{"id":20195,"date":"2020-10-05T09:05:53","date_gmt":"2020-10-05T16:05:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20195"},"modified":"2021-05-31T07:40:44","modified_gmt":"2021-05-31T14:40:44","slug":"dating-in-your-20s","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/dating-advice\/dating-in-your-20s\/","title":{"rendered":"What It\u2019s Really Like Dating In Your 20s And How To Do It Better"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When you read the words \u201cdating in your 20s\u201d what comes to mind? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe it\u2019s late-night drunk texts. Or is it that person you dated who was scared of commitment? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

While most of our minds may immediately go to something negative, that\u2019s not the way it has to be. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are many ways to improve the typical 20-something dating scenarios. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some common scenarios that happen when you’re dating in your 20s and our advice on how to handle them better.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Succeed at Dating in Your 20s<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Scenario: Things are moving too quickly<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you ever feel like you’ve just lived through an entire relationship with someone in three weeks? You\u2019re not alone. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since the introduction of dating apps, it often feels like relationships are in fast-forward mode.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, you may match with someone on Thursday. Go out with them on Friday and spend the weekend in their bedroom. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But then, on Sunday morning you discover that they don\u2019t like pancakes. So, on Monday you break up. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I mean, your S.O. has to share your breakfast opinions, right? No, not necessarily.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to do it better<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are pros and cons to this rapid-fire way of dating in your 20s. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

On one hand, you sort through people faster. This may be more efficient if you\u2019re dating to find \u201cthe one\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, you may be writing people off before you get to know them properly. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

After all, it\u2019s easy to be turned off by someone\u2019s messy apartment. It\u2019s not so easy when you\u2019ve discovered what makes them special. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you tend to be a speedster when it comes to romance, try taking things slower than normal. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You may find that you like people better when you\u2019re not immediately putting them on the fast-track to be your next significant other. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or, you may find that you put up with less BS when you haven\u2019t already committed to someone in your mind. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Scenario: You’re in a \u201csituationship\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you read that first paragraph and thought, \u201cwhat do you mean things progress fast? I\u2019ve been in limbo with the same guy for the last year\u201d. You\u2019re also not alone. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It seems like many people in their 20s find it tricky to define their relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This can lead to a \u201csituationship\u201d and they can be super stressful.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One week you\u2019re feeling lovestruck and bubbly. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the next you\u2019re wondering if your partner, who’s not quite your partner, is sleeping with their co-worker. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You worry if it’s OK for you to say something to them. I mean, technically you\u2019re both still single. But inside, you feel hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sounds complicated, right? Unfortunately, it\u2019s not uncommon.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to do it better<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

First off, don\u2019t be too hard on yourself if you relate this scenario. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, take some time to ask yourself what you want from this person. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you see a happy future with them? Or are you only hung up on them because you feel like you <\/span>should<\/span><\/i> be in a relationship? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then talk to them about what you want. Maybe they also want to set some boundaries.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And if having this kind of adult conversation scares them away, they probably weren\u2019t the right connection for you anyway. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moving forward without them means you can pursue more fulfilling connections instead. Sometimes <\/span>breaking up is the best thing to do<\/span><\/a>!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Scenario: You feel like the odd-one-out <\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s no right way to date in your 20s. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many will tell you that your 20s are for finding yourself. Others will swear by marrying their high school sweetheart and buying a home at 25. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There may be a point where you feel like all your friends are in relationships and you\u2019re as single as a dollar bill. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If this happens, don\u2019t worry.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to do it better<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Social media makes it easier than ever to feel like we\u2019re falling behind our friends. But this isn\u2019t the case.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try to remember that everyone forges their own path. What\u2019s right for your bestie from middle school may not be right for you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s better to succeed in feeling secure with yourself than to jump into a relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Focus on other aspects of your life. Appreciate your career, friends, or traveling instead of over-analyzing your dating life. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Scenario: You feel heartbroken<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whether you\u2019ve been ghosted or let go by your college sweetheart, there may be times in your 20s when you feel heartbroken.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every breakup is different, but they\u2019re rarely easy.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to do it better<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember that this heartbreak won\u2019t last forever. One day you\u2019ll feel better and you\u2019ll learn from this relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remind yourself that you\u2019re young and have so much life ahead of you. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avoid throwing yourself into a new relationship ASAP. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, invest in something that benefits your independence. <\/span>Learn to nurture yourself<\/span><\/a> instead of a partner! You\u2019re worth it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dating in your 20s can feel like a minefield. But it can also feel like a playground! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Concentrate on who and what makes you feel good. Pursue your dreams, learn from your mistakes, and take chances! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

By focusing on the things that make you happy, you\u2019ll create a future that you\u2019ll be proud of.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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