{"id":20096,"date":"2020-08-28T09:55:17","date_gmt":"2020-08-28T16:55:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20096"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:49:25","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:49:25","slug":"relationship-moods","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-stages\/relationship-moods\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Moods: How To Manage A Moody Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

All couples go through different relationship moods, some good and some not so great. The question is, how normal is the level of bad moods you\u2019re experiencing? Is it impacting your quality of life? And how does it make you feel?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your partner seems to have moods that change with the wind, it can feel quite overwhelming. The important thing is to know the difference between a bad day and something more serious. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are a few tips that can help you navigate your partner’s moods\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ways to Handle Relationship Moods<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t take it personally<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If they\u2019re just in a crappy mood, it probably has nothing to do with you or your behavior. But if your significant other is taking their mood out on you? That\u2019s a problem. You could be looking at a <\/span>relationship red flag<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But if they\u2019re managing to keep their grump to themselves and you can just tell that\u2019s what\u2019s going on, don\u2019t sweat it. Their mood is their responsibility to manage. You\u2019re not in control of their emotions. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can let them grump it out in peace, remembering it\u2019s not your job to fix their mood for them. Good partnerships involve letting the other person manage their own emotions. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Offer support <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

While relationship moods come in many different varieties, this is a move that should work for any of them. If you\u2019re having a bad day, your other half holding your hand through it helps, right? Exactly. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Offering support does not mean you can fix the problem for them, it just means being there for them. Ask if they need anything to help them destress or if they\u2019d like someone to listen while they vent. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

See if there\u2019s any way you can make their day a bit easier or if there\u2019s something they need to get done that you can help with. We bet they\u2019ll appreciate it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Give them some space<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes the best gift you can give your moody partner is the gift of space, whatever that looks like for the two of you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you live together? Maybe you can spend the evening in a separate room. Are you in constant contact with your partner throughout the day? Let them know you\u2019re giving them some time alone, and then don\u2019t text for a few hours. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meanwhile use this time to do something you enjoy or find calming. Whatever giving space looks like for you, try it out. It might help. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Talk through the relationship moods<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel your partner\u2019s mood swings are really affecting your relationship, it\u2019s important to discuss that with them. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Calmly explain how you feel and why you’re concerned. We advise doing this when you\u2019re both feeling calm, not when your partner is feeling low.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Asking your partner why this is happening so much might yield some surprising answers. And being open and honest with each other will bring you two closer. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

They may be unaware that you\u2019ve picked up on their mood, maybe they thought they were hiding it better. Or they might just be unaware in general and out of touch with their own inner emotional life. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bringing it to the table when you\u2019re both in a good place can be a helpful step in regaining closeness and working through it together. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be vulnerable<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s okay to be open and honest with your partner about how their moodiness is affecting you. It\u2019s possible that they\u2019re unaware of how they\u2019re coming across when they\u2019re in a bad mood, or they just haven\u2019t thought about it. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you haven\u2019t told them how their moods can make you feel before, now is the time to disclose that. It doesn\u2019t have to be in a blaming or shaming way, but sharing your feelings is an important part of a healthy partnership. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your moody partner isn\u2019t willing to listen, that could be a sign that it\u2019s best for you to move forward. Your happiness is just as important as theirs. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take care of yourself<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Learning to separate your well-being from your partner is a vital skill. If they\u2019re in a bad place? You can support them, without always being there with them. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, seeing your partner go through something or feel down is tough and it\u2019s only natural to feel for them. But if you can, remember to take the time to care for yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know that thing about oxygen masks on airplanes? You have to put your own on first before you can help anyone else. This applies to <\/span>self-care in a relationship<\/span><\/a> as well. You need to take care of your own needs in order to be of any use to your partner. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consider outside support<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Opening up to close friends or a therapist is another option available for you. It\u2019s important to know you have space to realize your own feelings and these options can really help with that. Especially if you\u2019re in a relationship mood that doesn\u2019t allow for it. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can vent freely to a friend and ask for advice or vent to a therapist and get a professional\u2019s opinion on how to proceed with a moody partner. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019d like, recommend therapy to your partner as well. But since you can only control your own actions, it\u2019s ok to go alone. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pursuing therapy doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re giving up on the relationship. It just means you\u2019re looking for tools to help your relationship thrive and grow, and that\u2019s a good thing. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Juggling relationship moods can feel draining. If you feel your partner\u2019s moods are impacting you and\/or the relationship too much, then speak to them about it. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

An understanding partner will hear you out and want to work through these issues with you. After all, a problem shared is a problem halved!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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