{"id":19838,"date":"2020-05-21T10:08:15","date_gmt":"2020-05-21T17:08:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19838"},"modified":"2024-03-20T07:07:32","modified_gmt":"2024-03-20T14:07:32","slug":"how-to-date-online","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/online-dating\/how-to-date-online\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Date Online: 6 Simple Steps to Success"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We live in a world where <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/qz.com\/1546677\/around-40-of-us-couples-now-first-meet-online\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nearly 40 percent of heterosexual couples meet online<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. If you\u2019re looking for a same-sex relationship, that number is even higher. The chances of meeting someone in \u201creal life\u201d have been shrinking steadily year after year and, if you\u2019re not on a dating app, there\u2019s a really good chance that you\u2019re missing out on making connections.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But online dating can be an overwhelming thing, and you might not feel like you know how to date online successfully. There are so many apps out there and you literally get one chance, one photo, one caption, to make a good impression. Otherwise, your perfect match could be swiping left. Follow these simple rules to make strong connections and meet the person you\u2019ve been looking for.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>Here\u2019s How to Date Online Successfully&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Figure out what you\u2019re looking for before downloading<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There\u2019s a ton of apps out there and just downloading Tinder for the hundredth time isn\u2019t really going to be any better than the first if you still don\u2019t know what you\u2019re looking for. Once upon a time, Tinder was <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> app. Or at least <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">the <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">app you didn\u2019t have to pay for.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nowadays, that\u2019s just not the case. There are dating apps for couples and poly people. There are dating apps for <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/online-dating-tips\/swipe-dating-apps\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">different religions<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. There are dating apps for casual hook-ups or people looking for long term love.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There\u2019s a lot of options out there and it\u2019s a lot easier to meet the right person if you\u2019re looking on an app for people who are looking for the same thing as you. So be honest with yourself about what you\u2019re looking for and what kinds of people you want to make connections with.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Don\u2019t skip the bio. Or write that you\u2019re skipping the bio<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you just post photos or if you write, \u201cIf you want to know, message me,\u201d you\u2019ve already announced to your potential matches that you don\u2019t care. It\u2019s not mysterious. It\u2019s just kind of obnoxious.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You couldn\u2019t take the time to write a bio so you\u2019re not going to be someone who anyone is going to want to take the time to get to know. It generally screams, \u201cI\u2019m just here to hook up,\u201d which is fine if you\u2019re just here to hook up. But if you\u2019re looking for long-term connections, put some time into your bio.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you want people to see you? What matters to you? Being authentic in your bio is very appreciated. But honest and be a little vulnerable. Say what you\u2019re looking for and be honest about what makes you unique.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Avoid the cliches<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tinder bingo is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/220887556704310630\/?lp=true\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">a thing<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. So take the time to know the cliches and make an effort to set yourself apart. Seriously, it\u2019s very tiring to see photo after photo of a man holding a fish. We still don\u2019t know why those photos are so common and yet Tinder fish are everywhere.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your bio and photos are swimming with cliches, it\u2019ll make any potential match think that there\u2019s not much to know about you. You seem, for lack of a better term, basic. Make an effort to talk about things that are unique to you. There\u2019s something that makes you special. Take the time to show it.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Message when you match<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether you\u2019re a guy or a girl doesn\u2019t matter. If you\u2019re into someone and you matched with them, talk to them. Don\u2019t play the \u201cwho\u2019s going to message first\u201d game. Just message them. If you leave someone sitting in your matches, after a while, that\u2019s where they will stay.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019ll both eventually forget that they are there. And your chance at a potential connection is gone. If you never message, your match will simply think you\u2019re not that interested. Meanwhile, you\u2019re at home thinking that they\u2019re not messaging because they\u2019re not interested. It\u2019s scary to message first. It really stings if they don\u2019t message back. But that\u2019s a risk you have to take if you want to meet someone.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Have fun with your message<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What\u2019s the kind of conversation you want to have? Whatever it is, open with it. The best relationships from apps I\u2019ve ever had have opened with a conversation about the kind of dictator Santa is in the North Pole and what the best bad movie on \u201cMystery Science Theatre\u201d is.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They were weird and wonderful conversations that led to weird and wonderful relationships. Start your messages with the cards on the table: this is me and this is what I like to talk about. If they\u2019re game, they\u2019ll respond and you might have just found an awesome connection. If not, you don\u2019t have to waste your time talking about the local weather for the fiftieth time.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><b>Take it off the app as soon as you\u2019re ready<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Facing facts, messaging on most apps is not that great. It feels somewhat impersonal. If you\u2019ve met someone a week ago and you\u2019re still talking on the app, it just feels that something is wrong. Is there a reason you\u2019re hesitant to give them your number? If so, you definitely don\u2019t want to meet them in real life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But if you\u2019re ready to meet someone, make the jump to put them in your phone. It\u2019s easier to text than it is to keep opening the app to talk. Conversations die out easily when you both have to keep opening the app. It\u2019s easy to miss a message if you don\u2019t get a notification and then suddenly you think that your match never responded.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Online dating seems like a new and scary world but it can open the door to better relationships than you might know. Once you take the leap and experience how to date online, you\u2019ll quickly get the hang of it! With the wealth of all different kinds of apps out there, you can meet someone who is looking for someone just like you!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The basics of online dating done right! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":156,"featured_media":19839,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[888,980],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19838","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-online-dating","category-online-dating-tips"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How to Date Online: 6 Simple Steps to Success<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Wondering where to start? Here the basics of how to date online successfully, and have fun while you&#039;re doing it! 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