{"id":20273,"date":"2020-11-05T09:59:21","date_gmt":"2020-11-05T17:59:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datemixstaging.wpengine.com\/?p=20273"},"modified":"2024-03-20T06:16:42","modified_gmt":"2024-03-20T13:16:42","slug":"how-to-flirt-with-your-crush","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.zoosk.com\/date-mix\/single-life\/flirting\/how-to-flirt-with-your-crush\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Flirt With Your Crush Without Being Too Obvious"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When done right, flirting is fun. While being straightforward can be great in relationships, part of the <\/span>allure of flirting<\/span><\/a> is that it\u2019s not always clear what the other\u2019s intentions are, which makes things a bit exciting and mysterious. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, there\u2019s a right way how to flirt with your crush that doesn\u2019t come on too strong, and doesn\u2019t cross any boundaries in case you\u2019re not sure if they\u2019re interested and\/or single. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s How to Flirt with Your Crush The Right Way<\/b><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Make eye contact<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    I know, I know, you\u2019ve heard this one before, right? Well, that\u2019s because it works. Eye contact leaves an impression, whether you\u2019re trying to ace an interview or make your crush feel butterflies. Make sure when you\u2019re talking to your crush, you look them in the eyes. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Or, if you\u2019re just passing your crush in the hallway, make eye contact and do a subtle smile. If they like you, they\u2019ll think you\u2019re into them. If they\u2019re not thinking that way, they\u2019ll just think you\u2019re confident and kind, which is never a bad vibe to give off. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    1. Be extra nice to them (and also, to everyone)<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      Wanna know how to flirt with your crush without everyone in your class\/office\/apartment complex noticing that you\u2019re crushin\u2019 from a mile away? Be super friendly and nice to your crush, but then go a step further and simply be that friendly and nice to everyone. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Even if your crush doesn\u2019t ask you out, someone else probably will. And if your crush does ask you out, they\u2019ll do it because they think you\u2019re simply a sweetheart. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      1. Give a \u201cdad compliment\u201d<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        You can definitely compliment your crush if you have the confidence, but do it in a way that doesn\u2019t seem too aggressive or sexual in nature. I like to call this the \u201cdad compliment.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        An example could be, \u201cDid you get your haircut? It looks nice.\u201d Or, \u201ccool shoes.\u201d Definitely don\u2019t use the words \u201chandsome,\u201d \u201csexy,\u201d or \u201chot.\u201d Those are not subtle. Dad compliments will leave your crush wondering if you\u2019re into them, or if you\u2019re just being nice. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Of course, you can also simply compliment your crush on things you actually want to compliment them on, especially if it leads to a further conversation. For example, \u201cI love your band tee. Did you see them at The Trocadero last summer?\u201d Or, \u201cYou drive a Jeep too? Love the way you customized it.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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        1. Ask for help in a way that strokes your crush\u2019s ego<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

          You may know this already, but asking someone for their help actually makes them like you more. This \u201c<\/span>Ben Franklin effect<\/span><\/a>\u201d works especially well if you ask your crush for help with something that\u2019ll stroke their ego. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          For example,<\/span> if you have a crush on a guy<\/span><\/a>, try asking him for help with some manly tasks like carrying something heavy. If you have a crush on a woman who\u2019s a self-proclaimed foodie, ask her for restaurant recommendations (just make sure she knows it\u2019s not for a date). <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Of course, depending on the circumstance, you\u2019ll want to ask for a favor that makes sense in the context. If you work with your crush, don\u2019t ask them to help you with something back at your apartment. Find something in the office to ask for their help with, or maybe just ask for advice so it can be tackled wherever you are. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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          1. Mimic their movements (or their drink order)<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

            Another psychological-proven tip for how to flirt with your crush? People like people that remind them of themselves. Don\u2019t show up to class wearing the same shirt as your crush, but try mimicking their movements or speech style.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

            If you\u2019re at the bar, try ordering the same thing as your crush (within reason, of course). Suddenly, you both have something in common to talk about, and your crush will probably subconsciously think you\u2019re cooler because you like the same drink that they do. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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            1. Invite them with you vs. inviting them out on a date<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

              Asking someone on a date isn\u2019t subtle. In fact, this is probably the most obvious tip of the list, but hear me out. If you\u2019re trying to take the next step with your crush without full-on asking them on a date, try inviting them along with you instead. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

              For example, let\u2019s say you\u2019re going to check out that new smoothie shop after class, or you\u2019re headed to happy hour with friends post-work. Try casually mentioning it and inviting your crush along, knowing you\u2019ll be going regardless, even if they can\u2019t join. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

              It\u2019s a low-pressure way to signify to your crush that you\u2019re interested in getting to know them without making it completely clear if you like them as more than a friend. Of course, if they say no and don\u2019t seem too keen on being invited again, respect their boundary and don\u2019t continue inviting them along. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

              If you want to flex your flirting muscles, try these tips to send a signal while keeping it subtle. Puts you in the win-win situation of getting to suss out the situation without too much pressure. Good luck out there! <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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