{"id":20132,"date":"2020-09-18T08:38:03","date_gmt":"2020-09-18T15:38:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20132"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:48:05","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:48:05","slug":"how-to-have-phone-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/how-to-have-phone-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Have Phone Sex Without It Getting Awkward"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Now you might be wondering, how to have phone sex without it getting awkward? How do you move from <\/span>saying sexy things over text<\/span><\/a> to saying sexy things aloud? How do you turn a solo activity into one that involves another person? And what happens when you do? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before you get too in your head, know that phone sex can seem intimidating, but it doesn\u2019t have to be. And, if all goes well, you might even have a great time trying it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Covering the Basics: How to Have Phone Sex<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some ways to prepare yourself and your partner for a phone sex session, and methods for leading into it in a way that\u2019s comfortable for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dress the part<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before we get started, think about your setting. Dressing up for your phone sex session can help you get in the mood. Even though your partner can\u2019t see you, it helps you get in the mood for the sexy talk ahead. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take the time to put on something that puts you in the mindset for what\u2019s to come. This can mean slipping into your most sultry pair of underwear or even getting extra comfortable in sweats. It\u2019s up to you and what makes things feel right in your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get in the mindset<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The key to having good phone sex is an open mind grounded in fantasy. You can talk about things you\u2019ve been dreaming about, because hey, you\u2019re just talking, right?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Staying relaxed is also important. It\u2019s normal to be nervous about trying anything new. Remember the person on the other end of the line wants to hear what you have to say.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gauge your partner\u2019s interest<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sending nudes, sexting, and flirting over text are all good ways to gauge your partner\u2019s interest in having phone sex and prepping you both for what\u2019s ahead. These things act kind of like foreplay, in that you\u2019re not going from zero to 100; after setting the stage with a sexy text or photo, you can ask them if they\u2019d be interested in having phone sex.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Call your partner<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or you could start by calling them and take things from there. You can steer the conversation toward phone sex by first asking about their surroundings (\u201cWhere are you right now?\u201d). That way, you can also confirm that it\u2019s a good time for them to talk. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then you can adjust the conversation by asking questions about how they look and feel (\u201cWhat are you wearing?\u201d, \u201cAre you in bed right now?\u201d, \u201cI wish I was there with you\u201d etc). So much of how to have phone sex is describing things, so starting out simply is a good way to begin.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Have Phone Sex: What to Say?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost, know that you don\u2019t have to adopt some kind of alternate sex personality to have phone sex. You can – phone sex is a good way to play with sex, shame, and kink in a way that is very safe and fun – but there\u2019s no pressure to change the usual sexual dynamic you have with your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For instance, if you tend to be more submissive, you can ask them to give you instructions; vice versa if you\u2019re usually dominant. If you have a more romantic rapport, you don\u2019t need to start talking dirty if you\u2019re not into it. Like any other skill,<\/span> dirty talk can be learned<\/span><\/a>, practiced, and perfected. We\u2019ve rounded up some great tips to help.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Describe what\u2019s happening<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Describing what you want is the key when it comes to how to have phone sex. Talk about what you\u2019re wearing, what you look like, what you smell like, and exactly how you\u2019re touching yourself. Be detailed about it and really get into the moment. Once you\u2019ve begun, there\u2019s no need to be shy. Be as vocal as you want to be. No one can see or hear you other than your partner. This is all about the two of you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dip into your \u2018fantasy bank\u2019<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Speaking of what-ifs, phone sex is also a wonderful time to break out the fantasy bank. You can describe stuff that turns you on but that maybe you wouldn\u2019t want to do in real life. Some ideas: sex in public like in a park or a library. Or sex in a car, an airplane, or a fancy-restaurant bathroom. In addition to settings, you can describe sexual scenarios, like role-play, group sex, or BDSM.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Give instructions<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or ask your partner to tell you what to do. Dictating how, where, and when they can touch themselves is a way to make things interactive for both of you. It also just helps with the flow of the conversation and introduces a dominant\/submissive dynamic that can be fun for both of you.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if this still sounds complicated? <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some people will find themselves unable to participate in dirty talk or phone sex, period, and that\u2019s okay. But, if you\u2019re really into figuring out how to have phone sex, there are easier ways to get into it that don\u2019t involve waxing poetic about your genitals.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just ask them to listen<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe you\u2019re not ready to talk just yet but still want to try phone sex. If you\u2019re really into trying this with your partner, ask if they would like to listen to you masturbate. This is a great way to introduce your partner to the sensuality phone sex can bring to a relationship, without the pressure of performance on their end.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Defer to your partner completely<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hand things over to them. Ask them what they want to do! Sometimes all it takes is a little push in the right direction to get your creativity flowing.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if I\u2019m Not Feeling It?<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The end goal of phone sex is getting off (for everyone involved), but it\u2019s also important to know your own boundaries and feeling comfortable stating them with your partner. For instance, if you\u2019re describing fantasies, you should be clear to your partner that they\u2019re for phone sex only, if that\u2019s the case.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if, all of a sudden, your partner starts saying things that make you uncomfortable or calling you names you don\u2019t like? If you still want to move forward, <\/span>be clear about it without shutting things down<\/span><\/a>. It\u2019s okay to call for a \u2018detour\u2019 to change the direction without stopping in your tracks. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Agree that either one of you can say, \u2018Not working, let\u2019s detour\u2019, or choose your way to say this kindly to each other. In this, both parties recognize that turn-offs aren\u2019t necessarily personality defects, but rather personal preferences. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And if you feel like things are going too far or your partner won\u2019t stop doing something you\u2019ve asked them not to, you can always hang up. Like any kind of intimacy, you should make sure that phone sex is consensual and you feel safe and trust your partner.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Other Things to Think About<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your voice<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re not giving a work presentation or trying to deliver information, so there\u2019s really no need to speak loudly or quickly. If it feels natural to you, drop the level of your voice and speak more slowly. The sound of breathing, not necessarily heavy, but noticeable, can be very erotic and make it clear to your partner that you\u2019re turned on.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your language<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Calling your bits and pieces by their scientific name is all well and good, but let\u2019s get real – it isn\u2019t very sexy. There\u2019s nothing wrong with dirty talk, it\u2019s a huge part of how to have phone sex successfully.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Laughing<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to laugh! Sex can be awkward, especially on the phone. Being silly with one another is a sure sign of a good relationship, so let it flow. You can always bring it back around to the naughty bits once you\u2019ve let out the guffaws.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Final Thoughts…<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The bottom line of any good phone sex session is an open mind and going in without expectations. You may have the hottest, sexiest experience ever! Or you and your partner may end up in tears of laughter. Either way, you\u2019ve communicated and tried something new together and figured out if it\u2019s a situation you want to try again or pass on.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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