why)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Mixed signals are the worst. How are you supposed to know if that cute guy from your favorite coffee shop is crushing on you, or just doing his job? What about that guy in your class who\u2019s always poking fun at you, but you feel it might mean something more? If you want to know the signs he’s pretending not to like you, and why he would do this, we have the lowdown! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are a few reasons why a guy may be pretending not to like you or playing down his interest. He might think you\u2019re taken, or you wouldn\u2019t be interested in him. If you\u2019re co-workers or classmates or even just really good friends, he may worry about potential awkwardness if his feelings got out. However, in most cases, if a guy can\u2019t be upfront about his interest in you, he\u2019s probably not worth your time. So let’s take a closer look. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some signs he might be pretending not to like you, but is secretly interested. Plus, reasons why he may be giving you these mixed signals.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to tell if he\u2019s pretending not to like you…<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. He\u2019s always teasing you<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    It\u2019s the classic example dating all the way back to pre-school! The guy that always seems to give you attention but in the form of teasing or pranking, rather than telling you how great you are. If a guy seems to spend extra time teasing you specifically, this could be one of the signs he\u2019s pretending not to like you, but<\/span> secretly does<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    This type of behavior can make sense in a workplace, classroom, or another place where you may be casually hanging out and seeing each other regularly, so he doesn\u2019t want to be overtly flirty.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Some guys simply flirt in this way rather than in the more romantic way of doing things, especially if he\u2019s a natural goofball. Think about how you\u2019re always teasing your close friends or family members because you feel comfortable with them. It can sometimes mean you like someone a lot! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1. He takes interest in your dating life (but never talks about his)<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Do you have a guy friend who is always asking you about your dating life or significant other? This could be one of the signs he\u2019s pretending not to like you as more than a friend. Chances are, he may be particularly interested in your love life because he wants to see if you\u2019re single or going to be single anytime soon. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      He may also be taking notes about what you like and don\u2019t like in your relationships for future reference. This is even more true if he never seems to want to talk about his dating life. If he says he\u2019s not seeing anyone when you ask, or he finds another way to brush it off, it\u2019s because he subtly wants you to know he\u2019s available if you\u2019re ever interested.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      The only caveat would be: if he\u2019s a player, he may not want you to know about his dating life, so you don\u2019t think he\u2019s a heartbreaker!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      1. He\u2019s always checking up on you<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        Even if he\u2019s not always asking you about your current boo; if he\u2019s constantly asking you about your new job, your tough classes, how you\u2019re adjusting to your new apartment, etc., it means he cares. Not only because he\u2019s asking, but because he remembered the details and then remembered to ask! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Of course, he could just be a really great friend, but most guys aren\u2019t always this attentive, so it could definitely be a sign he\u2019s secretly more into you than he lets on.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        1. He seems to always be around<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

          Do you think it\u2019s a coincidence that he\u2019s always stopping into the restaurant you waitress at? Or that he always \u201chappens to be in the neighborhood\u201d when he texts you? This could certainly be a sign that he\u2019s pretending not to like you, but actually can\u2019t get enough.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          This may be his way of getting to spend time with you while making it seem casual and not actually having to ask you on a proper date. However, unless there\u2019s a circumstance in which he might want to avoid coming on too strong (for example you\u2019re seeing someone), this might be a red flag depending on your preferences. Some women may prefer a guy who is direct with his intentions and makes purposeful plans, but that\u2019s something you have to ask yourself!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          1. He jokes about you two being together<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

            This sign  probably means the most. If he makes jokes such as, \u201cif we were married, you\u2019d probably nag me all the time about my cigar smoking,\u201d or \u201ctoo bad we aren\u2019t just dating, would save us both the trouble of these<\/span> dang dating apps<\/span><\/a>,\u201d he\u2019s definitely into you at least a little bit, even if he\u2019s not ready to admit it yet.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Okay, so I think he likes me. What now?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Okay, so you\u2019ve read all the signs he\u2019s pretending not to like you and they\u2019re ringing true. Now, what do you do? Many dating experts would say things like if he\u2019s giving you mixed signals, that\u2019s a signal you should move on and they may be onto something. After all, do you really want to spend your time and effort on a guy who\u2019s pretending not to like you instead of giving you the love and attention you really deserve from a relationship?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

            However, there are of course exceptions. He could think you\u2019re in a relationship, want to avoid an awkward situation, or maybe he\u2019s just really, really, really shy and not great with girls.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

            If you really think you\u2019re into him, I would recommend making a move (even a small one) to see if he bites. If all goes well, maybe he\u2019ll finally realize you\u2019re feeling him too and you guys can both stop beating around the bush! Good luck!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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