{"id":20100,"date":"2020-08-30T09:10:21","date_gmt":"2020-08-30T16:10:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20100"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:49:20","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:49:20","slug":"insecurities-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-problems\/insecurities-in-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Identify And Overcome Insecurities In Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In a relationship, both partners deserve to feel loved, respected, and comfortable. But when there are insecurities in relationships, these ideals are pretty tricky to achieve.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, it\u2019s natural to feel insecure from time to time. But there\u2019s a big difference between sometimes feeling less than and being made to feel inadequate by your partner or relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In order for you to mend the insecurities in your relationships, you first need to spot them. So here\u2019s our advice on how to identify and mend them.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>4 Signs of Insecurities in Relationships<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>Fear of losing your mate<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One sign that you&#8217;re feeling<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">insecurities in relationships is the constant fear of losing your mate. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you often worry that your partner is more interested in other people, even though they assure you they\u2019re not? Feeling this way can be stressful and make you act out.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So how do you tackle this fear? By practicing trust. Regularly sit down and have an open conversation with your partner about how you\u2019re feeling. Be honest and explain to them your insecurities and expectations.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A supportive, caring partner should respond positively to this. Discuss the root of fear that they\u2019ll leave you and what you can do, together and apart, to work on this.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&#8217;re truly concerned that you&#8217;ll not be able to trust your mate, then perhaps the issue is not your insecurities in relationships. Maybe this relationship is simply not the correct path for you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If so, move forward with the people who do support and love you! A supportive network is key to a happier life.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>Insecurities in relationships equal jealousy<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Studies show that there&#8217;s a certain level of<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.cosmopolitan.com\/uk\/love-sex\/relationships\/a24437388\/insecure-in-relationship\/\"> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">jealousy in a relationship<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that is considered healthy. After all, you&#8217;re in a committed relationship. Of course, you don\u2019t want someone else breaking what you\u2019ve built together.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, there\u2019s a point where healthy jealousy turns into consuming insecurity. Common signs of jealousy include:<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spying on your mate<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br>\n<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Constantly questioning your partner\u2019s whereabouts<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br>\n<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Controlling behavior, such as demanding friendships to be ended<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br>\n<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Getting clingy with your mate<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br>\n<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pettiness, such as&nbsp; flirting with someone else just to make your partner jealous<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While acting on this sneaky emotion seems entirely justified in the moment, it\u2019s not worth ruining a great relationship over. Particularly if it&#8217;s based on speculation.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Check in with each other regularly to discuss your relationship&#8217;s health. That way if there\u2019s something going on that would cause your partner to stray, you\u2019ll be the first to know.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, you can only control your behavior. Monitoring their behavior won&#8217;t make your relationship stronger, it\u2019ll only make your insecurities worse.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spend time alone together as a couple. <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/date-ideas\/cheap-date-night-ideas\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Go on a date night<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or romantic getaway. Spending quality time together will build the respect you have for each other and your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>The need for constant reassurance<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Am I attractive? Do you love me? Do you really want to be with me? Are you being faithful? Why do you like me anyway? These are all questions that are spurred on by insecurities.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&#8217;re insecure with yourself you may find you&#8217;re constantly requesting reassurance from your partner for validation. While this may feel like a natural response to how you&#8217;re feeling, in the long run, it can have negative consequences for you and your relationship.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Our advice? Love yourself first. Sure, it sounds cringy, but it\u2019s really true. Before you commit to someone you deserve to realize how wonderful you are alone. Your partner can&#8217;t take away your insecurities, only you can.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re always relying on someone else to tell you how great you are, it can drain them and you. Plus, what if they\u2019re not there when you need an extra pep talk?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Instead, focus your energy on treating yourself. Take yourself on dates. Create goals that revolve around you, independent from your other half.&nbsp; Work on ways to appreciate your beautiful self! <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/love-advice\/what-is-self-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Self-care is really important<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It even makes you a better partner!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>You always avoid confrontation<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you avoid confrontation like the plague? Even when it\u2019s warranted? This could be because you fear that your partner will leave at the slightest sign of opposition.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to pursue a healthy relationship, it&#8217;s vital that you practice honest communication. This means getting uncomfortable topics out in the open and sharing your thoughts and feelings with one another.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It may feel awkward, even scary. But we promise it\u2019ll make you stronger as a couple and more resilient as an individual. You know what they say, what doesn\u2019t kill you makes you stronger!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Overcoming insecurities in relationships can be challenging. But it\u2019s also rewarding. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all enter relationships with some sort of baggage and if these insecurities are yours, then tackling them is your battle! You have all the tools necessary to become a more secure and happier individual. You got this!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A great relationship starts with loving yourself!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":212,"featured_media":20101,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[894,898],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20100","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationships","category-relationship-problems"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How To Identify And Overcome Insecurities In Relationships<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Are you worried that your personal insecurities are impacting your relationships? 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