{"id":19893,"date":"2020-06-17T10:43:16","date_gmt":"2020-06-17T17:43:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19893"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:54:42","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:54:42","slug":"what-to-text-a-girl-you-just-met","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-advice-men\/what-to-text-a-girl-you-just-met\/","title":{"rendered":"What To Text A Girl You Just Met And Want To Impress"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You may have just met Miss Right. She\u2019s beautiful, smart, kind, and, altogether, you couldn\u2019t get enough of her. So you want to keep talking to her, of course. But there are only so many hours in a night and, eventually, you two had to part ways, but not before you got her number. And now you\u2019re left with a very important question: what to text a girl you just met?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The last thing you want to do is have a relationship fizzle out before it even gets started just because of a few bad texts. Here are a few things to keep in mind before you hit that send button.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What to Text a Girl You Just Met That\u2019ll Get Her to Text Back<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Hey\u2019 is for horses<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, that\u2019s a clich\u00e9d line, but it\u2019s only a clich\u00e9 because it\u2019s true. \u2018Hey\u2019 is not a conversation starter. You can only text \u201cHey\u201d if you intend to follow it up with something else. You can\u2019t text \u2018Hey\u2019 if that\u2019s all you\u2019re going to send and expect her to respond.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Hey\u2019 means nothing. She\u2019ll say \u2018Hey\u2019 back and then you\u2019re still stuck in the same position that you were a moment earlier wondering what to text a girl you just met in a way that actually starts a conversation! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Time is of the essence<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The whole \u201cwait three days to call\u201d rule went out the window when texting was invented. If you text a girl three days after you met her, she\u2019s either going to be put out that you kept her waiting or she\u2019ll have totally forgotten who you are. Just text her when you get home from wherever you met her. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But then leave it there. If you met her at a bar at 1 a.m., text her goodnight and end the conversation. If you\u2019re trying to keep texting her at 4 a.m., she\u2019s going to feel that you\u2019re being needy. And also that you really don\u2019t respect that she needs sleep.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to relationship expert <\/span>Donna Barnes<\/span><\/a>, the appropriate texting hours are between 9 a.m. and 10 p.m. Anything outside of those hours, save for a goodnight text, can come across as \u201ccreepy, desperate, or disrespectful. Or all of the above.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask questions but save deeper ones for conversation <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s good to ask questions because it shows that you have an interest in actually getting to know her. She\u2019ll feel appreciated and it can set the tone for a relationship. If you\u2019re only texting short hey\u2019s and hi\u2019s or if you\u2019re texting in a more sexual tone, she\u2019ll know you\u2019re not looking for anything serious. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But also save the really in-depth questions for dates. Questions like asking about her family or what it was liking growing up are pretty deep and can take more time to compose an answer. Plus personal questions like that just require a more intimate setting. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Questions that are more quick conversation starters like, \u201cIf you could visit any place in the world right now, where would you go?\u201d are good for texting because they help start a back and forth, but they also only really require a one sentence answer.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spell things out<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This may seem like a no-brainer, but spelling things out instead of going for abbreviations is better for texting a girl you just met and are trying to show you\u2019re interested. \u201cTOY\u201d is a nice sentiment, but much less nice if she has to Google that it means \u201cthinking of you.\u201d Just text \u201cthinking of you.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we say \u2018spell things out, we also mean that you should spell out what you want or how you\u2019re feeling about her. Yes, you probably shouldn\u2019t text \u201cI love you\u201d right after you meet a girl, but texting her the same way you would text a friend isn\u2019t going to make her think you\u2019re interested in her in any other way besides a friend. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re into her, tell her you are and you want to get to know her better. Being straightforward is such a welcome surprise. She\u2019ll know where she stands with you and she\u2019ll appreciate that the ball is in her court now. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she\u2019s into you too, she\u2019ll be able to confidently feel like she can pursue a relationship without having to ask herself if you\u2019re really interested in her. Make it easy for her to decipher your interest!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t Fall into the Texting Trap <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s such a thing as the <\/span>texting trap<\/span><\/a>, and you should do all you can do avoid it. That phrase means that you\u2019ve become comfortable with just texting each other. No one feels compelled to go further than that because texting can become a very comfortable thing. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There’re no worries about awkward silences and being rejected through text stings but far less than if it happens in person. The danger is that the relationship never progresses because you\u2019re both hiding behind your phones.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So go the extra mile and put yourself out there. Ask her on a date. See her in person. Even ask to call her. Talking on the phone is far more intimate than texting and it shows that you\u2019re putting in the effort to move the relationship past texting. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you first meet a girl you\u2019re into and are sending your first text to her, it\u2019s important to set a tone and that tone should be honest, respectful, and fun. If you can text her in a way that makes her excited to see your messages, she\u2019s going to be all the more excited to see you face-to-face on a proper date.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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