{"id":19865,"date":"2020-06-03T09:12:06","date_gmt":"2020-06-03T16:12:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19865"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:55:36","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:55:36","slug":"what-happens-when-you-fall-in-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/love\/what-happens-when-you-fall-in-love\/","title":{"rendered":"That Blissful Feeling: What Happens When You Fall In Love?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Many of you understand what happens to you emotionally when you fall in love,  but did you know how much biology there was too. When you google the definition of “Love” you get a pretty simple sentence, \u201can intense feeling of deep affection.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Probably an oversimplification of arguably the most important human emotion on earth, but since love can be so many different things for so many people, it’s probably good to keep it simple. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a dating and relationship coach, one of my main jobs is to understand all there is to know about romantic love inside and out to have an insight into what happens when you fall in love. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s the “inside” process I would like to examine. That’s because<\/span> when you fall in love <\/span><\/a>with someone your body is teeming with chemicals and hormones. The release of these chemicals and hormones doesn\u2019t happen all at once, rather it most often happens in stages, and when you understand those stages you just might have a little more control over your emotions and your actions.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love may be something most singles covet, but when it comes to your any one person\u2019s actions when they\u2019re in love, let\u2019s just say love does not always conquer all. Far too many people allow themselves to fall in love only to have the relationship disintegrate before their very eyes. Also, so many relationships fizzle out after three months or so and this fact can be directly attributed to the science of love.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

By having a better understanding of what\u2019s going on in your body, no matter how intensely you\u2019re feeling towards someone you will <\/span>still allow your mind to analyze the relationship<\/span><\/a> and make only the best choices for you and your life.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s begin the lesson by introducing you to Biological Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher<\/a>, an expert on human behavior. She says love is not an emotion at all, rather it’s “a motivation system, it’s a drive, it’s part of the reward system of the brain”.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And because of this, she explains our bodies have evolved three core brain systems <\/span>(I like to call them<\/span><\/i> phases<\/span><\/i>)<\/span><\/i> for mating and reproduction: <\/span>Lust, Attraction,<\/span><\/i> and <\/span>Attachment.<\/span><\/i>  And love can start with any of these phases. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Happens When You Fall in Love: The Key Phases<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phase 1: Lust<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes called the sex drive or the libido, this phase is characterized by a craving of sexual gratification and is primarily associated with the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen.  It’s the basis for all our initial sexual desires, and explains why there is so much physical chemistry in ‘the honeymoon phase’.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phase 2: Attraction<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In attraction, you become energized and focus much of your attention on the potential partner. It’s that amazing time when you\u2019re truly love-struck. Scientists believe that three main neurotransmitters are all involved in this stage:<\/span> adrenaline, dopamine, and serotonin.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n