{"id":19925,"date":"2020-07-03T08:30:16","date_gmt":"2020-07-03T15:30:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=19925"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:53:33","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:53:33","slug":"codependent-relationship-signs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-problems\/codependent-relationship-signs\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You In A Codependent Relationship: Signs To Look For"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When two people have a very close relationship, it\u2019s natural and healthy to depend on each other for certain things. However, if one of you loses sight of who you are in order to please <\/span>the other person, the relationship can become very unhealthy. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the most troubling <\/span>relationship issues is codependency<\/span><\/a>. In order to recognize the codependent relationship signs, you first need to understand what codependency is. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Working Definition of Codependency<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Codependency is defined as an unhealthy relationship where partners are overly reliant on one another.<\/span><\/i> As a result, a dysfunctional pattern of living and problem-solving develops between the two.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Questions to Ask: Codependent Relationship Signs<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Taking an honest look at your relationship is a good place to start. Answering these questions can help you to examine whether you might be involved in a codependent relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1.     <\/span>Are you afraid to express genuine feelings to your partner?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    If you notice that you often hold in your feelings for fear of how your partner will react, that\u2019s a sign the relationship is not as healthy as it could be.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1.     <\/span>If you do express feelings honestly, do you then feel guilty?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Perhaps you think \u201cI shouldn\u2019t have said anything… it just made matters worse\u201d after you\u2019re open with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      1.     <\/span>Is much of your day taken up with trying to do everything for your partner?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        If you\u2019re completing numerous tasks for your loved one that could easily be done by them, you might be caught up in a dysfunctional, codependent relationship. These chores are done at the detriment of your own responsibilities and life.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        1.     <\/span>Are you wary of asking for help from your partner?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

          If you can\u2019t seek assistance from your partner, it\u2019s very frustrating. In a healthy relationship, partners freely and regularly ask for a hand.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          1.     <\/span>When you do ask for help, how does your partner react?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

            Hopefully, your partner is open and willing to help you out whenever you ask. However, if you\u2019re codependent, you might not feel comfortable with asking or with your partner\u2019s response.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

            1.     <\/span>Do you find yourself feeling hurt or angry because your partner doesn\u2019t notice your needs?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

              Although you try to take care of everything, you\u2019re disappointed that your partner does not spontaneously see what\u2019s going on with you. You wait and wait for your partner to recognize your needs, but they rarely do.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

              1.     <\/span>Do you believe you can\u2019t have friendships independent of your relationship?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                Because you\u2019re busy doing chores and supporting your partner and they’re rarely satisfied with how you do things, you don\u2019t have time to maintain other friendships in your life.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                1.     <\/span>Do you have hobbies and activities you enjoy separately from your partner?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                  To <\/span>maintain a healthy individual identity<\/span><\/a>, it\u2019s important to cultivate your own hobbies and interests apart from the relationship. If you don\u2019t, it could be a sign of codependency.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  1.     <\/span>Do you try to control things to make yourself feel better?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                    Because you feel like you\u2019re walking on eggshells, you don\u2019t want to upset your partner. Therefore, you take steps to control other situations however you can.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                    1. Would you describe your partner as needy, emotionally distant, or unreliable?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                      These qualities often draw in partners who are seen as caretakers. Thus, the codependency begins.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                      1. Do you have a perfectionistic streak and try to get things exactly right? <\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                        After all, if you get things perfect, then maybe your partner will be happier, more satisfied, and less angry, disappointed, or annoyed with you. If you feel this way, your relationship is likely codependent.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                        1. Do you trust your partner?<\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                          If so, maybe your relationship is not codependent. If you wonder what you\u2019re partner\u2019s doing or suspect they\u2019re not telling you the truth about something, there could be codependency in your relationship. On the other hand, there may be just some trust issues you might want to resolve.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                          1. How is your health as it relates to stress? <\/b><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

                            Often, people involved in codependent relationships experience health issues that might be related to stress like asthma, allergies, out-of-control eating, chest pain, and skin disorders. Of course, if you experience any of these symptoms, it\u2019s wise to see your doctor.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                            The good news is that if you see these codependent relationship signs, you can begin changing your behavior to gain back a healthy sense of individuality.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                            Use these questions to guide you in correcting your behaviors and emotional expressions to build a loving and healthy relationship. If you feel you need help, seek out a professional trained in helping those with codependency. You\u2019ll feel better and your relationship will be stronger when you can relate to each other in more positive and balanced ways.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                            Sherry Gaba helps singles navigate the dating process to find the love of their lives. <\/i>Take her <\/i><\/a>quiz to find out if you\u2019re struggling with co-dependency, sign up for a <\/i>30-minute strategy session<\/i><\/a>, or learn more about how to get over a <\/i>break-up<\/i><\/a>. For more information visit <\/i>www.sherrygaba.com<\/i><\/a> or sign up today for Sherry\u2019s online<\/i> group coaching program<\/i><\/a>. Buy her books <\/i>Love Smacked<\/i><\/a>: How to Break the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to find Everlasting Love or <\/i>Infinite Recovery <\/i><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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