{"id":20131,"date":"2020-09-16T09:39:16","date_gmt":"2020-09-16T16:39:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20131"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:48:11","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:48:11","slug":"emotionally-unavailable-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-problems\/emotionally-unavailable-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Recognizing The Signs Of An Emotionally Unavailable Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some people find it more challenging than others to emotionally connect with another person or feel vulnerable. And that\u2019s ok! We all have some kind of emotional baggage. But it can often make maintaining a happy relationship tricky.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Both men and women can be an emotionally unavailable partner, and it can happen for many reasons. Often it\u2019s to do with a past relationship or experience. For others, emotional unavailability can be a situational factor, such as career problems, financial stress, or their health.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever is causing it, it\u2019s important to know the signs of emotional unavailability so you can check-in with your partner and manage your expectations. So here\u2019s our advice when you feel your other half is struggling&#8230;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Partner<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spotting the signs of emotional unavailability early in a dating relationship can be really helpful. While each person is different, these issues cropping up can be <a href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/relationship-problems\/5-relationship-red-flags-and-what-to-do-about-them\/\">relationship red flags<\/a> to look out for.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Need for control<\/strong>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; <\/span><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your partner wants to control the relationship. They don\u2019t compromise or show any flexibility in adjusting to your schedule or your priorities. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They rarely ask for your input when planning a group dinner party or a romantic holiday, and they make you feel like you\u2019ll mess up their plans if you have a say.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &nbsp; &nbsp;<strong> &nbsp; <\/strong><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Lack of compassion&nbsp;<\/strong> &nbsp; &nbsp; <\/span><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A lack of compassion for other people can be a danger sign. Maybe they use teasing and bullying behavior or become demanding when interacting with others they see as inferior. Or perhaps you notice that they struggle to show empathy.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &nbsp;<strong> &nbsp; &nbsp; <\/strong><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Secretive behaviors&nbsp; &nbsp;<\/strong> <\/span><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">f your crush is secretive about their past and other relationships it could also be a cause for concern. Sure, hearing someone\u2019s whole life-story probably isn\u2019t a dream date. But if you feel after a few dates that you don\u2019t actually know much about them, then maybe they\u2019re hiding something.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>How to approach an emotionally unavailable partner&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In cases of situational emotional unavailability, such as a health issue or a problem at work, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/relationship-advice\/good-communication-in-relationships\/\">communicating with your partner is key<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let them know that you\u2019re feeling worried, but also disconnected from the relationship and them. Make sure to do this calmly so they don\u2019t feel attacked. Rehearsing what you want to say can be helpful when you&#8217;re feeling nervous.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If talking to the person doesn\u2019t trigger a change or willingness to have an honest discussion, their emotional unavailability may be a sign of a deeper issue. In these situations, maybe suggest seeking professional help.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember, for most people fearing vulnerability isn\u2019t something they do intentionally to hurt those around them. It\u2019s usually a coping mechanism that they\u2019ve learned to survive. And working through it alone can feel daunting.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Advising them to visit a counselor means they\u2019re with an experienced professional who has the tools needed for them to heal past wounds. It also takes some of the pressure away from you and your relationship. This will likely be a relief for both of you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Partners in these situations often don\u2019t realize the discomfort and emotional pain they\u2019re causing. Remember the aim here is to give perspective and let them know how you\u2019re feeling too. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make sure that they know that you\u2019re not blaming them for going through something difficult, but rather are offering a helping hand. Patience is important.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><b>And if they don\u2019t respond to your efforts?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over time, if your emotionally unavailable partner refuses to accept the issue, change, or seek help, then it could be time to reassess the relationship. B<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">eing in a relationship with someone who is always emotionally distant can&nbsp; become extremely draining if they&#8217;re not willing to work on it.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, it\u2019s natural to want to support your partner if they\u2019re going through something tough. But making them better isn\u2019t your responsibility. It also isn\u2019t always effective. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After communicating your worries and recommendations, if they aren&#8217;t taking your concerns seriously, it could be time to say goodbye.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s essential to consider your own mental health and well-being. Putting yourself first doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t love your partner. It just means you love and respect yourself too. And loving yourself is the recipe for a happy, fulfilled life!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><i>Sherry Gaba helps singles navigate the dating process to find the love of their lives. If you need support, j<\/i><i>oin her&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/soberful.com\/relationships\/\">Breaking Free from Obsessive Love online course here<\/a><\/i><i>. Or&nbsp;<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/wakeuprecovery.com\/codependency-quiz\/\"><i>take her&nbsp;<\/i><\/a><i>quiz to find out if you\u2019re struggling with co-dependency, sign up for a&nbsp;<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/u6763182.ct.sendgrid.net\/wf\/click?upn=9rZoFp-2B-2FACZgvhD0qLxklyLZfZoqMCJ9VyDnzwXNewTaql-2Fc-2BCV0m8YBE7KucwqyB8z1odZYzCd3FOaQ5RMPijrE9DCIGB2xd81B-2FJx3J7FZinK3ZMIK8TiApBCsfKeeu3hpAFzbsx3J9ovT-2BMLWmSPjEMhmS6TJfq5-2Ba-2BpSnHM-3D_izJavaOg5-2FrHZpqh4RKhjT-2FW0yvWSy-2BZnj0kV-2B0juESe9oSBe-2FKMF5Pjs1b09cm7Mks-2FRhDDoGNUrcKCtHyuFnqUeViVJvkFK0gDyyQJpSmlxQG4GxY-2FtennrPjoVoTvmEZaToZHIclDlgKL-2FueJBO8L-2FFTUZ8UHf9IeupwVjUuovkoUUciO-2Fph7WwORthj92DMzbvJWpiJts2hPEwx5aJyvhLoQgCe5J4vIMxD-2BfKhW2zzyJgWJRqP-2F4EIKWBUK2Z3JEVPswaTd8QCGUH2ILw-3D-3D\"><i>30-minute strategy session<\/i><\/a><i>, or learn more about how to get over a&nbsp;<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/u6763182.ct.sendgrid.net\/wf\/click?upn=9rZoFp-2B-2FACZgvhD0qLxkl3YfODXDDcO1byTXplt4bNdiD5AB9BwZPh3r7LRUnh4smsLDPmB5XYwOTZ-2FD7yVtDw-3D-3D_izJavaOg5-2FrHZpqh4RKhjT-2FW0yvWSy-2BZnj0kV-2B0juESe9oSBe-2FKMF5Pjs1b09cm7E3WB5kiK4RgR5Wxl3Xyoh4bhXxAMyC7SWsBTsVsb8AHNxLMhEtCdbbJdMm4TreTYlmPkQZdcJ7kXuN5vOMH-2BMbTHwAqOEGZc6nL2U19L6E9UITupk0llvyP9RgIALQrlx3plUsxzewWPq8dBvR-2BNKGq2tPTeg6AppdQc6QMRb8O71MekZngXCBfVZhO-2FBq3jyJgg80RgvHeMIlJZeSEiZA-3D-3D\"><i>break-up<\/i><\/a><i>. For more information visit&nbsp;<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/u6763182.ct.sendgrid.net\/wf\/click?upn=-2FIQcnM36UjadL4LdS3XoqzQOSQbpuMxSJL9zXjrYax-2F1HHR6iBjamIPN5yEXjazk_izJavaOg5-2FrHZpqh4RKhjT-2FW0yvWSy-2BZnj0kV-2B0juESe9oSBe-2FKMF5Pjs1b09cm7LzgF2Rf3F93qM5p1FTuJR809ncgvarrNsjLOa2kPQt-2BXCjicMOPsAOLKecysbTVuKvGP-2FsfpGDxoenp8mTI5umEopOvOODbakQ5QJp60iC6fHLqjRk8Mde39kjaKFbOpWblnHNatgu22pXSkAst2qDrXEyXabFDXbVT6x-2FwiHTPGQQVU3J84VlEdB-2FOwTHA84FGP1ixfVFqCimo-2BuQ0UZA-3D-3D\"><i>www.sherrygaba.com<\/i><\/a><i>&nbsp;or sign up today for Sherry\u2019s online<\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/wakeuprecovery.com\/become-a-member-co\/\"><i>&nbsp;group coaching program<\/i><\/a><i>. 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